tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2149576156035558509..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Adoption never strays far from my lifeLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-59311836846710851802016-10-11T20:27:15.846-04:002016-10-11T20:27:15.846-04:00I was in a similar situation when my 31 year old d...I was in a similar situation when my 31 year old daughter found me. Try to stay calm and positive. Realize she's absorbing a lot as you are. Don't make assumption about what she says or does or or does not say or do. Stay in contact but don't be pushy. You can tell her you missed her all these years and grieved over you loss but don't dwell on it. Meet her adoptive parents if given the chance. <br /><br />Read a lot about adoption -- memoirs of mothers and daughters are particularly helpful. Join a support group. Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-83849476457196457402016-10-10T17:17:00.807-04:002016-10-10T17:17:00.807-04:00Ups and downs are par for the reunion course. Read...Ups and downs are par for the reunion course. Read Lorraine's book for insights on how to deal. It's full of ups and downs. Reunion ain't for sissies. Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-45249034324940260812016-10-10T12:35:03.414-04:002016-10-10T12:35:03.414-04:00I am a birth mother and my 32 year old daughter fo...I am a birth mother and my 32 year old daughter found me in march I am so happy but so many ups and downs I don't know what should be taking place I can't loose her again I am looking for mothers with some experience with this I don't know where to turn any ideas<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-33325244752108917182016-09-08T23:23:11.196-04:002016-09-08T23:23:11.196-04:00Lorraine, I have learned that the world is very sm...Lorraine, I have learned that the world is very small. For some unknown reason, I decided to become a teacher. The first job I held in teaching, I ended up working with a totally OCD adoptee who swears that any adoptee that searches is a traitor and needs to be shot and that all first mothers are worthless shit. This year I get to work with not only an adopter, but a religious one. And, oddly, it is the religion of my mother and one of the most woman hating religions on earth - Mormon. She recently adopted not one, but two infants that she took from the breasts of their biological mothers (and they are two months apart). Apparently the mothers agreed, supposedly to breast feed their children for three to six months prior to separation. I have to wonder - these are as horrific as my own reunion/non-reunion with my daughter..... how is it that the crazy adoption stuff finds me? I rarely even read about adoption anymore!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com