tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2455767566546858390..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Dusky weaves the personal with the politicalLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-23308012860917908102015-08-17T17:48:41.385-04:002015-08-17T17:48:41.385-04:00Look to Lorraine Dusky's "Hole In My Hear...Look to Lorraine Dusky's "Hole In My Heart" to keep you riveted to each page as she tells of her decision to give up her baby girl for adoption. Though this story deals with emotional issues on many levels, Dusky's ability to laugh at herself by using a breezy, tongue-in-cheek sense of humor, keeps the narrative upbeat and positive. Dusky's writing style flows, her prose is exceptional, and quite simply, you won't be able to put this book down.<br /><br />She begins with her catholic upbringing in the Midwest, falling in love at eighteen, the loss of that love, and as a naive twenty-something journalist, falling prey to a handsome 'Lothario' whose only wish "is to possess a reluctant cherry."<br /><br />She puts the Lothario aside swiftly, and with her journalism career burgeoning, she falls in love with an older man, a journalist and a colleague, but he is not available. No matter his honest intentions and promises that they will be "together forever," life and circumstances intervene. Dusky becomes pregnant. Single and alone, and facing the mores of the 1960's, she makes the painful decision to relinquish her child for adoption and the promise of a better life with a two-parent family.<br /><br />At thirty-eight, she meets and marries the love of her life, but even with her new-found happiness, wondering, sadness, and grief haunt Dusky, until when her daughter is almost an adult, the two are reunited. What happens after their reunion, chronicles her emotions and those experienced by her daughter, Jane, and her adoptive family.<br /><br />Dusky discovers that Jane was diagnosed in childhood with epilepsy and resultant seizures, and that the adoptive parents were rebuffed by the agency when they tried to locate her and gain critical medical information. By writing "Hole In My Heart," Dusky brings to light the truth about closed adoptions, and how maintaining secrecy can perpetuate physical and emotional pain for every member of an adoption triad.<br /><br />With the acquiescence of her adoptive parents, Jane spends some of her school vacation periods with Dusky. Together they discover the "sameness" in several genetic traits and idiosyncrasies, like their similar tastes in fashion (remarkably, fedora hats) and in their physical dealings with serious bouts of PMS.<br /><br />Jane's dealings with seizures and having to wear a helmet for head protection during her elementary school years, cause her feelings of "being different" and leave their life-long mark. After meeting Dusky, many of Jane's questions about her life are answered, but she deals with undulating emotions, and periodically withdraws from contact with her natural mother. Dusky endures months of silence with no communication, then a happy Jane suddenly telephones for a newsy 'catch up,' as if they had experienced no time of separation.<br /><br />Make no mistake, you will laugh with Dusky and her very personal anecdotes. Then, as life-changing events unfold, you will cry with her. But be guaranteed that you will not find it easy to forget this extraordinary story by a courageous woman who is unafraid to tell the truth.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01724309978556478427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-15872305533355589202015-08-17T14:38:53.355-04:002015-08-17T14:38:53.355-04:00here is the link to Hole in my Heart
Link: http:/...here is the link to Hole in my Heart<br /><br />Link: http://amzn.com/0692455930Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-46474222718833229962015-08-17T14:09:45.014-04:002015-08-17T14:09:45.014-04:00There is a glitch from Amazon with the link above ...There is a glitch from Amazon with the link above under the name of the book. It doesn't show there is a kindle version. It takes you to a page that lists various outlets selling the book, though why they are is a befuddlement to me. However, if you get to that page, click on "RETURN TO PRODUCT INFORMATION" and that lists the Kindle version. Let me know if that works, though god knows how I would get this to be fixed!<br /><br />Will try! Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-58480831806199867122015-08-17T13:56:11.013-04:002015-08-17T13:56:11.013-04:00YO, THE KINDLE HAS BEEN AVAILABLE FOR A COUPLE OF ...YO, THE KINDLE HAS BEEN AVAILABLE FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS. JUST CLICK ON THE LINK HERE, AND THEN CHOOSE THE KINDLE VERSION. THANKS FOR ASKING! Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-13379054907744498182015-08-17T11:28:16.021-04:002015-08-17T11:28:16.021-04:00Hi Lorraine,
Please let us know when the "Kin...Hi Lorraine,<br />Please let us know when the "Kindle" version of hole in my heart will be ready. Many of us depend on the larger font option to feed our passion for reading.momengineernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-71976510746789827682015-08-14T18:57:35.770-04:002015-08-14T18:57:35.770-04:00Spot on review. Especially this: "what makes ...Spot on review. Especially this: "what makes Dusky’s so worthy of note is the historical and political context she provides." As a contemporary of Jane's and as an adoptive mom 40 years later, I found Lorraine's context helpful in understanding what things have been like for people in all corners of the "triad" to live in adoption under the policies of the day.<br /><br />My own review of Hole in My Heart is on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/review/R17JDWKA5D7YG4/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm?ie=UTF8&ASIN=0692455930Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.com