tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2701254943230802707..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Letters Lead to an Alternative Universe DaughterLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-59565982192483453552010-05-02T18:01:04.893-04:002010-05-02T18:01:04.893-04:00If I can wipe these tears away I'll hopefully ...If I can wipe these tears away I'll hopefully be able to attempt a seemingly understandable response. As a rejected adoptee twice over, by adoptive and birth, I truly understand the seemingly random union of strangers from which lives are changed forever. I too have, and have had, amazing relationships with mothers who have lost their children to adoption and who were rejected by them, longing to have their children in their lives for whatever reason these adopted children can not accept these woman...but I can. I don't claim to fill that spot that only your children can fill I only claim to know that there are people that come into our lives for a purpose and that help us heal and move on. I have lost two of these amazing woman in the last decade but I will never regret their impact in my life. Hopefully, they felt the same. And in this case your story magnified by the sharing of a person much loved by both is a heart and soul warming example of synchronicity. Thanks for the gift today of believing in something larger than my adopted rejected self.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-16130266627534214992010-04-24T08:34:31.342-04:002010-04-24T08:34:31.342-04:00Family consists of those who live in our heart. J...Family consists of those who live in our heart. Jennifer is now part of your family. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.Marilynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12898404258378316367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-32815462116875075772010-01-26T11:46:41.251-05:002010-01-26T11:46:41.251-05:00Totally, absolutely beautiful - and truly amazing....Totally, absolutely beautiful - and truly amazing. Thanks for putting this online, Lorraine.Third Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310395341252295955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-63713625489741218622010-01-21T22:54:02.354-05:002010-01-21T22:54:02.354-05:00wow that is one amazing story, I am just in tears,...wow that is one amazing story, I am just in tears, really touched me right in the heart!!! thanks for sharing with us!Mama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459176957674069370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-49071450079885132292010-01-19T12:30:58.987-05:002010-01-19T12:30:58.987-05:00Thank you for such a touching and inspiring story....Thank you for such a touching and inspiring story.Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41529281659575723232010-01-18T10:12:39.138-05:002010-01-18T10:12:39.138-05:00Dear Anonymous, your story touched me so much this...Dear Anonymous, your story touched me so much this morning when I read it...life is a long and twisting road. <br /><br />Both of us are fortunate to be blessed with understanding spouses. It's good that you and your first love and father of your son have this.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-86917276849789170182010-01-18T09:30:47.633-05:002010-01-18T09:30:47.633-05:00That is an amazing and touching story.
My son'...That is an amazing and touching story.<br /><br />My son's father tried to do the right thing by me. I guess I am one of the rare ones. <br /><br />My son's father was not allowed to see our son - when he couldn't make it to the birth (he was on the other side of the country at the time, earning money for us), the social workers swooped in and took our son straight out of the hospital before he had the chance to see our son.<br /><br />My son's father did not abandon me. In fact, he had rented a house so we could get our act together. He asked to make a statement of paternity when I told him that they would not let me name him on the statement of birth without it because we were not married at the time.<br /><br />When the social workers realised that he was willing to help me, they told him a pack of lies. They said that I didn't love him (lie), that I didn't love our son (lie), that he wasn't the father (lie), that I slept around and didn't know who the father was (lie), and that I had already signed papers giving our son away (lie). He believed their lies and left me. I thought I would never see him again. I was heart-broken and the social workers refused to return our son to me ("single unmarried mothers are not capable of raising children - we have better people than you waiting for that baby").<br /><br />When our son turned 10, my son's father managed to track me down. He started finding out about stories of corrupt adoption dealings and he had found out that he had been lied to. He begged me for forgiveness - and I did forgive him, as I felt he was a victim as much as myself. <br /><br />We had both married other people by this time but our spouses helped us to find our son. My husband has been amazing. He said he felt sorry for my son's father and couldn't imagine the guilt that he would have to carry for the rest of his life.<br />My son's father's wife has also been equally supportive. <br /><br />We are still in touch with each other. My son spent 5 years living near me to get to know me better, then he moved to be near his father who has spent a lot of time with him. They got together for Christmas eve, and before that, they went camping last summer.<br /><br />My son's father has promised to never abandon our son or myself ever again. <br />I am pleased to say that he has kept his promise. <br /><br />Do I still love my son's father? Yes. <br />He still cares even now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-27022000815435290812010-01-17T14:48:03.111-05:002010-01-17T14:48:03.111-05:00You made me cry. What a beautiful story. It is ama...You made me cry. What a beautiful story. It is amazing how the universe puts somebody there for you when you need them. I never felt that way until I went looking for my son - it happened so many times it was spooky.<br /><br />I am so happy that you have this person in your life and that she has you. I think it was meant to be.<br /><br />UMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-36808012706057510982010-01-15T19:53:01.310-05:002010-01-15T19:53:01.310-05:00Whoa Issy, thanks for the great review...
As for ...Whoa Issy, thanks for the great review...<br /><br />As for Golumpki recipe--Maryanne, I will post it here but tonight I want to write something about Haiti. The pictures, the devastation is hellacious. Ill get back to it, and I do use my mother's recipe., with one recent addition. It has somewhat less tomato sauce than that pix.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-15372802223864616702010-01-15T16:50:18.271-05:002010-01-15T16:50:18.271-05:00Lorraine, you are a truly gifted writer...
That b...Lorraine, you are a truly gifted writer...<br /><br />That being said, i wish you and Jennifer many years of close friendship. Journeys are always emotional...so strap in and continue to enjoy what life brings to you.~Isabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437976653688457847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-51080977585300130392010-01-15T15:26:10.578-05:002010-01-15T15:26:10.578-05:00What is your golumki recipe?:-) I try to make them...What is your golumki recipe?:-) I try to make them the way my mother did.<br /><br />Hoping to hear about your granddaughter.maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9370018237387929312010-01-15T12:08:52.331-05:002010-01-15T12:08:52.331-05:00Thank you everybody. I wasn't sure whether I s...Thank you everybody. I wasn't sure whether I should post this story here because it's so unusual, so I doubly thank each of your for your warm thoughts. <br /><br />love to all<br />loLorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-20158524025852799312010-01-15T10:26:57.405-05:002010-01-15T10:26:57.405-05:00All I can say is WOW!All I can say is WOW!maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-14971524857625317512010-01-15T08:59:06.353-05:002010-01-15T08:59:06.353-05:00Fantastic story - thank you for sharing. I am very...Fantastic story - thank you for sharing. I am very, very happy for you, this is an emotional journey well worth the ride. Just loved reading it not once, not twice but three times! Now can I come for supper that dish looks yummy!Jasminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17164072679242334427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-7812046704535151242010-01-15T01:38:01.938-05:002010-01-15T01:38:01.938-05:00Lorraine, sometimes when life shuts a door and ope...Lorraine, sometimes when life shuts a door and opens a window, we just have to enjoy it. This is a great joy. I am glad.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41175585534320406802010-01-14T23:54:03.054-05:002010-01-14T23:54:03.054-05:00What a beautiful love story Lorraine! I laughed, ...What a beautiful love story Lorraine! I laughed, cried, and was humbled by every bit of it. Thank you.Carlanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-4568872808237581402010-01-14T23:05:54.406-05:002010-01-14T23:05:54.406-05:00Nice to read this...
I believe things happen for a...Nice to read this...<br />I believe things happen for a reason and there are no accidents. Enjoy the journey.Judynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-17537385090977453992010-01-14T22:03:17.342-05:002010-01-14T22:03:17.342-05:00Wow, that story gave me chills! Obviously you and ...Wow, that story gave me chills! Obviously you and Jennifer were meant to connect with one another and I hope that your friendship last many wonderful years:)<br /><br />ps. that cabbage dish looks yummy! now I'm hungry!Lisa Robertshttp://www.lisaluckyphoto.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-32819173763157219902010-01-14T21:18:18.579-05:002010-01-14T21:18:18.579-05:00Thanks so much for sharing this story. We never kn...Thanks so much for sharing this story. We never know what's around the corner, how we may connect with another person and on what level it may occur, although, seems to me that true love is the most powerful. You're both so fortunate to have something so important to give one another. Awesome :DCampbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com