tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post1380088689233935360..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: OPEN RECORDS FOR ADOPTEE BILL PASSES IN NJ!Lorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-51867599075338585222011-05-10T18:54:07.053-04:002011-05-10T18:54:07.053-04:00Robin, I believe that NJ adoptees will have to wai...Robin, I believe that NJ adoptees will have to wait at least a year after the law goes into effect to get their OBC, don't know if they can request it before, but since the veto time for closet moms to file is a year, they can't really release any OBC until the count is in on the ones they will not release. <br /><br />It is already getting ugly here, I just read that one of the news stations had a promo up about a "controversial" bill that might increase abortions." Ugh. Personally I think that the Catholic Bishops' fix is in with Christie, and he will veto it because when they say hop, he says, how high? <br /><br />It is really sad it is not a better bill, and even sadder that the opposition is putting that bogus abortion spin on it with the media already. I do not care to be part of a "heated debate" on this, I have friends on both sides, and just feel sad that is a victory I cannot really celebrate in my home state.maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-30049298871651961562011-05-10T18:46:44.605-04:002011-05-10T18:46:44.605-04:00Judy Foster, a member of the NJCARE legislative te...Judy Foster, a member of the NJCARE legislative team for 11 years, always presents this when we are lobbying or presenting the issue to a group of people, that "secrecy is a thing of the past." She also adds that mothers are MORE likely to carry a child to term" as you mentioned, Lori. Thank you for these suggestions; we agree wholeheartedly that these are important points to raise.peripateticpamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06507244477729901775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-77959704734860651352011-05-10T18:39:27.253-04:002011-05-10T18:39:27.253-04:00The adoptee may apply any time s/he wishes to for ...The adoptee may apply any time s/he wishes to for a copy of her or his long-form original birth certificate. I<br />The point is that relinquishing parents will have a year following publication of the regulations (3-6 months after enactment) in which to file either a request for non-disclosure (of parent's name and address) or a contact preference form.<br />In addition, a birth parent requesting name/address redactipn from the copy of the OBC sent to an authorized requesting party will be able to rescind that request at any time, and the Registrar will reach out to the requesting party to notify him or her of that change of mind.<br />Pam Hasegawaperipateticpamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06507244477729901775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-47276477139618255372011-05-10T18:29:59.524-04:002011-05-10T18:29:59.524-04:00BD:
Second step is the Governor's signature....BD: <br /><br />Second step is the Governor's signature.<br /><br />Robin: Good question. I will ask. Stay tuned.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-88619843865087036502011-05-10T18:18:50.904-04:002011-05-10T18:18:50.904-04:00And just what will the second step be?And just what will the second step be?Marley Greinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184124024369071862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-46256342356873905632011-05-10T17:26:14.693-04:002011-05-10T17:26:14.693-04:00I have a question about these vetoes? Does the ado...I have a question about these vetoes? Does the adoptee have to wait 1 year after the law goes into effect before they can request their OBC?<br />ThanksRobinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-2747667602349432752011-05-10T16:39:06.578-04:002011-05-10T16:39:06.578-04:00Thanks Lorraine. Well said. Not perfect but a good...Thanks Lorraine. Well said. Not perfect but a good first step. Evidence shows us that in states that have vetoes precious few mothers take advantage of it and this one is limited it just one year. ALSO, if someone's mothers does exercise that right the adoptee still gets his OBC, albeit redacted. But he gets to see what hospital he was born in etc.<br /><br />It was a choice between "leaving behind" these few adoptees who are not totally left out, or nO ONE GETTING ANYTHING for who knows...another 31 years! The RIGHT CHOICE - a very difficult choice - but the right choice was made. The negative Nelly naysayers are not looking at all the facts of this bill and do not understand the political process that requires compromise. The legislators vehemently wanted an opt out veto. This is FAR BETTER! They didn't get all they wanted and neither did we. that's how politics works. It's a first step and i for one will keep on keepin' on...in NJ and elsewhere!<br /><br />See my firsthand view of this on my blog: ttp://familypreservation.blogspot.com/2011/05/victory-31-years-in-making.html<br /><br />Read and/or be part of a heated debate in the comments if you care to!<br /><br />In the end, NJ WILl stand as a model for other states when they tally how few people used the veto. States will eventually come to realize it's not worth the cost and effort. It will prove mothers do not want anonymity from our children.Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-76642211178493842292011-05-10T09:12:38.080-04:002011-05-10T09:12:38.080-04:00Make sure to pick Adoption/foster children as a su...Make sure to pick Adoption/foster children as a subject - or it will not go through.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-11627806028769779922011-05-10T09:04:29.170-04:002011-05-10T09:04:29.170-04:00I was curious about something, but hasn't anyo...I was curious about something, but hasn't anyone used the argument that "secrecy is a thing of the past" and that "mother's are more likely to carry a child to term if they know that they will not spend their lives wondering if a child is ok"? It is, in this day and age, very true.....Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com