tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.comments2024-03-14T17:59:30.786-04:00[Birth Mother] First Mother ForumLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger32011125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-86135697042673552582024-03-14T16:57:37.639-04:002024-03-14T16:57:37.639-04:00Thanks for your comment and your sensitivity. Yes,...Thanks for your comment and your sensitivity. Yes, the repeal of Roe v Wade is tragic. I note that two of the justices who voted to overturn Roe are adoptive parents, Justices Roberts and Barrett.Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-13668292612967987392024-03-14T15:36:43.966-04:002024-03-14T15:36:43.966-04:00Parents name their children so why shouldn’t adopt...Parents name their children so why shouldn’t adopted parents do the same thing ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-48336445617340672262024-03-14T09:47:35.627-04:002024-03-14T09:47:35.627-04:00My aunt was sent to the SF Florence Crittenton Hom...My aunt was sent to the SF Florence Crittenton Home for Unwed Mothers when she was 16, in 1951. Her father insisted. My nana had to take her to SF, leave her there, and come home acting unphased in time to make dinner for the younger daughters. Noone ever brought up where L, was for all those months. Her son found her in the 90s. My aunt hadnt spoken about it for 40 years until he contacted her. Her kids, sisters, spouse--noone knew. The shame women were forced to hold on to is heartbreaking. The repeal of Roe v Wade is tragic. bald spothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10619364504304343222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-21578830068708925732024-02-28T11:50:01.078-05:002024-02-28T11:50:01.078-05:00Miss Jane I am now 62 years old I went on a search...Miss Jane I am now 62 years old I went on a search in San Antonio and ran into the nurse who took care of me during my delivery his name was Mr McGarity unfortunately he died but he did tell me that the man who delivered my child at the Texas I also found out from him before he died that the doctor who delivered me is the one who adopted my first born. I also found out that doctor died. He should know that he does have a full-blooded sister they have the same father and the same mother my name is Elsa Davila Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-61621480128660350972024-02-10T00:24:42.441-05:002024-02-10T00:24:42.441-05:00As an adoptee..taking anyone from their home and r...As an adoptee..taking anyone from their home and re writing them to fit somewhere else is a problem..it's a different kind of slavery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-83315989996299084732024-01-31T18:00:38.483-05:002024-01-31T18:00:38.483-05:00Contact others. If a birthmother doesn't want...Contact others. If a birthmother doesn't want to engage, carry on without here. There will be a few who will be kind. Find the kind people you're related to and block out the mean ones. Life is too short.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-20759304553545648552024-01-21T21:15:24.244-05:002024-01-21T21:15:24.244-05:00Interesting about your psychiatrist. I saw many a...Interesting about your psychiatrist. I saw many and not one ever felt that giving up my child for adoption was worthy of delving into with me.<br />Annnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-77374558094889916142024-01-15T16:24:49.355-05:002024-01-15T16:24:49.355-05:00Bravo! You've hit the nail on the head. I was...Bravo! You've hit the nail on the head. I was thinking the exact same things all through my reading of this book...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-45133638325787296312024-01-13T22:49:28.660-05:002024-01-13T22:49:28.660-05:00Mine wasn't what I wanted, but I knew enough g...Mine wasn't what I wanted, but I knew enough going in not to expect much. Never sorry I got my family back. Way better than adoption ever was. yosemitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00013672978685436594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-35042283647447495812024-01-02T18:16:32.303-05:002024-01-02T18:16:32.303-05:00I agree, the social worker never asked what I woul...I agree, the social worker never asked what I would need to keep the baby. Like help with rent for even 2 months, child care, etc. I was just reading today questions on a Catholic Charities Florida website. It had questions that a pregnant woman should ask herself when deciding on relinquishing. All the questions ask if she can take care of the child and provide “right now”. Such as financial, stable home, etc. They never ask if you believe you will be in a better financial situation in the future, etc. These 3 questions are geared to make the birth mom decide to relinquish by making her feel so worthless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-39775685737405223062024-01-02T11:49:23.012-05:002024-01-02T11:49:23.012-05:00I pushed wrong key... want to finish...that she di...I pushed wrong key... want to finish...that she did not listen to her Birthday vm or text or Christmas ..same for days and then went back to actually listen AFTER / then insulted me. I think she was playing with me and trying to get back. I have never felt love for her. I feel guilty. I see her as inferior. in many ways. Also I admire what she had done with what she is. I grew up with a Mother who felt that way or tried to act like it. I have far surpassed my own Mother in being a paid Classical music performer. All these feelings and lack of truly friend -like between female relatives is a sorry state . I see some Mothers and daugters really on each others side.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-21921655081353638112024-01-02T11:41:16.562-05:002024-01-02T11:41:16.562-05:00My daughter found me 4 years ago. I was supicious ...My daughter found me 4 years ago. I was supicious that it was legit. She had info had done a search. She called me we talked I tried to verify and was given gov info that she could have but I WAS NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE. TOO BAD She mentioned a serious illness. so that was a bit of a red flag for fraud. I returned he communications and she on the weekend never responded. PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE? I TOOK A SABATICAL THEN reached out. she still did not respond at a normal interval. She kept saying lets meet. Fianlly 4 years lateer she came here. I really do not find her someone I would want to know as a friend. She violated info about some dangerous teens that I knew about and pretended to shmooze them after I said it is important not to engage I HAD BIG REASONS...she defied wanting to look hip and non racist or something. She lives hundreds of miles away different state. She announced that she had bought me flowers and was so good to help someone out to buy some too. I LIVE IN A PLACE WHERE A CERTAIN ETHNIC GROUP GETS SCAMMED ALL THE TIME She was doing all this virtue signalling by being taken and tricked . Was she being defiant or trying to look cool? She continued not getting back to me on Christmas which is also 2 days after her birthday...so I put my foot down and said something on vm . There was no thought that maybe that time was sensitive for MEAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-42944420161040710542023-12-18T14:02:19.501-05:002023-12-18T14:02:19.501-05:00Hi Lorraine Tx for article as I google Florence re...Hi Lorraine Tx for article as I google Florence regularly …knowing this day was coming. I ran San Diego chapter ALMA for yrs so know of you and was close to Florence and the lovely missed Stan … I visited them over the years. Found my birth family in Ireland so she would send me the foreign searches (which were easier than Ca! ) Talked last Xmas…<br /> was due to talk this week.. she has been ready to join Stan for a decade so am happy for her. She was amazing…changed the culture, won a place high in heaven. She healed lots of broken hearts when laws changed thanks to her cheerleading, Glad I found your newsxxxBridie Kelly O’Shaughnessy County Limerick IrelandAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-82404467020058619742023-12-17T21:39:43.669-05:002023-12-17T21:39:43.669-05:00What made you want to reach out? I recently connec...What made you want to reach out? I recently connected with my biological mom but I’m scared that she will leave me again. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-49943491419432665892023-11-18T18:54:37.828-05:002023-11-18T18:54:37.828-05:00I agreeI agreeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-42547482686929075332023-11-15T10:27:37.317-05:002023-11-15T10:27:37.317-05:00Birth mother trying to find baby girl born Novembe...Birth mother trying to find baby girl born November 26,1978, Edna Gladney home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-17739297707828177522023-11-11T07:50:19.613-05:002023-11-11T07:50:19.613-05:00I searched, she searched. We found. It is not go...I searched, she searched. We found. It is not good. I am truly sorry that I searched.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-72339647188281462022023-10-09T00:12:24.024-04:002023-10-09T00:12:24.024-04:00A reader recently commented that the movement to r...A reader recently commented that the movement to reconnect mothers and children has resulted in mothers choosing abortion rather than adoption. Actually abortions have gone done since 1980 when the search movement took hold. https://www.statista.com/statistics/185274/number-of-legal-abortions-in-the-us-since-2000/ Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-61806110719894805182023-10-08T13:49:19.454-04:002023-10-08T13:49:19.454-04:00Robin, she loved it to and had it on display at he...Robin, she loved it to and had it on display at her apartment. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-11049489254252443032023-10-08T04:33:22.564-04:002023-10-08T04:33:22.564-04:00Well said. I am reading all... and wonder what hap...Well said. I am reading all... and wonder what happened to the rights of a birth mother? The ones who chose birth over abortion ? And a question to all . Do you feel this movement to reconnect with a birth mother is part why many decided to not have them? That one would choose abortion? I am not stating in anyway this is my true feeling on this. However this is also ones voice that no one is talking about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-27422948430081672062023-10-08T03:58:27.377-04:002023-10-08T03:58:27.377-04:00Absolutely agree ! Thank youAbsolutely agree ! Thank youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-32347712308400020812023-10-07T11:30:45.425-04:002023-10-07T11:30:45.425-04:00To add to my comment. When my daughter was born, I...To add to my comment. When my daughter was born, I was distraught. "What's the matter" asked an aid. "I'm afraid the people who adopt her won't understand her soul." I cried. Of course that didn't make sense to the aid. I knew my family was different, a little odd, and that others outside the family would not understand her. Florence's organization ALMA, soul in Spanish, told me immediately she understood blood mattered.Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-51526315497407801342023-10-07T09:33:13.705-04:002023-10-07T09:33:13.705-04:00I love that picture of Florence with her father, F...I love that picture of Florence with her father, Fred. She looks like a happy little girl being held and loved by her daddy. Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-23933440915491668302023-10-06T13:43:09.040-04:002023-10-06T13:43:09.040-04:00What an inspiring, touching, informative tribute a...What an inspiring, touching, informative tribute about a wonderful woman and her work. Thank you for sharing with those of us who did not have the privilege to know her. Thank YOU for continuing to advocate for the adoption community.Beth Steurynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-3740899346646262132023-10-06T12:28:29.587-04:002023-10-06T12:28:29.587-04:00"I was alone in my Manhattan apartment and fe..."I was alone in my Manhattan apartment and felt an eerie calm. There was hope that I would know my daughter one day." I remember picking up the morning paper and seeing a small block ad; "Adoption Issues?" with an invitation to attend a support group meeting in a local library basement. Although I felt outed and naked as I knew it pertained to me, I also felt that "eerie calm" as I knew THEN that I was not the only one thinking of a two decades old trauma --and that the hope and camaraderie of others might help me figure out what to do. We all stood on the strong shoulders of Florence and I did me best to carry her fight for justice onward in my state until my surrendered son had every single right he deserved. I remain eternally grateful for the tireless efforts of Florence. Yes, and thanks to the dedication of a determined adoption community, "the work she started CAN NOT be stopped !" RIP Anna Fisher and TY Lorraine for the heavy torch you continue to carry for so many.<br /> Nancy Horgannoreply@blogger.com