tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post4881055328847175354..comments2024-03-14T17:59:30.786-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: American Dilemma: What happened to one's right to know one's birth parents?Lorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-11144171818880570362012-05-24T15:30:12.089-04:002012-05-24T15:30:12.089-04:00It's my opinion that parents should be DNA tes...It's my opinion that parents should be DNA tested before going on a birth certificate. If the baby is donor conceived the donor should go on the birth certificate.Barbara Thavishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13646036820037271522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-62190836499449536412012-05-24T13:03:14.042-04:002012-05-24T13:03:14.042-04:00Lisa,
This post is about adult adoptees. If the la...Lisa,<br />This post is about adult adoptees. If the law is a child is considered an adult at 18 who are any of us to say if they can or cannot obtain a copy of their original birth certificate? It is their legal document stating the facts about their birth. The truths that they may hold should not be denied.<br />As Mirah has stated none of us were ever promised anonymity.Janetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41892176426811124462012-05-23T05:12:13.327-04:002012-05-23T05:12:13.327-04:00My Partner and I have been fostering now for almos...My Partner and I have been fostering now for almost 25 years and we have come up against this question time and time again, when the children have spent so much time away from the original family unit, sometimes to never return. Those young children who came to us from 6 months or less often when they reach maturity ask the questions ? who are my real parents. In my view as custodians of these children who sometimes come from very difficult back ground and circumstances. It's always been my view that if the child is old enough and mature enough to understand these difficulties then if we hold the information we should be allowed to divulge who the parents are but in most situations due to family break downs and other issues this information is not always able to be forth coming.Lisahttp://www.newbabygiftboxes.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-52119988826682091532012-05-21T16:13:36.913-04:002012-05-21T16:13:36.913-04:00Anon: You probably spoke to the same guy I did, he...Anon: You probably spoke to the same guy I did, he seemed very energetic and positive. The other two aides...not so much. If you have not called, yet, do leave your name and locale. Yes, 2 dozen calls is not an avalanche.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-46810337364381140162012-05-21T15:41:47.572-04:002012-05-21T15:41:47.572-04:00I have never wavered from my stance that every hum...I have never wavered from my stance that every human being has the 100% unequivocable right to know who the man and woman are who created him(her) and brought him(her)into the world. (Although I realize this is not always possible).<br /><br />I agree with Lorraine that the argument has to move from the alleged promise of anonymity to the rights of the powerless member of the "triad' who is bound by this law but was never given any say. No one's so called right to privacy should trump any individual's right to know such a basic and VITAL aspect of human existence as his biological origins. <br /><br />It is high time that APS realize that they were lied to and accept that adopted children are not the same as if born to. Falsified birth certificates and sealed records cannot change reality. Nor can promises of anonymity, which cannot be guaranteed in the first place, change the fact that a couple had a child. <br /><br /> Ireland is taking a step in the right direction. The U.S. used to be such an advanced nation and now we are in many ways so far behind.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-32165015495685820992012-05-21T15:22:49.562-04:002012-05-21T15:22:49.562-04:00Done! Called, spoke, and was heard. At least I thi...Done! Called, spoke, and was heard. At least I think so. The last call was particularly encouraging as the aide said that he had received over 2 dozen calls today (Monday) and he will have plenty to report back to Mr Lentol.<br /><br />Two-dozen calls doesn't seem like a lot to me. We need to have every adoptee and their families call in. Thank you to those who have maade the calls!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-35555150989934170212012-05-21T15:06:35.387-04:002012-05-21T15:06:35.387-04:00NO MOTHERS WERE EVER PROMISED ANONYMITY! It is NOT...NO MOTHERS WERE EVER PROMISED ANONYMITY! It is NOT in any relinquishment agreement, nor is it an "assumed" right as anyone can be found today even with the records sealed!Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-4304055457355151602012-05-21T15:05:19.839-04:002012-05-21T15:05:19.839-04:00You could also try explaining to the legislators t...You could also try explaining to the legislators that there is no other circumstance where anyone receives such 'protection' not was it ever promised to any relinquishing mother. There are ample laws that exist to protect ALL citizens from harassment and stalking. No one is protected from a simple door bell ring or telephone call that is not for a solicitation, and has the right to say "not thank you." To provide extra protection when it violates the equality of the adoptee is as preposterous as denying women the right to vote because they may not vote the way their husbands do.Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-31208277514399011462012-05-21T14:04:40.788-04:002012-05-21T14:04:40.788-04:00It is time for NY to get this done! The aides I&#...It is time for NY to get this done! The aides I've just spoken with are , indeed, friendly and courteous. I told them I was born in NY and that my parents always had my mother's and my name on the adoption decree and that it cost me $1200 to go to court to receive a copy of my OBC. I'm going to email that evidence of the frailty of the "confidentiality" argument as soon as this goes out. If you have ANY NY adoption connection or live there now, PLEASE do as Lorraine requests above!peripateticpamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06507244477729901775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-47458101759791075172012-05-21T13:47:17.838-04:002012-05-21T13:47:17.838-04:00How wonderful the legislators in Ireland understan...How wonderful the legislators in Ireland understand this should be every persons right. I will be calling in on behalf of the NY adoptees who I have networked with over the last 22 yrs while searching for my daughter and educating others of the need for equal access in 42 states that currently deny that right. Every person who believes this, needs to call all of their legislators to see how they stand on the issue and either change their mind or do not vote for them. The days of secrecy in these matters is over.Margaret Susan Hoffman LyBurtusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-11248446161270303392012-05-21T12:48:45.735-04:002012-05-21T12:48:45.735-04:00Hooray for Ireland. One of the things I felt was ...Hooray for Ireland. One of the things I felt was most unfair when I surrendered my daughter was the "Father Unknown" on her birth certificate and the surrender papers. He was not unknown, but I was told that was the way papers had to be submitted. All it did was reinforce the negative image of myself that formed while I was pregnant. <br /><br />Eventually we'll get the NY laws changed if we keep pushing -- or at least nudging legislators.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13218315005017838218noreply@blogger.com