tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2164866503028267343..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Adopted: For the Life of Me illustrates how sealed records hurtLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-80597634446045629492014-11-25T12:48:51.503-05:002014-11-25T12:48:51.503-05:00I also deeply appreciate advocacy of Lorraine Dusk...I also deeply appreciate advocacy of Lorraine Dusky and Jane Edwards. First families should be supported to keep them together if at all possible! The "baby market" should be eliminated in favor of supporting these families. There are thousands of older children both in the US and foreign born who do not have any family with one iota of interest in them. These are the children grow up in state care. We as an American society and world society should encourage those wishing to be parents to adopt children truly without any hope of family support. Family information should be provided no matter how difficult the circumstances. It is reality after all. And the barbaric practice of sealing OBC should be stopped with existing records unsealed. There are plenty of wonderful children out there who desperately need parent or parents for those willing to parent them. This the only win-win alternative for children. Barbaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-81302057181112320592011-02-24T15:19:43.881-05:002011-02-24T15:19:43.881-05:00A Trip To The Other Side Of Life
Adoption ...A Trip To The Other Side Of Life<br /> Adoption w"ho am I"<br />55 years later a deam comes true in Connecticut August 2003<br />Finding your biological family.<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZ2kinsNf90Vancehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZ2kinsNf90noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-30853448717579614992010-12-20T17:06:05.408-05:002010-12-20T17:06:05.408-05:00Lorraine wrote:" He was surprised--no, amazed...Lorraine wrote:" He was surprised--no, amazed is more like it--that adoptees couldn't get their original birth certificates and find out who they are justlikethat."<br /><br />Well, this certainly brings me back to earth spending so much time in the adoption world that it is true, the vast majority of people know next to nothing of what it is like to be adopted or to be a first mother. They just know and believe what popular culture tells them (i.e. Adoption is a beautiful thing, it's the best option for a young, single mother and okay they usually admit "adopted kids have problems" but a married couple is still best for them.<br /><br />Those of us here do give and get a lot of support from one another but we are talking to the already convinced and the knowledgeable (through the school of hard knocks). It seems that one of the most important issues is changing the laws so that first mothers have at least 6 weeks before they can sign away their parental rights. So many of the stories we deal with her like Grayson/Ben, baby Emma, etc are like trying to lock the barn after the horse has escaped. How can we educate, make this part of the culture that natural parents need more time so that there wouldn't be so many of these horror stories of trying to get back one's baby when it is so often too late?<br /><br />And of course, we need activism and education on the OBC issue.<br /><br />Adoption is an important issue and it affects many people. It's shocking that most people know so little about it and its impact.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-13110938664550505152010-12-20T14:40:17.398-05:002010-12-20T14:40:17.398-05:00Thank you, Joy,
It's comments like yours that...Thank you, Joy,<br /><br />It's comments like yours that keep us going.<br /><br />Merry Christmas to you and all our readers.<br /><br />JaneJane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05669797756463841249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-42379643523520853632010-12-20T01:31:11.859-05:002010-12-20T01:31:11.859-05:00I know I have told you this before Lorraine, but I...I know I have told you this before Lorraine, but I just want to mention again how much I appreciate the advocating for adoptees and their rights that you and Jane Edwards do. <br /><br />I am yay *grateful* for your promotion important films such as these and your willingness to have conversations about some of the more unpopular topics. <br /><br /><br />I don't always agree with everything you say, but then I don't agree with anyone 100% of the time, even to the point of inner-conflict about the complicated matters in family situations. <br /><br />Your blog has caused me to look at certain situations differently and that is always a plus as far as I am concerned.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658928829424953809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-80268398620703953022010-12-19T21:31:57.125-05:002010-12-19T21:31:57.125-05:00I wish, just for once, that people would simply ac...I wish, just for once, that people would simply act like adults....stop fighting over bones that are not theirs, back biting and clawing....<br /><br />I need my daughter as much as she needs me. We struggle to keep that in focus. Me, because I am still hurting over the loss.<br /><br />She is and will always be MY daughter and HER OWN person.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-24190493097935068992010-12-19T17:18:26.989-05:002010-12-19T17:18:26.989-05:00Why is it that we can not get it into the American...Why is it that we can not get it into the American psyche that the biological connection matters? Why do we treat children as if it makes no difference whether they are raised in their bio-families or not or even know who they are? There is a reason that the vast majority of people raise their biological children. And that most families consist of people related by blood. This separation is unnatural and cruel. It seems that Australia has figured this out? Why can't we?Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9652541957655957722010-12-19T16:13:13.034-05:002010-12-19T16:13:13.034-05:00How is it right to separate people who need each o...How is it right to separate people who need each other but have a human right to know about each other and be family? Reunion comes to many of us late in life, adding to the cruelty because so many years have been stolen and can't be given back.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com