Other than noting that she is 52 without further comment, I didn't specifically attack Hoda and I said that I didn't have more details about the adoption.
Well, first of all came a few outraged comments on Facebook at The ALMA Society page from adoptees who couldn't get over that I wasn't "thrilled" by the adoption. "Are you serious?? You don’t know anything about this so you're automatically 'not thrilled'?? Hoda adopts a baby, so it’s automatically 'lost' by her biological mother? You’re assuming she didn’t choose to do so. I was adopted 52 years ago and I thank God for that today...." it began. A few others also criticized the post.
But at The ALMA Society? The Adoptees Liberty Movement Society? Started by Florence Fisher to change adoption radically and NOT encourage more adoptions? as the comments above do.
A few people countered the critiques of the pro-adoption people. I was surprised, but blew it off. Then last night Anonymous left a comment here that said: You people are miserable. It appeared to come from a law firm in Los Angeles.
Apparently even first mothers are supposed to applaud every adoption and shut up about our feelings. Even today. Maybe especially today, as adoption has become so normalized in society, so much more than in the last century when it was a source of such shame for us mothers. Now, we're supposed to get on the bandwagon and cheer for every one.
About our own feelings? Just shut up. What gives you the right to say anything, you made your bed and now lie in it, you're just a "host" for a baby, according to an Oklahoma legislator. Well, World, you know what? The adoption of my daughter led to a damn hole in my heart that has never healed. I will go on saying that as long as I breathe. --lorraine