tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post4350244698091162081..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: The Last Days of Adoption, Part TwoLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-66628759265325157512009-04-20T14:58:00.000-04:002009-04-20T14:58:00.000-04:00I don't know, I am in my 30s on the other side of ...I don't know, I am in my 30s on the other side of 35 and none of my friends were misinformed about fertility, they are all rather realistic.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658928829424953809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-8738920719219267312009-04-20T08:42:00.000-04:002009-04-20T08:42:00.000-04:00I'm kind of on a middle ground about the issue of ...I'm kind of on a middle ground about the issue of delayed childbearing. I'm with Lorraine in feeling that young people should be made aware of the facts of declining fertility with age, and that getting pregnant at 25 may be easy (even fun:-) and relatively inexpensive, waiting until 38 or 40 could make it an infertility nightmare with no guarantee of eventual pregnancy success. <br /><br />I think that women now in their late 30s and 40s were given false information that childbirth could be delayed way into early middle age with no consequence. Yes, of course there should be personal choice, but informed choice, not wishful thinking. And for those who wait too long, no guarantees either that a supply of infants to adopt will be waiting.<br /><br />On the other hand, I see with Osolomama the economic reality of the world we live in. Birth rates dropped sharply during the last Great Depression, and many marriages including that of my parents were long delayed by lack of money and jobs. This becoming no longer a matter of greed and having to own a McMansion and BMW before having kids, and more a matter of being able to house and feed a family.<br /><br />Hard choices we (Baby Boomer age)did not have to face. The many early marriages with kids born right away in the 50s and 60s were in times when jobs were plentiful, housing was cheap and available, and young families could afford a good life without hardship. This is the other side to be taken into account by young people today.maryannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14820185286946511471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-49519165729573828002009-04-20T08:02:00.000-04:002009-04-20T08:02:00.000-04:00It's true our bodies are out of sync with the soci...It's true our bodies are out of sync with the societies and cultures we have built in North America and elsewhere. Hence obestity as well. I just don't see putting that particular brand of toothpaste back in the tube. Encouraging people to mate early (I'm thinking of the Penelope Trunk piece) and have babies early--it sounds like a Republican plot. Not that you intended it that way but reproductive freedom (including delaying childbearing or forms of family-making other than god-given heterosexual intercourse in the missionary position) is sort of a cornerstone of a liberal society. Don't see it going away soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-72972796301768232272009-04-19T20:26:00.000-04:002009-04-19T20:26:00.000-04:00"For my own part, I had wondered--no, more than th..."For my own part, I had wondered--no, more than that, presumed--that Ms. Wetzstein was someone who wanted to adopt a baby in this country, but alas, could not find one available."<br /><br />Now, why would you suppose that? <br />Why would you presume, there not being reasonable evidence to the contrary?<br />Like my son says . . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com