tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post8276459385854137576..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Why Become an Adoption Reform Rabble-RouserLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-82584508698727352662010-11-12T03:05:30.408-05:002010-11-12T03:05:30.408-05:00Speaking of the desperate need for adoption reform...Speaking of the desperate need for adoption reform, have you seen this:<br /><br />http://www.poten.com/NewsDetails.aspx?id=10773977Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-31626642950860215222010-11-11T17:49:54.280-05:002010-11-11T17:49:54.280-05:00Ah, shucks, Maybe...thanks a bunch. It makes all t...Ah, shucks, Maybe...thanks a bunch. It makes all the nasty things that have been said to me okay.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-78327450935820926422010-11-11T11:04:23.469-05:002010-11-11T11:04:23.469-05:00I was also suprised by the moderator's respons...I was also suprised by the moderator's response - seemed willing to listen to the hard stuff from adoptees and mothers, not something I see often from APs.<br /><br />Lorraine, I have to thank you for being "out." It was you who initially validated my grief and bewilderment at everything that happened to me. During the '80s, (not exactly sure when, but sometime after my baby was born) I either saw you on TV doing an interview, or read about you in magazine - can't remember exactly how I heard of you, but I always remembered that there was a book written by another woman who lost a baby to adoption. It was an OMG!! moment. I went looking for your book, but I kept thinking the title was "Birthright" instead of "Birthmark" so needless to say I never found it. When I saw the book here on your blog I put it all together - you were the one who gave me hope those many years ago just by speaking your truth...much thanks for inspiring me to be true to my feelings and to hang on.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-46732666044207892452010-11-11T10:27:27.400-05:002010-11-11T10:27:27.400-05:00Amanda, your comment...tell me about adoption made...Amanda, your comment...tell me about adoption made me smile this morning. I think, Like what do you want to know? What it's like to surrender a child? Sucks. What about the anonymous provision of the law? Also sucks. Do other women feel like you (or have they all gone on to make great lives without thinking about...you know what)? Well, yeah. What about those starving children in Ethiopia? Etc. <br /><br />I must admit, I think first mothers are spared such dumb questions, such as tell me about adoption. You might say, let's tackle world peace first. That's an easier question.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-43436344315661378572010-11-10T21:18:50.198-05:002010-11-10T21:18:50.198-05:00I think people need to understand because a lot of...I think people need to understand because a lot of us who commented were placed through agencies as infants doesn't mean we didn't spend time in Foster Care or have valid opinions on it. <br /><br />When someone says "tell me about adoption"....that' entails A LOT of diverse things. Step-parent, foster, transracial, special needs, infant/private domestic, international, kinship, customary/tribal...so on and so forth.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-31163845642222290452010-11-10T17:20:57.736-05:002010-11-10T17:20:57.736-05:00I am encouraged by the response of the moderator. ...I am encouraged by the response of the moderator. Our comments, mine included, were not deleted, dismissed, or denigrated as they usually are. I hope they are left for all to see. It encourages me that the need for openness and honesty in adoption is finally being recognized and acknowledged. It is good timing to contact legislators, and the media, and keep the ball of adoption reform progress in motion.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-35524942906842725392010-11-10T16:57:09.135-05:002010-11-10T16:57:09.135-05:00Well said. Here's hoping that organization got...Well said. Here's hoping that organization got the message. They have changed their post, but it's disturbing that it began that way in the first place.Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.com