tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post6403911988529105955..comments2024-03-14T17:59:30.786-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Adoption is Not Gleeful; Fox's hit show tells it like it isLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-60768067125339301772011-11-11T11:10:52.015-05:002011-11-11T11:10:52.015-05:00Thanks 7rin. I was curious if anyone would address...Thanks 7rin. I was curious if anyone would address anon's comment @ me. Yep anon I'm adopted. So wouldn't dream of speaking for you. In fact, that was the point I was trying to make. My comment was taking issue with the OP, not an adoptee, saying what adopted children were "more likely" to feel. <br /><br />OP said:<br />"As for causing adopted children to fear they will be taken from their adoptive families, it's more likely the show will give them hope that their birth families will come looking for them."<br /><br />My comment was:<br />You just can't say this like it's fact, like you have inside info about what all adopted children think and feel. What you're saying is possible but to say it's "more likely" is ridiculous in my opinion. It's as likely there would be children who would fear being taken from their families.<br /><br />So strange to me anon you'd take issue with what I said and not what the OP said. I said basically the same thing you said yet you decide to scold me.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-45899976712954149052011-11-05T20:50:15.309-04:002011-11-05T20:50:15.309-04:00@ anon: I'm adopted and did wish my bmom'd...@ anon: I'm adopted and did wish my bmom'd show up and take me home, but I also know of other adoptees who've stated very openly that they were indeed terrified that such a thing may happen, so please, while I understand your ire, be aware that not all of us wanted to be whisked off by our bparents as kids ... and tbh, even though I did dream of it often, I suspect it would be truly terrifying to be ripped from the family that you've grown up in without some kind of gentle merger from one back to the other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-66445463509316652512011-10-28T00:51:25.365-04:002011-10-28T00:51:25.365-04:00Well if they don't like Glee I'm sure they...Well if they don't like Glee I'm sure they'e going to hate "Once Upon A time" airing on ABC on Sunday nights. Here's a link that describes the basis for the series: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Once_Upon_a_Time_(TV_series)<br /><br />****SPOILER**** The "Evil Queen" is also portrayed as the adoptive mom in this series!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-84544263649883708152011-10-26T10:28:09.876-04:002011-10-26T10:28:09.876-04:00@Campbell - Are you adopted? Do you have inside in...@Campbell - Are you adopted? Do you have inside info about what all adopted children think and feel? If not, don't speak for me. I am an adult adoptee and I can tell you that growing up I often fantasized that my natural mother would come and get me. I saw it as a positive thing, not a scary thing. I wasn't afraid of my natural parents. I also didn't think that it would mean that I would never see my adoptive parents again. If a parent can love more than one child, why can't I love more than one set of parents?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-21950049427215560722011-10-20T21:00:50.850-04:002011-10-20T21:00:50.850-04:00I must admit I haven't watched Glee since last...I must admit I haven't watched Glee since last year when I caught a few episodes about Shelby and her daughter--and Liz, you are right--did the writers forget that she gave up a daughter and they had these heartfelt shows about her own daughter? That she might have a different take on what it's like to give up a child? Maybe it is too ridiculous to watch, but that attitude is making its inimical way into the hearts and minds of teenagers. Juno much? <br /><br />I think the show is being replaced by he World Series, but scheduled for next Wednesday, back to back episodes, if no game.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-6296406475349902292011-10-20T20:45:25.208-04:002011-10-20T20:45:25.208-04:00It's this ridiculous, outdated mindset that a ...It's this ridiculous, outdated mindset that a child can only have one "real" set of parents! It pits first families against adoptive families when they should be working TOGETHER to serve the best interests of the child and first mother.<br /><br />As for the awful 'Glee' adoption story-line, I was appalled at the way Quinn's situation was portrayed. She came from a wealthy family -- her parents couldn't have at least hired her a decent attorney? The school counselor couldn't have discussed her options with her? What kind of adoption was this, anyway?! Was there an agency? Why wasn't open adoption discussed? You'd think that Shelby of all people, who was clearly deeply affected by losing her own natural daughter, would have been more empathetic towards the emotional needs of a first mother.Liznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-13137194039317442872011-10-19T14:58:41.631-04:002011-10-19T14:58:41.631-04:00Man, it seems adoption is everywhere! (I'm an...Man, it seems adoption is everywhere! (I'm an adult adoptee.)<br /><br />A little off topic, but there was an NPR show on yesterday that covered trans-racial adoptions and how adopters taking a "color-blind or we don't see in color" approach hurt more than helped TR adoptees, in many cases.<br /><br />And last night's episode of Body of Proof had an adoption-related sub-theme. And it turns out one of the lead characters is adopted and has decided to search for his f/b-parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-18551779835864509962011-10-19T11:45:23.226-04:002011-10-19T11:45:23.226-04:00Just because the son thinks about his "birth ...Just because the son thinks about his "birth mother" all the time doesn't necessarily mean he wants her to show up at the door and take him away from his family. Just sayin.<br /><br />"As for causing adopted children to fear they will be taken from their adoptive families, it's more likely the show will give them hope that their birth families will come looking for them."<br /><br />You just can't say this like it's fact, like you have inside info about what all adopted children think and feel. What you're saying is possible but to say it's "more likely" is ridiculous in my opinion. It's as likely there would be children who would fear being taken from their families.<br /><br />Like everything in the media, talk to your kids openly and with confidence about the things they watch, far better than a public service announcement.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-37297616485497480072011-10-19T11:13:42.988-04:002011-10-19T11:13:42.988-04:00The really funny thing is that Amber has gone priv...The really funny thing is that Amber has gone private with her own blog. She is afraid of people with a differing opinion. I can't tell if she is the "activist" she claims to be, a coward who hides and begs her readers not to share her blog or a victim as she was blasting everyone who disagreed with her petition as hateful and bitter. I do know that she had several failed adoptions in which the mothers decided to parent their children and this has left her quite entitled and very bitter. She wrote a post blasting the mother of a child she wanted to adopt because the woman was poor.<br />It figures a woman like Amber would create a petition like this. She loves the attention she is getting from the media but is terrified of being found out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-58096210136120333132011-10-18T23:04:54.787-04:002011-10-18T23:04:54.787-04:00It is one of those mind candy set ups with teens b...It is one of those mind candy set ups with teens being way too old and with far too much money - LOL - but it is about these twins. One adopted by a rich couple, one left in foster care - after her mother supposedly abandoned her. The story - thus far - has unfolded that the one twin (with money) found the other in a search for their mother. She switches places with the poor one (on the run from the cops on an assault charge - trumped up by a crappy foster mother). The rich one then then goes to LA and to house in which the poor one lived with mom, until a fire. The nursery has a unique painting that the poor one remembers - on the ceiling. She finds mom, after some twists with the name being wrong on the OBC and through an art gallery that carries mom's work. Mom is in a mental hospital, believing she burned her child - the poor one - up in the fire.<br /><br />The plot is pretty convoluted - but in essence - rich adoptee is very spoiled and nasty to everyone. The lies are obvious to her. So she searches. Poor one is oblivious to the kind of nasty that the rich one plays and is trying to live a life she has no clue about.<br /><br />Mom was tricked by two men - the adoptive father and a friend - both of whom are family friends with mom and were friends with her and her sister - not sure how that fits. The friend is a lawyer that sneaks around trying to hide things.<br /><br />Mom leaves the hospital and - at season close - rich twin is drowning in a car, poor twin is confronted by mom at her birthday party and she is still pretending to be the rich twin.<br /><br />Should be interesting. The only innocents appear to be the poor twin and mom.<br /><br />LOL - such crap I watch to amuse my mind!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-43081495533311118482011-10-18T16:03:04.253-04:002011-10-18T16:03:04.253-04:00The Lying Game? Never heard of it. Do tell.The Lying Game? Never heard of it. Do tell.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-46010411742990502572011-10-18T15:54:15.573-04:002011-10-18T15:54:15.573-04:00I refuse to watch shows that portray the bull crap...I refuse to watch shows that portray the bull crap side of adoption - then insecure needy adopter that is petitioning really needs to realize that she is doing this crap to what are supposed to be "her" children. <br /><br />I started watching "The Lying Game" - at first with a great deal of skepticism. Then later with interest. It is written from the viewpoint of a set of twins - one adopted by the "rich" parents, the other left in foster care. While the foster care one is portrayed a bit too naive, it seems to be making the adoption process interesting. It is an illegal adoption where the first mother is portrayed as a true victim. <br /><br />I wait to see how it plays out.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com