tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post3355871325130184628..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: h♥le, cont.: Telling the family about my lost and adopted daughterLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-57271531239848864502017-05-14T16:12:22.599-04:002017-05-14T16:12:22.599-04:00Anon, I was there when my 31 year old lost daughte...Anon, I was there when my 31 year old lost daughter contacted me. And there are many, many of us.<br /><br />I encourage you to find a support group. Talking to other mothers who have been there is invaluable. Concerned United Birthparents and the American Adoption Congress websites are good sources to find other mothers. Local adoption agencies may also know some groups. Read every birthmother and adoptee memoir you can get your hands on. Start with Lorraine's first book, "Birthmark" and then her second "Hole in My Heart." CUB and AAC have lists of writings by birthmothers and adoptees. Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-74607918683824168522017-05-14T15:41:20.724-04:002017-05-14T15:41:20.724-04:004-14-70 The day of separation. No longer part of m...4-14-70 The day of separation. No longer part of my body...now, only a place in my heart.<br />5-9-17 The day my family asked if I had a secret child as someone traced her dna to theirs.<br />With mixed emotions I verified with this stranger that I am, indeed, the mother who was not strong enough to say "the hell with the struggles I will face...she is my daughter." How can I ever explain how I wanted to know about her all these years, yet today I am so distraught I now am reliving the most difficult time of my life and don't know how to do this. Until now 4 people knew and there has been no discussion all these years...I am no longer who they thought I was and I really am not sure that I can open my life and my secrets that have been buried for so long. I am in pain and confusion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com