tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2462057208039723421..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Birth Mother's Lament: A Message for My DaughterLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-77959013908208608972010-12-21T18:16:11.840-05:002010-12-21T18:16:11.840-05:00Your love letter to your daughter needs to be requ...Your love letter to your daughter needs to be required reading for prospective first mothers and other mothers. I am swept into the journey of your words, your yearning for your 13 year-old daughter and your tender heartspace I hope you have embraced forgiveness with vigor on all fronts. Again to say my thanks for guiding us to such compassionate, wise, urgent places. Your words move right to my heart, each and every time. Jane Guttman--<br />Anaïs Nin: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”Jane Guttmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-47493634902453024322010-12-06T16:44:13.837-05:002010-12-06T16:44:13.837-05:00It's a very powerful letter.It's a very powerful letter.UnvisibleMothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-37574964078148750052010-12-06T15:54:09.492-05:002010-12-06T15:54:09.492-05:00Your letter is beautiful. My mother says that she ...Your letter is beautiful. My mother says that she wrote a letter but it's never been found. Private adoption - need I say more?J. Marie Jamesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13332149448125750269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-16154240000272173262010-12-06T11:13:47.950-05:002010-12-06T11:13:47.950-05:00"What I saw was what I had missed."
Thi..."What I saw was what I had missed."<br /><br />This is exactly how I feel when I see pictures of my daughter's childhood. I cannot describe the grief that I felt upon seeing photos of her as a baby and a toddler.Eileennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-37872910000162039462010-12-06T11:01:00.548-05:002010-12-06T11:01:00.548-05:00When I read this part of Birthmark at a kinship we...When I read this part of Birthmark at a kinship weekend at the University of Pittsburgh, there was total silence in the room, and only one person in the audience came up to me afterward. She was an adoptive mother and we talked about how she feels that her child was "meant" for her. It was an honest discussion between two mothers talking about a difficult interstices of emotions. <br /><br />I was surprised...that she was the only one...until I realized as the weekend progressed that most of the people there were adoptive mothers and my words made them cringe. <br /><br />So it goes.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-61591863252853785122010-12-06T09:10:12.011-05:002010-12-06T09:10:12.011-05:00Thank you for those touching words. I am also an ...Thank you for those touching words. I am also an fMom and my son turned 18 last week, and your letter echoes the silent love I feel for him.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15883441894674638032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-52898443018877591402010-12-05T22:00:18.854-05:002010-12-05T22:00:18.854-05:001979 was also a pivotal year for me ~ that is the ...1979 was also a pivotal year for me ~ that is the year my son was born and given up for adoption. What I would give to be able to go back in time and have these books available to me before making such a life-changing decision...Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-23677160361312712512010-12-05T21:16:00.373-05:002010-12-05T21:16:00.373-05:00Lorraine, 1979 was a pivotal year for me because t...Lorraine, 1979 was a pivotal year for me because that was the year I read "Birthmark" and "Lost and Found". It was your book and Betty Jean Lifton's book that pierced the numbness in my heart and soul...and started my journey out of the darkness as a natural mother.<br /><br />I thank you for that...Ravennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-34372552490119076982010-12-05T20:55:49.311-05:002010-12-05T20:55:49.311-05:00What a beautiful letter. Thank you for posting it....What a beautiful letter. Thank you for posting it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-26903074497962560132010-12-05T17:45:10.870-05:002010-12-05T17:45:10.870-05:00I too was thinking that was a photo of you at that...I too was thinking that was a photo of you at that age! And, I'm with Lori on the tears. What an absolutely beautiful letter Lorraine.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-62975417626555809502010-12-05T17:43:59.771-05:002010-12-05T17:43:59.771-05:00I too was thinking at first that picture was a pho...I too was thinking at first that picture was a photo of you at that age! What an absolutely beautiful letter Lorraine.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-45148638087516468692010-12-05T17:02:01.254-05:002010-12-05T17:02:01.254-05:00This blog reminds me of the old saying, "A pi...This blog reminds me of the old saying, "A picture is worth a thousand words."<br /><br />I was hoping you would also show a picture of yourself at that age.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-12629889266671295352010-12-05T16:10:05.376-05:002010-12-05T16:10:05.376-05:00When I am up to it, I will take a shot of the pict...When I am up to it, I will take a shot of the picture of me at the same age. It was...more than weird to compare the two. It was a revelation. And hard and wonderful to see the resemblance. What I saw was what I had missed.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-36855308842282161342010-12-05T12:06:21.162-05:002010-12-05T12:06:21.162-05:00Oh, what I would have given to have read a letter ...Oh, what I would have given to have read a letter like this from my Mother.....Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-17269322020767351372010-12-05T12:02:03.827-05:002010-12-05T12:02:03.827-05:00It brings tears to my eyes when I see how much a c...It brings tears to my eyes when I see how much a child looks like her mother.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-83534983306711161662010-12-05T09:20:14.549-05:002010-12-05T09:20:14.549-05:00Tears are easy these days. I think as I get older...Tears are easy these days. I think as I get older the emotions run closer to the surface. Maybe because I can cry now....<br /><br />I am glad you wrote it...I hope she had read it.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com