Lorraine |
Where first/birth/natural/real mothers share news & opinions. And vent.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Does My Natural Mother Ever Think of Me?
Friday, July 29, 2011
Corruption in Foreign Adoptions: China, Again
Jane |
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Mothers of stolen babies demand more than an apology
More on the Catholic apology in Australia: women whose babies were taken and given to others want more than an apology, they want justice. But a few days later, Perth's Catholic Archbishop Barry Hickey told a television interviewer in Australia on The Morning Show he knew of little evidence of such practices.
Monday, July 25, 2011
Catholic church apologizes for forced adoptions in Australia
Lorraine |
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Adoptees ask: "Why Was I Given Away?"
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Utah rules against natural father. Again. And again. Adoption is big business there.
Nothing to smile about today |
a) The Utah attitude towards single parents is "Grab and Go," as in, We'll grab the baby from any state and then make it nearly impossible for the natural parent--either one--to get the child back, even mere minutes after the papers are signed.
Monday, July 18, 2011
Catelynn & Tyler's open adoption will stay open; for other first mothers, not so much
Lorraine |
Before we leave Catelynn and Tyler, America's most celebrated birth/first parents, it's obvious that their decision to relinquish their
Saturday, July 16, 2011
(Pro) Adoption Special: Dr. Drew encourages teen moms to give up their babies
Jane |
Friday, July 15, 2011
PS: To the Terri Vanech story
No, we did not find her mother yet.
I posted her guest post (see below, or Adoptee learns to live out loud by finding herself) late last night but forgot to add how Terri and I became acquainted. After reading another story of hers about her growing need to find her biological parents, I wrote about her in Adopted People Are Not Allowed Ancestry Because It Might Upset Somebody. She found the blog, contacted me, and thus began a friendship. She was born in 1966, the same year as my daughter, whom most of you know committed suicide. The fact that Terri was the same age as my daughter added a special poignancy to our friendship.
I put her in touch with a searcher friend, also Jennifer, who tried, but she could not find the "Jennifer" she was looking for. Later later, Terri wrote a piece for Newsday that I put up as a permanent page: Looking for my birth mother.
--lorraine
I posted her guest post (see below, or Adoptee learns to live out loud by finding herself) late last night but forgot to add how Terri and I became acquainted. After reading another story of hers about her growing need to find her biological parents, I wrote about her in Adopted People Are Not Allowed Ancestry Because It Might Upset Somebody. She found the blog, contacted me, and thus began a friendship. She was born in 1966, the same year as my daughter, whom most of you know committed suicide. The fact that Terri was the same age as my daughter added a special poignancy to our friendship.
I put her in touch with a searcher friend, also Jennifer, who tried, but she could not find the "Jennifer" she was looking for. Later later, Terri wrote a piece for Newsday that I put up as a permanent page: Looking for my birth mother.
--lorraine
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Guest Post: Adoptee learns to live out loud by finding herself
Terri S. Vanech |
By Terri S. Vanech
The dutifully recorded D'Nealian cursive words in the baptismal registry at Christ Church in Tarrytown, NY, are among the most beautiful things I've ever seen: No. 34: Jennifer Elaine Clark.
Monday, July 11, 2011
President Obama's mother making an adoption plan? Unthinkable.
President Obama |
Friday, July 8, 2011
Is there a universal right to know one's heritage? Part 2
Lorraine |
Little children--before they know they are not supposed to ask--all ask the question about the beginning of their lives. How did I get here? Where did I
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
The universal need to know who you are
Lorraine |
A couple will have four children: the first was conceived naturally; the second with donor sperm; two are in the process of being adopted. "All four of our children are 100 percent in our family tree....The genetic connection has never mattered." (Emphasis added.)
Sunday, July 3, 2011
Unalienable rights of parents
“The right of parents to direct the upbringing of their children is among the ‘unalienable rights’ with which the Declaration of Independence proclaims all men … are endowed by their creator.” Justice Anton Scalia
A powerful statement given legal authority in a series of Supreme Court decisions holding that the United States Constitution protects “the fundamental liberty interest of natural parents in the care, custody, and management of their child.”
Nonetheless, states treat these basic of rights as expendable, allowing mothers to sign irrevocable consents to adoption within minutes of birth, or, even worse, to sign consents before birth with only a short revocation time. Fathers have even less protection. Unless they can navigate complicated legal procedures before the birth of their child, they may not even have the opportunity to contest the adoption. Once children are adopted, most states deny them the right to know who their natural parents are.
On this Fourth of July, as we enjoy our hot dogs and beer and fireworks, let’s dedicate ourselves to repealing these unjust laws.
Friday, July 1, 2011
RHODE ISLAND ADOPTEES CAN CELEBRATE!
A CLEAN BILL--no vetoes--has been signed by the governor today and now all those adopted on Rhode Island can get their original birth certificates at 25. Let's toast everyone who worked on this bill tonight! Thanks Paul, and the rest of you.
When adoptees change their names back to their birth names
Jane |
ADOPTED SON'S NAME CHANGE CUTS REAL DAD TO THE QUICK
“DEAR ABBY: My wife had an unhappy five-year marriage to her high school boyfriend. They divorced when their son, "Noah," was 20 months old. Then she met me, and we have been married for 34 happy years.
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