|Kate and Geoff leaving the ceremony|
Case A) A lawyer in my village of Sag Harbor of friendly but usually only a passing acquaintance told me one day that years ago he handled an adoption and he has kept all the papers with the names intact IN CASE someone (as in the mother or the grown-up child) returns asking for information.
He will give it to whomever arrives, no questions asked (as long as no one is an axe-murderer). He understands that it is absurd that mother and child are not allowed to know one another under current laws. I have no more
information about the case, so don't ask. The quiet support I've gotten from this man turned out to be a total surprise. He sometimes hits "Like" on adoption posts on Facebook. Lesson learned: His openness alone is an argument for mothers to come out of the closet--you find support (and yes, criticism) from people you never expected.
B) This morning he called to point out the article in the New York Times yesterday about DNA reuniting Korean adoptee and family. Nice, right? Yes, I had seen it earlier in the week when it was making the rounds. Here's the link, more about this later: Adopted Koreans, Stymied in Search of Birth Parents, Find Hope in a Cotton Swab
Wrong! I bumped into her at some point and just briefly said, Hello, I understand we are friends on Facebook, etc. More than a few words we did not exchange. This morning I discovered that our only mutual friends are through Tony's family, and I must have accepted her invitation to "friend" her knowing only that. Adoption seems not to be a part of her makeup. Yes, she has learned possibly more about our side of the story regarding adoption than she ever dreamed about. Lesson learned: Make no assumptions.
|Lorraine and Jennifer|
So now, adieu! I've got weeds to pull, cleaning to do, things to organize before she gets her tomorrow. Call me thrilled.--lorraine
As for the blog changeover, Suz is hoping to do it sometime in September. We are now planning to stay with Blogger, but the page will have a new look and hopefully will be more friendly to mobile devices.
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The Secret Daughter: A beautiful novel of adoption, heartbreak and a mother's love
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