tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2878057366666955057..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Botched embryo implants garner sympathy -- Birthmothers? FugheddabouditLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41617559844548189612009-09-25T21:59:56.164-04:002009-09-25T21:59:56.164-04:00I've postponed my response because...where doe...I've postponed my response because...where does one start? It sounds like science fiction. <br /><br />I feel for the woman who has to relinquish a child she's carried and will give birth to, but it's not her child per se. Does that make it any easier? Will the baby know the difference? How the hell will the parents explain their child's origins when he asks Mummy and Daddy to tell him about when he was in Mummy's tummy? <br /><br />This was posted on Lorraine's facebook wall in response to the blog link: "This is a prime example of why people should not interfere with Mother Nature." I confess that was my gut reaction when I heard the story, now (shaking my head...)Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958887097090820238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-71426260618580350002009-09-25T21:03:13.686-04:002009-09-25T21:03:13.686-04:00Um, Triona, I didn't get that. At all. I under...Um, Triona, I didn't get that. At all. I understand the point you're making--and I agree that sympathies tend to lie not with the person who is actually suffering the most but the one whose pain people can most identify with--but I do not understand how a woman who relinquished could be "sentenced". Relinquishment is not a crime. How did this person get into the criminal justice system? I went to the original source and still cound not understand. <br /><br />I also don't get why one wouldn't be sympathetic to a woman who who carried a child for 9 months believing it to be her child and then had to relinquish. Or is it just the genetic lineage that is important to y'all. Seriously, if you could explain it to me. <br /><br />Both posts--yours and Suz's--have me thinking I just need to quit this game altogether. The learning curve is simply too steep.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-17709155307365113682009-09-25T16:32:33.952-04:002009-09-25T16:32:33.952-04:00I think it's part of the assumption that mothe...I think it's part of the assumption that mothers who surrender "deserve" their pain. Suz over on her blog at http://writingmywrongs.com was recently talking about a woman who was forced to do community service as part of her surrender (!!) and we started talking about those who had botched episiotomies and other horrors because the doctors thought they "deserved" it. All part of making those mothers feel ashamed and unworthy.<br /><br />Is anybody really surprised that there might be fertility clinics that choose to make money in this fashion? It's just an extension of what the adoption industry already does. Unfortunately that would be news to many people who don't have a direct connection to adoption.Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-65727529249390966522009-09-24T19:25:50.064-04:002009-09-24T19:25:50.064-04:00You have that right. I honestly believe that peop...You have that right. I honestly believe that people have to be living in the world of IDK to believe that is such a big deal. It amazes me that so much attention is given to the woman that loses a child in a mall, or whose spouse wins custody, etc. and they act as if it is nothing to us.<br /><br />Considering the fact is that they put themselves in this position....definitely fugheddaboudit.....Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com