tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post4665092924276637393..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Protections for Birth Mothers need real mettle, not weak reformsLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-861682410480340072010-11-28T18:57:26.260-05:002010-11-28T18:57:26.260-05:00Among other recommendations, the report also menti...Among other recommendations, the report also mentioned making open adoption agreements enforceable and protecting father's rights to consent.<br />No, this report is not perfect but it will carry weight in determining policy changes. These days it is just as important to educate lobbies as it is to persuade legislators. Unless we enlist uber- wealthy adoptees or first parents, the reality is that in the halls of government money talks! Thus having a policy influencing group recommend any changes at all moves our cause from its present low status.d28bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05866860173755756630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-18781517202578822022010-11-25T03:44:57.682-05:002010-11-25T03:44:57.682-05:00That is crazy that pregnant women should have lawy...That is crazy that pregnant women should have lawyers so they won't be deterred from choosing adoption rather than to advocate for them and to protect their own best interests!<br /><br />I agree that, generally, longer waiting periods prior to relinquishment would reduce the likelihood of moms making decisions they would regret, and that having potential adoptive parents in the delivery room is a lot of pressure. <br /><br />Sometimes, though, a woman may feel very clear that she wants to have her baby adopted. She may not want to have to wait to move forward, and maybe she might truly want the potential adoptive parents in the delivery room. <br /><br />What I wonder is...how do we avoid crossing the line from safeguarding women from making choices they might regret for the rest of their lives to forcing women who are 100% decided that adoption is the right choice for them to have to go through a waiting period, when they may not feel that's what's best for them. In one respect, waiting a week or a month is not the end of the world, but I wonder if it may be a bit paternalistic, presuming women can't make the best decisions for themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-15516949011312511602010-11-24T07:21:20.582-05:002010-11-24T07:21:20.582-05:00So now the liberals are getting on the "adopt...So now the liberals are getting on the "adoption not abortion" bandwagon. This study is spouting the same old tripe. No mention of the devastation to the first mother from the loss of her child. No mention of the child's pain at having been rejected and given away. And no mention of PAPs as being anything but perfect, stable and loving who provide a superior home to the single mother in evey way. I swear APs have the best reputation in the world. There is nary a whisper that PAPs who may be rich and may be married (at least in the short-term) would make anything but perfect, loving, uber-parents.<br /><br />As even noted in the study, adoption does not cut down on the number of abortions, so what good is it?Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-77304064304444224022010-11-23T09:39:41.101-05:002010-11-23T09:39:41.101-05:00I find it interesting that the time frame for revo...I find it interesting that the time frame for revoking a surrender document is so short. For me, in Arizona - 1981 - it was a year. Which is also why they took her out of the country - the best interests of the child (which of course doesn't allow for immediate return of my daughter had I revoked) would have kicked in and the courts would have accused me of abandoning her...Adoption is a giant spider in a web full of young mothers...eating us alive.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com