tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post8856589881917972566..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Russian Adoptees Get a Respite on the Range and assorted ramblings about anti-open-records legislators, Rosie O'Donnell and her brother, and the awful 'open-records' bill in MichiganLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-6296752970264953212010-05-03T19:35:07.227-04:002010-05-03T19:35:07.227-04:00The discrepancy of wealth and education can go bot...The discrepancy of wealth and education can go both ways, as Snowdrop indicated. My son was placed with people very like my parents in every way, and with slightly less education. They were neither wealthy nor poor, they, my parents, me and my husband and the birthfather are all middle-class from working class background.<br /><br />The issue of anyone wanting money never came up, although the adoptive parents had other problems and issues and were not ideal parents, but then neither was I. It is sad that my son was surrendered and adopted because in the end it was so unnesessary; a lateral move that did not change much for him materially, and caused a lot of grief to us both.maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-71897072394009203512010-04-29T07:45:12.619-04:002010-04-29T07:45:12.619-04:001. Congratulations to UM for getting a law degree...1. Congratulations to UM for getting a law degree after relinquishing. That must have taken a lot of strength.<br />But not to forget the many mothers who, as a consequence of having had to surrender their children, were unable to finish their education and fulfill their workplace potential.<br /><br />2. It's not ALWAYS the case that Adoptive parents are wealthier than the first mother's family. Whatever the system. <br />I know adopted people who were raised in poorer, less educated families than the ones into which they were born.<br /> Just sayin'<br /><br />Little SnowdropAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-48358375507819902762010-04-28T20:19:42.501-04:002010-04-28T20:19:42.501-04:00UM: that is a great story: My mother is a lawyer.....UM: that is a great story: My mother is a lawyer....yes, it was worth the price of admission of law school, too bad you couldn't see their faces fall when they heard that.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-68246000980813763132010-04-28T17:09:00.745-04:002010-04-28T17:09:00.745-04:00LoL Lorraine-yes, and I add astute to the list of ...LoL Lorraine-yes, and I add astute to the list of qualities you have that I love. The first word of course begins with an F....rotfl :)<br /><br />UM- I love that story as I am so tired of "birthmothers" being considered the cockroaches of womenhood by some uncouth, uneducated and bigoted people. Kudos to both you and your son.The Improper Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460201280334904431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-89279430973212311642010-04-28T11:44:23.296-04:002010-04-28T11:44:23.296-04:001. Why is it when something goes wrong it's n...1. Why is it when something goes wrong it's never the parenting it's some syndrome that the kid has? <br /><br />2. Old myths die hard. My son's wealthy adoptive parents said to him - if that women asks you for money...<br />They also said when I found him. "We are calling our lawyer." Son proudly said "My mother is a lawyer." Law school worth it for that alone. It was the end of that line of discussion.<br /><br />3. Why are the Adoptive parents always wealthier - even if mom's background is solidly middle class? Even in a non-$$$ system of adoption.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41197486185792946242010-04-27T16:43:04.430-04:002010-04-27T16:43:04.430-04:00Dear IA:
Let me see, is the second word: "em...Dear IA:<br /><br />Let me see, is the second word: "em"?Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-40651778198481466982010-04-27T14:12:45.103-04:002010-04-27T14:12:45.103-04:00I can hear the conversation with O'Donnell and...I can hear the conversation with O'Donnell and her Adopted children now Lorraine. "I want to know who my bithmother is". 'No! No! No! you CAN'T ever, ever, ever know! She might want money from me!!" This mindset of "wealthy" Adoptive Parents is so illogical and full of outrageous nerve, to imply that "birthmothers" are so skank, so lowly, so trailer trash that they would actually expect cash from those who raised their children. I am just absolutley taken aback...The O'Donnell's hypocritcal self-centeredness, which will cause Adopted children to suffer from a painful idenity crisis and all the other hell we go through to due sealed files because of this bolderdash reasoning makes my blood boil too. I only have two words for both of them. I won't post them, but I am sure everyone can figure out what they are.....The Improper Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460201280334904431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-35011809963370061912010-04-27T13:25:22.569-04:002010-04-27T13:25:22.569-04:00About ten years ago, a friend who had adopted two ...About ten years ago, a friend who had adopted two boys from Brazil, told me about a dinner she went to with other families who had adopted from Brazil to honor the woman who arranged the adoptions from a Brazilian orphanage. Among the topics discussed at the dinner was how to get the State to pay for residential treatment for these adopted kids. <br /><br />A year or two later, I went to a continuing legal education program on adoption. One of the presenter-attorneys told of adopting a girl from Brazil who had many behavior problems. He noted in an off-hand way that behavior problems was par for the course in children adopted from foreign countries.Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05669797756463841249noreply@blogger.com