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Sunday, September 29, 2013
Has the LDS church changed its policies on adoption?
Friday, September 27, 2013
Dusten Brown: A Father's final words to his daughter
Veronica with her father, Dusten Brown |
Dusten Brown: A father's parting words to his daughter
Veronica with her father, Dusten Brown |
Dusten Brown: A Father's final words to his daughter
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
Baby Veronica: Now the media bias for the Capobiancos begins
Lorraine |
"Why should the rights of the tribe trump the rights of the adoptive parents?
"What gives the tribe ownership of a child whose father has given up his parental rights and whose mother has decided that adoption is in her best interests?
"Why should the rights of the tribe force a woman to raise a child she may not be capable of raising — in which case, no one in the tribe could complain — rather than allowing the child to be placed with a loving family?
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
Reflections on Veronica Brown and being raised in a family different from your own
Veronica Brown yesterday |
From new reports we learned that Dusten Brown said goodbye to Veronica at Jack Brown House, the tribal headquarters where they have been living in Tahlequah. As Brown and his wife, Robin, watched from a window, a Cherokee County sheriff's deputy and a Cherokee Nation marshal led Veronica to the nearby marshal's building, where the handover occurred about 7:30 p.m.
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Is LDS Family Services getting out of the adoption business?
Lorraine |
The source, who says that this was confirmed by a friend who is a social worker for LDS Family Services, says this had been rumored to be in the works for about two years. While there is likely to be no official reason given by the LDS church as to why it is getting out of the adoption business, "but within the rank and file workers, it is thought to be because of the pending lawsuits against LDSFS in relation to father's rights, as well as the "gay adoption issue."
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Get them while you can: Adoption files in Syracuse
Robert Lahm and the adoption files in his basement |
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
'Re-Homing': Dumping unwanted adopted kids
Nicole Eason "Big Momma" |
Monday, September 16, 2013
The Vietnam legacy of 'fatherless' children
Lorraine |
Whoa! This guy gets it, I thought. The piece--on the front page no less--tells us that Mr. Pettitt, 63, had a relationship with a woman when he was 19 and in Vietnam.Though he had not "meant" for her to get pregnant, she did. He returned home to New York, got a job as a truck driver, and raised a family. But when he retired in 2000, he "found himself haunted by memories of the child he left behind--a boy, he believes." Mr. Pettitt paid a man to find the boy in Vietnam but the trail went cold. A woman in Virginia called to say she thought her husband might be his son, but a DNA test proved negative.
Saturday, September 14, 2013
Argument to give up your baby is the same old one heard before
Sept.1, 2013 cover of New Republic |
"Some women, like Corrigan D’Arcy, blog their stories. They run message boards with names like “First Mother Forum” and “Pound Pup Legacy,” full of tales of bitterly regretted adoptions. They hold retreats for birth mothers* and adoptees. They’ve formed several grassroots activist organizations, including Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform, Origins-USA, and Concerned United Birthparents. Some call themselves adoption reformers. Others prefer terms such as 'adoption truth advocate.' A few will come straight out and say they’re anti-adoption."
The piece, by Emily Matchar, is good and straight-forward reportage about the growing sense of dissolution about adoption in America, and makes reference to the Baby Scoop Era before Roe v. Wade, as well as the pressure that we, mothers of that time, were under to relinquish our children.
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
Adoptees more likely to commit suicide
Lorraine |
All of the adopted kids, who were between 11 and 21 years old during the study period, had been taken in by their families before age two, and had a biologically unrelated teenage sibling in the same home. Although this study could not determine why the adopted teens were more likely to attempt suicide,
Sunday, September 8, 2013
Baby Veronica: How Dusten Brown could prevail in battle over his daughter
Veronica smiles in a bathroom of the Cherokee Nation Jack Brown Center
MIKE SIMONS / Tulsa World file
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Three factors give me hope:
Thursday, September 5, 2013
Baby Veronica: Brown released on bail for second time
Lorraine |
The ultimate question is, will Dusten Brown go to jail rather than turn over his daughter to people who are now, and will always be, genetic strangers?
Those of us involved in adoption--on either side--are totally caught up in this modern-day tale of a child whom two families are fighting over. The two sides are
Sunday, September 1, 2013
Grief and doubt after an international adoptee's death: Max Shatto in Texas
Max Shatto on the equipment that may have killed him. |
According to The New York Times today, a lengthy investigation by police, prosecutors and medical examiners have concluded that the boy, Max, who came to the Shattos with a known heart defect--died of an accidental injuries,
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Russian Adoption
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