tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post8822362353845202329..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Judge: Egg Donor Cory Sause is Boy's Mother--and will get parenting rights Lorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-24050056137664078302017-12-18T07:54:47.162-05:002017-12-18T07:54:47.162-05:00Kira--We are no fans of surrogacy either unless fo...Kira--We are no fans of surrogacy either unless for a family member and without money changing hands, but to us that was not the main issue here. We written several pieces about surrogacy. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-1760710228350749472017-12-17T18:48:56.729-05:002017-12-17T18:48:56.729-05:00Sorry, but the idea of surrogacy became hideous to...Sorry, but the idea of surrogacy became hideous to me. It's a third party who is omitted here.Kirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153748739888439056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-79251209015402735192017-12-14T12:21:09.817-05:002017-12-14T12:21:09.817-05:00This is the link to the unabbreviated version:
h...This is the link to the unabbreviated version: <br /><br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GofREVeNbcw<br /><br />I want videos like this to be seen by adoptive parents because it puts a face to the anguish of mothers like you. I really felt for the adoptee as well.Jay Iyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592280612055255470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9049508911214218982017-12-14T09:07:09.368-05:002017-12-14T09:07:09.368-05:00Jay--I just watched that video about the Chinese a...Jay--I just watched that video about the Chinese adoption/reunion. The reaction of the mother on the bridge was the way so many mothers feel. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-8243524456783209122017-12-13T22:48:37.810-05:002017-12-13T22:48:37.810-05:00Jane, I didn't say I believe him, I merely sta...Jane, I didn't say I believe him, I merely stated what he expressed to the court. I one hundred percent think his desire stemmed from patriarchy, as Robin expressed. He wants boys to continue his lineage - in fact, I recall reading he also wanted the boys and not the girls to inherit his business empire. He just needed to find an innocuous explanation for the benefit of the court.Jay Iyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592280612055255470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-76422623896225781542017-12-13T22:29:56.723-05:002017-12-13T22:29:56.723-05:00I'm less trusting than you are Jay. I suspect ...I'm less trusting than you are Jay. I suspect that if Schnitzer had had two sons from his marriage, he would not be going to all this trouble to have daughters.Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-75501009461622158592017-12-13T19:53:27.467-05:002017-12-13T19:53:27.467-05:00Yes, there was a patriarchal element to it, except...Yes, there was a patriarchal element to it, except he is couching it as "I love my daughters, I just wanted equal numbers of daughters and sons."<br /><br />As for Sofia Vergara, she drew up a contract with her now ex, Nick Loeb, that their fertilized eggs would not be brought to term without the express consent of both parties. She does not want a baby from those eggs, Nick Loeb does. His only argument is an appeal to the judge to please save the lives of these two fertilized eggs, which he has named "Emma" and "Isabella" in a bid to personalize them, even though the contract states otherwise. Sofia Vergara's argument is that Nick Loeb is not interested in fatherhood at all, he just wants to use shared children as a way of keeping a connection with her even though she has moved on and is happily married. I don't think there has been a court decision yet (at least, that I know of).<br /><br />As an aside, this video (link below) made me so sad for the first family and for the adoptee, for a lot of reasons. Seemed to me as if the adoptive parents should have been more transparent earlier on, and they also may not have made themselves more approachable when their daughter had questions about her adoption. At least I am glad her family finally got to be reunited with her, and that her adoptive parents did help facilitate that. Link below:<br /><br />http://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-42257906/the-secret-note-that-led-to-my-birth-parents Jay Iyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592280612055255470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-8238457712472932292017-12-13T15:45:16.859-05:002017-12-13T15:45:16.859-05:00I've hated everything about this story from th...I've hated everything about this story from the beginning. I recall that this father didn't feel his two daughters from his ex-wife were good enough since they were girls, and I believe the issue was that they would not carry on the family name. I'm so sick of patriarchy.<br /><br />Didn't the beautiful actress Sofia Vergara get into a similar scuffle with her ex-fiance over frozen embryos after the broke up? Does anyone recall the details?Robin (AITFOA)http://www.allinthefamilyadoption.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41922343180498132932017-12-13T15:02:06.120-05:002017-12-13T15:02:06.120-05:00It is so sad when adults think of children as poss...It is so sad when adults think of children as possessions and not as human beings whose welfare is paramount over the adults' needs. Jordan Schnitzer clearly is a narcissist. While I am glad Cory Sause has been recognized as the legal mother of Samuel, it is disheartening to me that adults can enter into agreements sealing the fate of a child, in the form of permanent deprivation of a parent, before the child has even been conceived. As you say, Jane, the circumstances surrounding Cory Sause's agreement were unusual. I bet the biological mother of Jordan Schnitzer's second son does not stand a chance, were she to be interested in contact. In all of this, the children suffer the most. Jay Iyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592280612055255470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-13087455373769538972017-12-13T10:13:32.367-05:002017-12-13T10:13:32.367-05:00What has been omitted in this imbroglio is evidenc...What has been omitted in this imbroglio is evidence reported by adults who were themselves frozen (suspended) egg babies and their lifetime trauma and isolation memories as they coldly brought into the world alone and sterile without intimacy of mother and heredity. Bizarro World spins for the privileged infertile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-53393204372371867162017-12-12T20:09:41.994-05:002017-12-12T20:09:41.994-05:00Aha! A woman judge.
Both men and women belong in...Aha! A woman judge. <br />Both men and women belong in all areas of law and legislation. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.com