tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2738723165955136714..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Singer hopes to find birth mother through The X FactorLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-85554194864674442752012-09-28T19:47:36.309-04:002012-09-28T19:47:36.309-04:00Lorraine, thanks for explaining that about Ben Gaz...Lorraine, thanks for explaining that about Ben Gazarra. Very interesting. I learn so much here I just can't tell you. <br /><br />I always wondered why Newt Gingrich was such a freakin' poster boy for adoption. Now, oh, wow, we have a Speaker of the House who was adopted. Yahoo! Adoption must now be revered!!!<br /><br />Then I learned that his stepfather adopted him. Come on! Give me (us) a break! Of course, stepparent adoption is nothing like regular adoption!!!caleigh brookshttp://caleighbrookswatchingthewatchers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-47014066167017109862012-09-28T19:36:14.293-04:002012-09-28T19:36:14.293-04:00Jane, in your post is yet another awesome and touc...Jane, in your post is yet another awesome and touching reunion story: Michael Johnson and his lost daughter, Truly Carmichael. <br /><br />I was so touched! My heart bleeds for these dads. The calculated, and coldhearted, manner in which natural fathers were discounted and cast aside, heretofore, is unconscionable! Single fathers are fathers, too. They worry and churn about their (lost) children as much as married fathers.<br /><br />Thanks for reminding us of the forgotten fathers once again. I think that we don't hear much from dads whose children were adopted because of the macho thing - men aren't supposed to be cry-babies. Remember only a few decades ago, "real men" didn't take medicine. <br /><br />There's an example that a natural mom could give to her kept children when attempting to explicate the societal mores that made her give her child for adoption. Men weren't even allowed to take medicine for fear of looking weak! Man, in hindsight, that's pretty freakin' sick!<br /><br />I think the more we, natural moms, heal and come out of the closet and into society's mainstream - the more natural dads will follow! <br /><br />Yes, we're takin' our power back!caleigh brookshttp://caleighbrookswatchingthewatchers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-35963092676909841692012-09-28T19:15:32.630-04:002012-09-28T19:15:32.630-04:00Caleigh, someone who found the blog wrote a commen...Caleigh, someone who found the blog wrote a comment saying that in 1967 Ben Gazarra adopted his wife's child or children. Someone who knew that much about him had to have been close to him and was goggling his name and here we were! However, stepparent adoption is not the same at all as the kind of adoption we were talking about. I never knew why he was "pounding the table" about what I wrote, excepted that he was opposed to opening the records, respecting birth mother's pain etc, and YES when he died, I thought, well, one more enemy of opening records down. RIP.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-16396524719177797962012-09-28T18:48:51.803-04:002012-09-28T18:48:51.803-04:00Wow, Lorraine and Jane, you "guys" sure ...Wow, Lorraine and Jane, you "guys" sure did some interesting stuff: Democratic National Convention, Cosmo, the Hamptons... I'm impressed! <br /><br />I LOVE the story in Lorraine's comment above about - aaawwww - the nurse and the priest, and the nurse's relationship with her natural and adoptive moms! It's a good example of how, with a little patience, all turned out well in the end for the adopted woman and both her mothers. <br /><br />Why do we make our children feel guilty for having 2 mothers? Why do the children have to, emotionally, take care of the 2 sets of parents? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't parents be taking care of the children?<br /><br />The XFactor story is super-duper, too! I'm on tenterhooks about the outcome, Jane!<br /><br />In a previous post you mentioned Ben Gazzara pounding on the table about your book, I believe. I looked up that idiot and he's too much of an old fogey to have much written about him in Wikipedia. I wanted to see if he was an adopter. I mean, what's with all the rage. <br /><br />I know what you mean about SEO. Thanks for mentioning that. I love to reinforce computer jargon!caleigh brookshttp://caleighbrookswatchingthewatchers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-2962675944060383972012-09-28T16:26:05.207-04:002012-09-28T16:26:05.207-04:00The first story I ever wrote about adoption was fo...The first story I ever wrote about adoption was for Cosmo, about a young woman who went so far as to not only become a nurse, but then get a job in the home where she had been adopted from! Talk about persistence. She made friends with the nuns there, but they did not have the keys to the kingdom in the basement where the files were kept. Eventually, she was engaged to a man whose brother was a priest, and with him, she went to the Mother Superior of the agency, who agreed to get the records...because the priest asked her to. Talk about a male-dominated society!<br /><br />And fortunately, the story had a happy ending; her natural /birth mother was waiting for her to call, and in time, her adoptive mother got over herself (she didn't talk to the daughter for quite a long time) and the adoptee was able to have a relationship with BOTH OF HER MOTHERS. Natural and <i>adoptive.</i> (Sorry, I couldn't help myself there.)<br /><br />And yes, while I would like to expunge the use of the phrase "birth mother," it is necessary to keep it at this time because of SEO. Search Engine Optimization.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-72469830246210054732012-09-28T16:23:07.394-04:002012-09-28T16:23:07.394-04:00I hope the show helps David find his roots!!I hope the show helps David find his roots!!Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-81190029777991156752012-09-28T13:10:37.653-04:002012-09-28T13:10:37.653-04:00Good luck, David! It may be a long shot, but I'...Good luck, David! It may be a long shot, but I'm pulling for you.HDWnoreply@blogger.com