tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post280650982688988024..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: This Is Us gets adoption rightLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-83292240532917414772016-12-08T15:41:50.028-05:002016-12-08T15:41:50.028-05:00Made a critical err in the first comment--added a ...Made a critical err in the first comment--added a NOT when I meant the twists did make it too much. Yo! This morning I caught up to the last episode of TIS...the twists may make it too top heavy--a near suicide to make Randall appreciate that everyone has problems; William is gay; and that final spill onto the floor of Toby? Maybe it is all a bit much, though I the adoption stuff was handled well, and yes, I don't want it to eventually be all fuzzy with the mom. I have never heard of an adoptee who learned a big lie late in life and just forgot about it. Anyway, Randall is now day as well as dying, and so the birth father issue won't be around for the second season. I don't see how the level of family drama can sustain itself. Though I do love Kevin's Jewish GF rather than that snot Olivia who couldn't get over herself. I like Toby, I think Kate was constantly ambivalent and drove him crazy. Didn't feel he pushed too much. Anyone else?Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-87107590029642910612016-12-08T13:36:50.894-05:002016-12-08T13:36:50.894-05:00I'm not a fan of Toby's - I think he's...I'm not a fan of Toby's - I think he's so incredibly pushy, and that he seems to see Kate as a person to be rescued instead of a three-dimensional person with layers. I don't want him to die, though. Just to go away. There is a lot of drama and it was too much. I wanted to see more of Randall and Rebecca, although his nice-enough but icy greeting to her told me that he's still not completely forgiven her, not should he yet. It was a big, awful secret she kept and she needs to consider more what she did to him and not how it made her feel.Leslie Gray Streeterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07716481773363709718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-65883588021336395482016-12-08T10:05:54.154-05:002016-12-08T10:05:54.154-05:00Yo! This morning I caught up to the last episode o...Yo! This morning I caught up to the last episode of TIS...the twists may not make it too top heavy--a nar suicide to make Randall appreciate that everyone has problems; William is gay; and that final spill onto the floor of Toby? Maybe it is all a bit much, though I the adoption stuff was handled well. Anyway, Randall is dying, and so the birth father issue won't be around for the second season. I don't see how the level of family drama can sustain itself. Though I do love Kevin's Jewish GF rather than that snot Olivia who couldn't get over herself. Anyone else? Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-45329169643603507622016-12-06T12:23:04.161-05:002016-12-06T12:23:04.161-05:00I too love this series. I only wish I had had a Pr...I too love this series. I only wish I had had a Prime time show like this while I was growing up. Although I also can't imagine my young self sitting in a room with my adoptive parents and watching it and hearing Randall voice the words in my head and worrying they would catch on and know that's how I felt. I especially loved this last weeks episode (11/29). To hear an adoptee finally getting angry at the secrets, to express the feeling of being unwanted and to say "If only I had known I was wanted and loved would have made all the difference"...it was just so validating. I just hope his voice isn't silenced. When you hear the adoptive mom (Rebecca) say I can't lose my son and Why can't we be enough and Randall starts to reconsider his feelings...I myself started getting that feeling of being silenced and feelings being squashed. I hope that's not what happens.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316286603663996024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-40609065241118250692016-12-06T10:47:34.641-05:002016-12-06T10:47:34.641-05:00Math and music are related in the brain, as I poin...Math and music are related in the brain, as I pointed out. What mostly seemed false is that Randall, the son, now suddenly plans to learn to play the piano and he is going to take lessons from someone in the neighborhood who it sounds gives lessons to kids. Sometimes, I've found, adoptees both are pleased to find traits and also--in a direct nod to their being adopted, and to make a point of their differences. This was just being handled, to my sensibility, not realistically, but off. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-64209221853773105672016-12-05T21:10:15.216-05:002016-12-05T21:10:15.216-05:00I think you may be jumping the gun on your complai...I think you may be jumping the gun on your complaint that father and son share no real personality/interest traits. It may be possible, and maybe as yet unrevealed, that personality wise he is more like his natural mother than father. I share no interests with my father, our personalities are polareally opposites, but he is still my father (biological too). I don't know if my daughter shares any of my traits, or if my father's skipped a generation, or maybe she's like her father instead. So in this instance I would cut the writers a break. Making father and son so alike would probably have been the "easy way" out, narrative speaking.Karennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-92195011088260776572016-12-05T18:42:46.946-05:002016-12-05T18:42:46.946-05:00Yes, that first scene about the father was excelle...Yes, that first scene about the father was excellent. If you catch up, you'll see the producers and writers have done a great job with the issues of adoption. Not surprisingly it is a hit. I can't imagine how they can keep the issues going for several years, but hits shows do that until they start to feel old....<br />Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-23259254741160847442016-12-05T12:21:23.712-05:002016-12-05T12:21:23.712-05:00I watched the first segment of the show where the ...I watched the first segment of the show where the son meets his natural father. Very well done. The son insists he just wants to know and to tell his father off for abandoning him. He says his piece and starts to leave but he keeps delaying and continuing the conversation. You realize he is drawn to this man and wants some kind of relationship but can't quite accept this. I think this is not unusual. Adoptees may claim "One meeting is all I want" but in truth they want far more. Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-37318869674535148522016-12-04T21:41:36.539-05:002016-12-04T21:41:36.539-05:00Pamela--Yes, you did email me and that prompted me...Pamela--Yes, you did email me and that prompted me to take a look. Thanks!<br />Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-56497663512211084572016-12-04T21:17:58.782-05:002016-12-04T21:17:58.782-05:00I just purchased and downloaded this series last w...I just purchased and downloaded this series last week. I've been through the first three episodes and I agree, this is very, very well done. Actually, I had happened upon the inaugural episode by accident one night while channel surfing and saw the 2nd half and was completely taken with it (in fact, I think I emailed you later that night about it). But life has been overwhelming the past few months and it was not until a friend of mine, with no relation to the adoption world whatever, mentioned it one day and how poignant it was. Well, that told me alot. Thanks for the very optimistic review and also for being a part of impacting the course of history for the better.Pamela M. Salelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12398730332287863739noreply@blogger.com