tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post2847729818257665298..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Today's Adoption Chat: List of great data sources; Drop Dead Diva debacle, blog notesLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-42832814255396330332010-06-25T08:02:15.169-04:002010-06-25T08:02:15.169-04:00Why push the stereotype that people adopt because ...Why push the stereotype that people adopt because they waited too long to try to have their own kids? For sure, that does happen, but there are also many medical reasons for infertility (hormonal, structural, male factor issues). It's my experience that people push the age issue (to the exclusion of other medical issues) when they're in blame-the-victim mode. No, what infertile women go through isn't an excuse to coerce anyone into giving up a baby, but it's still really hard. I've known several women who have dealt with both infertility and cancer and who will flat-out tell you that the cancer was easier and less painful.<br /><br />I am really learning a lot reading your blog (I am a woman with non-age related fertility issues who had kids with medical help), but you really detract from your ability to educate infertile women about your experience and perspective (and I do think voices like yours need to be heard) when you trot out the same tired, insulting stereotypes. <br /><br />(And even when women have waited too long, sometimes it has nothing to do with selfishness, as is oft suggested, but has to do with waiting to meet the right partner or it has to do with the fact that many, many women are uneducated about the effects of age on fertility before it's too late.)Gemnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-36764243897586777092010-06-24T09:56:24.270-04:002010-06-24T09:56:24.270-04:00Yup, and I cringed everytime I saw the battleax in...Yup, and I cringed everytime I saw the battleax in her judge's costume in commercials for this show. I'm sure that she does have alot of input concerning the scripts on Drop Dead Diva, and I don't think it is any coeincidence either the type of part she was cast in. A 'birthmother" hating authoritive figure.The Improper Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460201280334904431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-75335077496362447672010-06-23T16:06:24.905-04:002010-06-23T16:06:24.905-04:00Rosie is on this show?
Nauseating. Another reaso...Rosie is on this show? <br /><br />Nauseating. Another reason not to watch. I wouldn't be surprised if she has some input into the plot lines.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-22958517019238909152010-06-23T09:52:06.021-04:002010-06-23T09:52:06.021-04:00I don't like Drop Dead Diva either, especially...I don't like Drop Dead Diva either, especially since Rosie O' God put Adopted babies in the wrong tummy Donnell guest stars as a judge on this program all the time. Maybe her brother Daniel, the Adoption records should always be closed and I don't give a fat flying fig about "birthmothers" feelings and Adoptee civil rights O'Donnell writes the scripts Lorraine...<br />:)The Improper Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460201280334904431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-51386074542549340232010-06-22T18:03:20.486-04:002010-06-22T18:03:20.486-04:00Yikes! I blanked that story line from my mind. I s...Yikes! I blanked that story line from my mind. I saw part of that too but when I saw how it was going I turned it off. The writers must be .... you fill in the blanks. I liked the first few episodes I saw when the show started a couple of years ago, but it seems to have been infected with adoption-is-best, birth-parents-go-away-or-preferably DIE worm.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-79031869373394909592010-06-22T17:55:20.185-04:002010-06-22T17:55:20.185-04:00"piece of furniture"
Well of course tha..."piece of furniture"<br /><br />Well of course that is all the child is! Not supporting women is bad enough in real life. I will not watch this show. <br /><br />That makes 2 weeks in a row they have a story line like this. Previous week, a father returns who spent years absent because of amnesia, and just walks out of his biological child's life, you know, because that is the right thing to do. Ugh!Angellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400662014485775139noreply@blogger.com