tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post1411377410504822980..comments2024-03-14T17:59:30.786-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: 'I'm Having Their Baby' turns into 'I'm keeping MY baby'Lorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-73316481282350361432013-11-25T21:05:49.825-05:002013-11-25T21:05:49.825-05:00ADOPTION IS ALL ABOUT GIVING ..
If you can keep y... <br />ADOPTION IS ALL ABOUT GIVING ..<br /><br />If you can keep your baby then do, however the world is not a idealistic place, and stories constrict that all baits should stay with bode relatives, as simply , blood relatives gives not guarantee, that does not men at all it all always work... but great if all unwanted and unplanned babies are taken ion by extended families who may be willing to take on other responsibility.<br /><br />a) gives a Home b) Gives Hope, c) gives Love, c) Shelter, warmth... and most of all gives a baby / child a family.<br /><br />Interesting Blogs, but some of the blogs are like so negative to adoption? sad they don't or have not seen any happy successful adoptions, but guess in the beginning its the babies that where not successful ,and their bios through whatever reason gave them up... and contrary to the belief that kids are kidnapped, or babies are taken against a bios will, the bios cannot take care lf them full stop. geeps...<br /><br />so what does one just do? neglect babies and kids to a system for ever in limbo,leave them on streets to fend for themselves? who through no fault of their own are with out parents?<br /><br /> And sorry....Having a baby does not make you a parent, only make you have the ability to get pregnant.<br /><br /> Stats in some places are so high its unbelievable , but true and facts, is that so many children in this world are and were simply unplanned and not wanted , full stop... as abortion clear is a result of that.<br /><br />As long as there are some bios or don't give a dam, their always will be a place for Adoption. ( I am not at all talking about any loving and caring parent (regardless if bio or adoptive). Parents are the one who are their 24/7 stay up when you are sick and need love and Comfort, who take you to school, who dress and fee their children, wether adopted or not, parents are the ones who step up to the hard times as well as enjoy the good.<br /><br />I certainly takes a lot of courage to give something up you can honestly say you cannot take care of... and courage to accept a baby or child not blood related that takes unconditional accepting Love.<br /><br />it takes no courage to neglect and abandon a baby or child. And to not give a baby or child a fresh start, or any hope regardless if adoptive would be selfish not to allow for any baby/ child.<br /><br />however while there are abusive birth parents and young kids/ teenagers who use sex as a recreational tool to then only become pregnant to a baby they have no idea how to keep or pay for, there will always be the Need for Adoption.<br /><br /><br /> There are children stuck in systems all because of lack of and no care what so ever form their bio parents.<br /><br />Just because a child has blood relatives doe snot automatically make Bio parents trusted embers of society who are responsible to care for babies or young children.<br /><br />Most/ all Adoptive parents "are screened very well", and most have to have gone through a gruelling and strict system to PROVE they are of good character and FIT to be parents.... what prove do bios have to prove to a vulnerable dependant baby?.<br /><br /><br /> Just Open your home and place your words in action to help, stoop criticising adoption... as to often it only comes form negative and unhelpful people who don't lift a hand to help...<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-87031940994213937182013-09-15T08:56:04.054-04:002013-09-15T08:56:04.054-04:00From an early age, my adoptive moth insisted on te...From an early age, my adoptive moth insisted on telling me that if I ever got pregnant before marriage, "That baby is going up for adoption!"<br />And the thing is, in my home state one needed their parent's permission for abortion is under 18.<br />Needless to say that during my teen year, I practiced a lot of abstinence and was extremely careful. My adoptive mom, lovely woman that she is often accused me of pregnancy even when I was a virgin. It's like she couldn't wait to use me to give back tothe machine.<br />Needless to say, I made it to eighteen without a pregnancy. I guess that's one form of birth control, threatening your adopted child by taking away her nonexistent baby.<br />My husband and I were pregnant just months after our wedding. I was so excited to finally have a member of my family I would actually be related to and he came out looking just like me. I felt like it was such a gift to me, I still do. But there were a lot of triggers, especially whe he reached the age when I was placed with my adoptive family. He was so small and grumpy at that age. My heart went out...to me.<br />I know many adoptive parents who threaten their kids with adoption if they were ever to be pregnant. It think this is a big factor in why many adopters relinquish. I look back on my tween years and the inappropriate things my adoptive mother say to me and I cringe.Happy Adoptee?noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-61605957264560217632013-02-14T10:18:40.609-05:002013-02-14T10:18:40.609-05:00LauraD:
I don't recall where I heard or read ...LauraD:<br /><br />I don't recall where I heard or read that statistic and a just spent a few minutes looking for the answer on Google but came up with nothing. It must have been imbedded in some study I read and unfortunately did not keep the reference, or now, remember it. But we have seen and heard of its occurance so often that I think it is likely to be not far from the reality. If I do find it, I will certainly update this post and include it as a source. <br /><br />If anyone reading comes upon it, please let us know. Leave it as a comment here and email me at forumfirstmother@gmail.com.<br /><br />Thanks!Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-25410000110976881242013-02-14T04:45:28.841-05:002013-02-14T04:45:28.841-05:00I would love to know the statistic of adoptees are...I would love to know the statistic of adoptees are 7x more likely to give a child to adoption than non-adoptees. Do you have a link? <br /><br />A great article; thanks.<br />LauraDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08445185783356024685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-89532747510022755602013-02-13T16:23:41.271-05:002013-02-13T16:23:41.271-05:00Most definitely adopters think of their adopted da...Most definitely adopters think of their adopted daughters as whores and sluts, the same way they think of their daughters' natural mothers. I grew up hearing this constantly, about both of us, and they would NEVER have supported me in keeping an illegitimate child. They couldn't wait to marry "the slut" off to anyone who would take me so that they could stop worrying about having adopted me. Adoption is all about woman-hatred after all, it's bad enough boys cost more and the girls are what you take when you can't get a boy, but the definite opinion is that we are ALL dirty sluts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-44786960941924837072012-08-05T16:57:19.368-04:002012-08-05T16:57:19.368-04:00Adoption is never necessary.
Foster care is somet...Adoption is never necessary.<br /><br />Foster care is sometimes necessary.<br /><br />Permanent guardianship is sometimes necessary.<br /><br />But the changing of a child's birth certificate for the purposes of lying about the child's biological origins? Never necessary.<br /><br />When we speak of adoption in this culture we generally mean "someone other than the natural parents raising the child."<br /><br />But until we change the practice of falsifying a child's birth certificate, that's not the legal meaning of the term.<br /><br />What is needed is serious reform of the foster care system, and some legal definition of permanent guardianship introduced so that children who truly can't go back to their families still have a shot at a good upbringing.<br /><br />Adoption is not necessary to accomplish that end.Dana Seilhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11749354913843954242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-22532006082134746842012-08-05T09:10:05.682-04:002012-08-05T09:10:05.682-04:00@Anon 6:51pm,
Your comment makes so much sense to...@Anon 6:51pm,<br /><br />Your comment makes so much sense to me. That's why I am astounded at Lorraine's 7 times statistic.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-2895392654940088592012-08-04T18:51:13.591-04:002012-08-04T18:51:13.591-04:00I just found this blog and it is amazing. I am the...I just found this blog and it is amazing. I am the child of an adoptee who really has not been able to be a stable person, and sadly, I think because she never felt bonded to anyone, she was not able to be a good mother. I know longer have contact with her. But I will always be grateful that when I became pregnant as a teenager, she urged me to keep my child. She explained how it felt to be adopted and she did not want that for my child.<br /><br />I have always been glad that I kept my son. But for years I struggled wondering if HE would have been better off being adopted. I heard all the things you mothers did, he deserves to parents, he deserves more money, my life will be ruined, etc. When my son was about three and we were still so poor I didn't know how I would pay rent and keep the utilities on, I shared my self doubts with another adoptee. She looked at me and said, another family would've given him more stuff, no one but you would've given him more love. That comment changed my life.<br />I have known several people in the adoption triad as i believe it's called and I've always wondered why adoption is painted as this rosy thing, yet everyone involved in it seems to have issues. <br /><br />Thank you for this blog. I will direct anyone considering placing their child here. Also thank you for always exposing utah for the adoption fraud capital it is. I live in Utah, hopefully not for much longer, and it is a disgrace. LDSFS shames girls into placing with all kinds of threats and promises and a act of love is not much more than a baby broker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-22369016846910681252012-08-04T12:03:41.028-04:002012-08-04T12:03:41.028-04:00Anon 10:23 wrote:"but I don't get the pre...Anon 10:23 wrote:"but I don't get the presumption that your child was "meant to be" on the back of someone else's tragedy and loss."<br /><br />I think that many APs especially from the BSE did not understand or more realistically were not TOLD that they were getting someone else's child based on their tragedy and loss. My APs thought that my first mother simply felt she was too young to raise a child at the time and that she was making the "mature" decision to give me up for adoption. That she and the rest of society really thought it was in my best interest to be raised by a married couple. My APs saw my n-mother as putting me first. My APs were told that my n-mother freely chose to not marry my father and to give me up. When the truth was that she tried desperately to get my n-father to marry her and he refused. My a-father was quite shocked and rather upset when I told him the truth about my first mother never wanting to give me up for adoption and that she was forced because of the social mores of the day.<br /><br />There was a post a short while back from Gale Thompson who adopted less than 20 years ago and she also believed that her adopted children needed a home. I still think that the message that APs get to become parents only on the backs of the first mothers tragedy and loss is still not getting through. It would hurt the adoption industry too much. Certainly, there is a lot of stuff out on the internet now and books, etc. but not everyone does the amount of research that they should. I do believe that there are PAPs who would have qualms about acquiring a child on the n-mother's pain and loss.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-2888907019419276022012-08-03T22:23:30.087-04:002012-08-03T22:23:30.087-04:00caleigh brooks said...
"I suppose I better pr...caleigh brooks said...<br />"I suppose I better preface this with the premise that infertile couples were groomed by our society to think that if they can't produce their own children, they could just go down to the corner store and pick up a child - so you could say it's not their fault."<br /><br />I'm not an adoptive mom, but I did struggle with infertility before having children....and before we had kids, we got SO MANY comments from people about adoption that made it sounds like it was as simple as going to the corner store. But none of those comments were from other infertile women. They were from fertiles who had no idea about either infertility or adoption. Honestly, every infertile I know got pissed off when people made comments like that. <br /><br />But I do know of adoptive moms who talk about how their kids were "meant to be" theirs. I get feeling grateful for your adoptive family, but I don't get the presumption that your child was "meant to be" on the back of someone else's tragedy and loss. That just seems sick.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-10717550956874087172012-08-02T14:30:45.889-04:002012-08-02T14:30:45.889-04:00I don't understand adoptees being more likely ...I don't understand adoptees being more likely to relinquish their babies. I am an adoptee and I became pregnant at age 15. There was NO WAY I was relinquishing my only biological link to another human being. My parents agreed with me and were very supportive. I have found my biological mother, she has since passed away, but I have a sister and 2 brothers on her side and it all worked out for me. I try but I don't understand all the anger about this issue. I never felt anger about any of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-53914311313536864712012-08-01T23:51:17.091-04:002012-08-01T23:51:17.091-04:00I'm glad Mary finally chose to keep her son.
B...I'm glad Mary finally chose to keep her son.<br />But a lot of other people think other wise.<br /><br />http://im-having-their-baby.oxygen.com/ihtb/photos/episode-101-mary-and-claudia<br /><br />Check out that link, everyone is making a<br />lot of nasty comments about Mary. They are<br />calling her "selfish" and are saying she<br />"broke the adoptive parents hearts."<br />A lot of people in those comments see nothing<br />wrong with the PAPs behavior. And they are<br />praising Claudia as if she is a saint, for<br />giving up her child.<br /><br />It scares me that people think behavior like<br />that, from PAPs is normal. And think it was<br />"abnormal" for Mary to change her mind and <br />keep her son.Moonstarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-66250137697715103002012-07-30T20:40:07.577-04:002012-07-30T20:40:07.577-04:00And 2nd Mom, thanks for your input here. I know th...And 2nd Mom, thanks for your input here. I know that it takes courage to post here but we do like hearing from you, and are pleased to know there are parents like you.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-71098809684714920762012-07-30T20:31:45.044-04:002012-07-30T20:31:45.044-04:00Some story, Jane. I wish I'd seen that show. L...Some story, Jane. I wish I'd seen that show. Love to see a follow up.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-88595673012656832282012-07-30T18:22:46.241-04:002012-07-30T18:22:46.241-04:00Several years ago, Oprah had guests with a great a...Several years ago, Oprah had guests with a great adoption story. Birth mother finds relinquished daughter. Soon after daughter who is young and single becomes pregnant. Adoptive parents won't help, want daughter to give baby up for adoption. She does--to her birth mother.Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05669797756463841249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-84321392827433340462012-07-30T18:05:49.672-04:002012-07-30T18:05:49.672-04:00I happen to be a member of the forum you quoted fr...I happen to be a member of the forum you quoted from - amom wishing first mom would get pregnant and relinquish again - and it absolutely horrified me! how could you wish someone would go through living hell?!! I just cannot believe how incredibly selfish this is and since its a mixed forum (not just for birth mothers) I didnt feel like I could peacably express my feelings without it coming across as an attack. I absolutely adore our APs and I dont regret picking them as Julians parents - BUT I DO REGRET GIVING HIM AWAY. I would consider WILLINGLY having a child for them (something closer to being a surrogate but without their DNA - intentionally get pregnant for the expressed purpose of giving them a child) but to just find out I was pregnant again and give them the baby no way! I would love for Julian to be a part of a large family (as he already has 4 siblings - 3 bio and 1 adopted) but not when it would cost me my life and well being. As far as him placing a child in the future it would break my heart to know that he suffered the same feelings that me and his father are going through now - that a choice I made (to place him with a family that *might* not accept him totally) would cause him to have to make a choice like that would kill me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-51877076001352414132012-07-30T16:37:17.454-04:002012-07-30T16:37:17.454-04:00An adoptive mom weighing in here: We have a wide o...An adoptive mom weighing in here: We have a wide open relationship with our daughter's first parents (they are not together), their extended families, and we are the God Parents of my daughter's two biological siblings. We are a combined family (biological and adoptive) and have been since our daughter was born almost 11 years ago.<br /><br />caleigh brooks said... <br />"I suppose I better preface this with the premise that infertile couples were groomed by our society to think that if they can't produce their own children, they could just go down to the corner store and pick up a child - so you could say it's not their fault."<br /><br />"How is it that we have allowed the media, commerce, and religious nuts, to brainwash our society into thinking that it's perfectly ok for infertile people to take the children that don't belong to them!?" <br /><br />As an adoptive parent I can say that I was never "groomed" for adoption or under the impression that I could go down to the corner store and pick up a child. The only knowledge I had was of the cases I had seen in the media, which were horrific. Through a lot of research I realized how I personally wanted to handle the adoption process and what I hoped the relationship with my future child's first family and the child we hoped to one day adopt would be. It wasn't something I just jumped into frivolously. <br /><br />You stated that adoptive parents need some reason to believe "it's not their fault". I can only speak of my own experience with adoption and I can tell you that it wasn't my "fault" or anyone else's. It was the decision my daughter's first mother had made and there wasn't much anyone could have done to have changed her mind about. The father supported the adoption as did both families. They had all made that decision and were confident about it long before I came into the picture. That doesn't mean I didn't empathise with everything they went through during that journey or was blind to how heartbreaking that decision truly was for them. But it was nothing like the scenerio we all watched play out on I'm Having Their Baby where the potential adoptive parents were staring at the sonogram screen like ghouls ready to just rip the baby out of the mother's womb. <br /><br />As far as "taking children who didn't belong to me". My journey with my daughter's first mom and family(ies) was painful and heartbreaking on a million different levels. However, we didn't kidnap our daughter. I never thought she was somehow pre-destined to be MINE or that she was in anyway owed to me. Nor do I believe that God sent her to me. She is my daughter because her first mother gave her up. She will ALWAYS be her first mother's daughter and she will always be a member of her biological family. Her DNA did not change because she was adopted. Hopefully I am not unique in comprehending that reality!<br /><br />I do not believe that all (some? any?) states adoption laws are perfect or even ethical in some cases. Reform is needed. Education is needed. Ensuring that expectant mothers considering adoption are FULLY INFORMED prior to signing relinquishment is absolutely needed. But I do not agree with the assertion that ALL first parents were defrauded of their parents rights, that ALL adoptees are doomed to be scarred and psychologically damaged any more than I believe that ALL adoptive parents are evil-doers with only the worst intentions in mind. I'm not here being "contrite" or "crying crocadile tears" about my own journey. I am here to educate myself for the benefit of my WHOLE family...my daughter, her first parents and their families as well.2ndmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03645264337832827745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-69440418794627904792012-07-30T07:23:11.180-04:002012-07-30T07:23:11.180-04:00I've been reunited with my.son for two years n...I've been reunited with my.son for two years now, he's almost 22. He made the statement this weekend that he would like to have children of his own soon, he's far from ready. But he indicated he wanted that blood parent /child connection. He said he would never choose adoption and I completely support that statement.bains3401https://www.blogger.com/profile/15567287502931096578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-80267641436121752972012-07-29T23:47:15.718-04:002012-07-29T23:47:15.718-04:00I am one of the adoptees who could not wait to hav...I am one of the adoptees who could not wait to have my own family members. I knew the only way to do it was to create my own. Nothing else mattered to me, not school or career. I met my husband when I was 16 and we had our son when I was 24. We have a wonderful family of 4 children ages 15-26. They saved my life. When I was a girl I used to chant, "family is for other people, but not for me" when I felt bad about being alone. Now family is for me too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-56152297357925801822012-07-29T20:16:15.532-04:002012-07-29T20:16:15.532-04:00There were several adoptees in the maternity home ...There were several adoptees in the maternity home I stayed in 1986 It struck even then as sad/odd/disturbing that they would be doing what was done to them. It took me years of reading and friendship with them to come close to comprehending. (And I do not proclaim at all to fully understand but these days I do have more empathy and no judgement).Suzhttp://writingmywrongs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-27483164402933963802012-07-29T15:39:49.778-04:002012-07-29T15:39:49.778-04:00I agree with dpen. It never ceases to amaze me tha...I agree with dpen. It never ceases to amaze me that adoptees are more likely to relinquish a child. I cannot fathom in my wildest imagination giving my child up for adoption. I could not take the chance of causing my child so much pain. Also, I had already lost my ancestors and could hardly stand to lose my descendants as well. I never really thought about adoption as trying to identify with what my natural mother went through, I thought about it from my perspective as the child.<br /><br />I am not saying this to insult any first mothers as I realize you were forced and/or coerced. I grew up in a much freer time and had more options.<br /><br />I do think that adoptive grandparents-to-be would feel less of a connection with a grandchild who is not biologically related to them. I remember there was an adopted girl, Lori, on Teen Mom and her APs were adamant that they would not help her one iota to keep her baby. They insisted on the boy being given up for adoption. This was certainly in sharp contrast to all of the other non-adopted girls whose parents were willing to help.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-3694330001125036412012-07-29T15:30:18.531-04:002012-07-29T15:30:18.531-04:00Wow, Denise. That's just plain weird. I'd...Wow, Denise. That's just plain weird. I'd say your ex-DIL's relationship with her parents had more to do with this than a shaky marriage and divorce. They're real jackoffs.<br /><br />Back in the 1960s my ex-SIL got pregnant and married to her first husband--a real creep. They divorced about 3 years later, and he refused to pay child support--and his parents backed him up, saying he shouldn't have to spend his money on the kid.They themselves had no interest in the kid whatsoever.<br /> SIL's lawyer who, was an assistant county prosecutor charged him, and the cops went to the house to pick him up. Several times. He was never there no matter what the hour. (He didn't work as far as anybody could tell, so there was no other location to find him). My SIL called his parents one day and and one of them let it slip that they had a police scanner that they apparently took turns listening to, and whenever a cop was sent to pick him up, he left. gak! "<br />You[ll never get him" they gloated. So, the cops just didn't put it over the radio, and bingo, they got the deadbeat fast. Spending a night in jail didn't set wwell with him. He was bonded out, paid $65 as a start on child support and then disappeared for good which in the end was fine with SIL. She remarried and had a decent job so who needs the creep. I can understand him, but what's with the grandparents. At that time, he said he never wanted to marry again and had no plan for other children, so this was the only grandchild these people would ever have. And they didn't even want to see him.Marley Greinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184124024369071862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-53624994188014723842012-07-29T15:11:38.424-04:002012-07-29T15:11:38.424-04:00Thanks, for the props, Lo. I intend to write more...Thanks, for the props, Lo. I intend to write more about IHTB next week. I've been working out of town the last couple days.<br /><br />Friday night I saw part of the show in my room at the Comfort Inn in Dry Ridge, KY. I don't know if it was a re-run or a new ep. I wanted to watch the whole thing, but I was afraid my roommate would come back and I'd have to explain it to her--and that's too much trouble, so I switched over to Law and Order, my great TV addiction. This ep, oddly enough, was about reproductive predators who poke holes in condoms and knock up numerous women acting out their creepy narcissistic tendencies This charmer was a lawyer who'd fathered 47 children by hapless women around the world.<br /><br />Anyway, I did see clips of Claudia and it made me sick. Her whole problem is economics. The baby daddie can just hit the road. First he wanted her to get an abortion. Now he's threatening a custody suit which I doubt he'd wi with his track records of knock-em-up and run. And he doesn't have anything to do with his other kids. Wherewas Murray Povich? I understand Claudia. The new boyfriend seems to really care, but he's new and Claudia is right to be cautious. Otherwise she'll fall in a hole a never get out. The whole thing just pissed me off to no end. Money. I fully support women who don't want to be pregnant, don't want to give birth, don't want to parent. (That's me). But when you want to keep your and you're being forced to give it up due to what is hopefully a temporary money situation, that's bad and crazy--especially in the US. But then, we are at the end of empire, and the ruling elites are eating the est of us. This is just the beginning.Marley Greinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184124024369071862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-68295133644216500632012-07-29T14:37:28.126-04:002012-07-29T14:37:28.126-04:00I had no idea that adopted children are more likel...I had no idea that adopted children are more likely to choose adoption themselves. This is so sad and I now worry about my daughter.Jesshttp://shesonlythebirthmother.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-89169904265890734782012-07-29T13:10:27.702-04:002012-07-29T13:10:27.702-04:00Caleigh, having to "live it every day" (...Caleigh, having to "live it every day" (I assume you mean having surrendered a child for adoption) does not mean one cannot be offended by some of your extreme statements. What is your story, that has led you to these conclusions? Are you reunited? Knowing where you are coming from might shed some light on your opinions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com