tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post4926828400774380109..comments2024-03-14T17:59:30.786-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: How giving up a child affects you in the long-termLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger67125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9444583588534346952016-02-16T18:40:39.294-05:002016-02-16T18:40:39.294-05:00I am with you mother. I was talked into giving to ...I am with you mother. I was talked into giving to state and also claimed that I would get them back, but that was a lie. It has been 19 years, I too experience the endless pain, loss, grief, emptiness, hole in my heart so deep, not able to forgive myself it is so difficult to do and what the most hard part is my children are back in my life. I have been writing, calling, buying expensive gifts over the years to get their approval and their forgiveness. They have not shown me that they forgiven me, but they all have shown me they are ashamed and embarassed of me through their behaviors and actions. They lie to me a lot and bad mouth about me to each other. They do nottshare their true feelings about what they really feel and think of me. They visit me only 2 hours while they tell me they were in town for 1 week and visit me for 2 hours, later I have found out they were in fact in town for 3 weeks. I was not important enough to visit longer instead they visited others whom had kicked them out after the states money was gone. These are the foster and adoptive parents whom cared about the states government money more. Heartbroken Anna Barricuda5050@gmail.com<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352415833507935767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-32189278308993591982016-02-16T18:38:25.206-05:002016-02-16T18:38:25.206-05:00I am with you mother. I was talked into giving to ...I am with you mother. I was talked into giving to state and also claimed that I would get them back, but that was a lie. It has been 19 years, I too experience the endless pain, loss, grief, emptiness, hole in my heart so deep, not able to forgive myself it is so difficult to do and what the most hard part is my children are back in my life. I have been writing, calling, buying expensive gifts over the years to get their approval and their forgiveness. They have not shown me that they forgiven me, but they all have shown me they are ashamed and embarassed of me through their behaviors and actions. They lie to me a lot and bad mouth about me to each other. They do nottshare their true feelings about what they really feel and think of me. They visit me only 2 hours while they tell me they were in town for 1 week and visit me for 2 hours, later I have found out they were in fact in town for 3 weeks. I was not important enough to visit longer instead they visited others whom had kicked them out after the states money was gone. These are the foster and adoptive parents whom cared about the states government money more. Heartbroken Anna Barricuda5050@gmail.com<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352415833507935767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41322479806282708142015-07-10T00:55:14.862-04:002015-07-10T00:55:14.862-04:00Actually you don't know and sad to say can'...Actually you don't know and sad to say can't know how much better life for you, and your real mother(birth mother) could have been, or would have been had she stayed and people worked to help her overcome her struggles. You and your real mother(birth mother) were denied the wonderful experience of having a mother daughter life together just so someone who was selfish and had a better life going for them could feed their own needs regardless of the harm it would do to you and your real mom(birth mother).<br /><br />If you have to tear someone else apart to get what you want then that tells you right away that it is wrong. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-17444372262750047542015-06-09T15:43:10.883-04:002015-06-09T15:43:10.883-04:00WE DO OUR BEST TO NOT POST ON BLOGS THAT ARE PAST ...<b>WE DO OUR BEST TO NOT POST ON BLOGS THAT ARE PAST A MONTH OR SO. COMMENTS CLOSED.</b> We are sorry we do have have the capacity to simply shut down the comments after a certain date. To the person who recently left a comment, please understand. These blogs are not read by any but the few who stumble upon them. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-62996772798980256462013-10-12T14:21:38.248-04:002013-10-12T14:21:38.248-04:00Ranger Bagel:
"I want you to stop and think, ...<br /><br />Ranger Bagel:<br />"I want you to stop and think, "If I had not given up this child, how would the *child* feel right now?..."<br /><br />He would feel loved, secure, deeply understood, and that the world felt like it should. His words.<br /><br /><br />"...How would they live? Would they be happy with me?..."<br /><br />He would've lived as my son; seen faces he instinctively related to; expressed himself in ways that would've been regarded as entirely natural rather than as odd; and been treasured by me, my sister, his great aunts and uncles, his future cousin etc and eventually by my parents once they'd woken up to the reality of him; he would've been understood by me, even during difficult times and arguments, rather than being discarded and made homeless as a 15 year old. <br />He would've been very happy with me, as I would've been with him. He would've been 'got' because we have the same inner engine, as do my dad and I/him. It's our family engine. It makes our family sound. We understand it. <br /><br /><br />"...Would I have the money to support the child? Do I have the time and patience to dedicate to a child?..."<br /><br />I would've had the money to support my child if I had been told that money existed to help me for the short time I needed to grow a little older myself. And in turn, as I grew up more and paid my taxes, I would've been very happy for some of those taxes to be allocated to helping young people who needed it, as I once did. <br />But that information was concealed from me by my social workers. The tears of the waiting prospective adoptive parents were repeatedly reported to me, but somehow the information that would've supported me to keep my son was never given.<br /><br />As for time and patience? I would have found or made both, as all parents do. Or even failed at those and found myself frantically rushing about and a little short-tempered...as many mothers are. Whatever, my son would've been where he belonged. His words. <br /><br /><br />"...Would I ever be a fit mother?" <br /><br />I was the right mother for my son. We both know that, and that's what hurts. <br /><br />So, now I'd like YOU to stop and think. Think about how on earth you got to be so condescending. So patronising. So sanctimonious.<br />Think about what on earth made you believe that you were entitled to wax lyrical on an experience of life you seem to have so little understanding of. <br />Off you pop. Cherrynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-27052678216951595922013-02-27T14:06:25.685-05:002013-02-27T14:06:25.685-05:00@ Lorraine- "Certainly some mothers were drug...@ Lorraine- "Certainly some mothers were drug addicts and other lowlifes...". I am an addict & also suffer from several mental illnesses; do the illnesses I suffer from place me, in your mind, in the category of 'lowlife'? if you have compassion for those who suffer from mental illness, you should understand that drug addiction is also a disease (http://tinyurl.com/cganmu5).<br /><br />I had been clean from heroin almost 2 years to the day that I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I was stable on my medications, had long term employment (which I then lost due to extreme & unrelenting morning sickness & an angry, vengeful boss with untreated issues of his own), an excellent relationships with my family & a boyfriend of over a year whom had been a close friend for most of my life. I also happened to be managing my addiction with, in addition to regular 12 step meetings & a sponsor, a final stint in rehab and sober living facilities, suboxone. <br /><br />The first person who knew I was pregnant was my suboxone dr. Not a second after the words "you're pregnant" had come out of her mouth, the word "termination" quickly followed. But based on how sick I was, it was determined I was already at least 6 to 8 weeks into the pregnancy. "Termination", as she put it, was not an option to me at that time. <br /><br />But raising a child seemed, to almost everyone in my life except myself, to be no more of an option than becoming president of the united states. <br /><br />But I digress. <br /><br />I scored a 32 on my ACT. I was in gifted and talented programs my whole life, up until the point of my drug addiction. I was a painfully shy child who was also moved around numerous times in her short life; this made it even more difficult to make & keep friends. I was an oversensitive child, which made all the moving & changing of schools even more difficult than it might have been for a normal child. I was a child who suffered from severe migraines as well as painful & unexplained chronic infections & inflammations of lymph nodes, & for whom the traditional medications were difficult to tolerate & often ineffective. Then one day, at 15, the first day of school at my 3rd high school in fact, I was offered a mystery powder by a friendly & engaging girl in my gym class locker room. Desperate to impress, to fit in, I snorted it & fell in love, nodding out through a school-wide anti-drug presentation, & hopping in my car with my new friends to get more as soon as it wore off. Heroin gave me a feeling of calm, a relief from pain, a confidence that I had never experiences before in my life. The rest is a long & painful story that I'm sure you can fill in yourselves. <br /><br />My point being, every drug addict is someone's child. They are a person with feelings & likes & wants & needs just like any other. They deserve love & understanding just as anyone else does. <br /><br />And they do not deserve to be called "low-lifes" & cast aside like so much garbage. Everyone here is asking for understanding. Many of us are filled with anger for not being judged 'fit' for motherhood by society at large because of reasons such age or income level. All i'm asking is that you at least consider what I am saying, which is that every woman has a right to parent her child. The fact that so many of these comments/commenters seem to be making distinctions like "look, I never took a drug that wasn't prescribed to me, I never prostituted myself...", implying that someone who did isn't fit to be a mother is just...ignorant.<br /><br />Thank you for reading. I wish peace for anyone out there (no matter where they are in the 'triad') who is still suffering, like I know I am. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-19131989877576855062013-02-25T20:27:50.653-05:002013-02-25T20:27:50.653-05:00FMF... as a fellow adoptee who used to comment fre...FMF... as a fellow adoptee who used to comment frequenty in defence of first mothers, why are you letting the let's-bash-first-mothers comments through?<br /><br />I've almost forgotten the vitrol spewed here. What I don't understand is, why are you letting it continue?<br /><br />I guess you could argue that you want everyone to feel free to post, but honestly, looking at the comments, those who complain that you are censoring them wouldn't be open to reading what you have to say anyway.<br /><br />Don't waste your time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-26722654102366696432013-02-24T08:18:15.098-05:002013-02-24T08:18:15.098-05:00"My god, ladies" Ranger Bagel is so obv..."My god, ladies" Ranger Bagel is so obviously pathetic he's not worth the time of day. K. Is right. He's making fun.<br />Don't feed the trolls.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-2945380649407119552013-02-24T07:07:40.828-05:002013-02-24T07:07:40.828-05:00Who exactly are you addressing, J.L?. I agree that...Who exactly are you addressing, J.L?. I agree that people sometimes need safe places, but this place isn't called a forum for no reason.<br />Anon 22, 9:04 AM's comment has good advice for people whose need is solely for emotional support.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-74908324351680008202013-02-24T00:32:38.086-05:002013-02-24T00:32:38.086-05:00Anonymous February 22, 2013 at 9:04 AM,
Are you ...Anonymous February 22, 2013 at 9:04 AM, <br /><br />Are you purposely pretending to not understand and be insensitive or are you truly just that lacking in intelligence and the ability to empathize and to have compassion?<br /><br />First of all, in what world do you live in, in which people want to throw their selves into a lion's den, so they can be mauled/devoured?! Safe places have a purpose, they are needed! It's not about wanting a place to encourage some false belief that the only belief expressed in that setting is the only belief there is. <br /><br />We know there are people who are pro-adoption. We know people want to talk positively about adoption. We know there are people who are grateful they were adopted. That's not what I take issue with and I suspect you knew that but were just wanting to be dismissive, disrespectful, and snide. <br /><br />What I take offense at, (other than snideness from the likes of you and others like you) that I know I made clear, is the the bashing done to us mothers of loss here that serves to do nothing but spew hate meant to attack, to hurt, us mothers of loss. It is completely unwarranted and invalid. Why is it invalid? Because it offers nothing constructive, nor interesting, nor new to the forum. As if most of us haven't been verbally abused already. As if we haven't had our loss dismissed, and unvalidated before. Dissenting opinions are one thing, hateful, attacking comments that clearly have no other purpose but to inflame, to hurt, are another. I've read plenty of opinions that I don't agree with, but that aren't hateful and attacking. <br /><br />But I'm sure you will carry on twisting what someone else says so that you can give a false interpretation to validate your foolish response to try to justify you and any further attempts at discrediting, invalidating, belittling, or otherwise insulting that you apparently receive satisfaction in doing.J.L.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-59026409703122930152013-02-23T09:41:52.590-05:002013-02-23T09:41:52.590-05:00Phantom Mom says "Nobody ever wants to hear o...Phantom Mom says "Nobody ever wants to hear our side. Not our families, or our spouses, or our children, and most especially, not our lost children."<br /><br />That is very sad for those whom it is true like PM, and I know it is true for some. The internet can be a cruel place to try and seek understanding and compassion from strangers.<br /><br />But it has not been true for me. All of the above in my real life have heard my side as a mother with a horrendous surrender experience, and been sympathetic, as well as most friends and acquaintances. Yes, it took time and patience with some like my surrendered son, but those close to me have been my biggest support and comfort. IN recent years I have had only good and supportive reactions when telling people I gave up a child and have reunited. <br /><br />Giving up a child had a terrible and long-lasting impact on my life, as for most of us here. But finally getting to know him, know his life, know he is OK now, has taken away some of the pain and I no longer feel he is lost. Not that it fixed everything, but it has been a blessing and something positive in a sea of sadness and negative outcomes.<br /><br />This is just me adding one more experience, not to dispute any other mother's feelings or experience. We are all different and react and cope in many ways, not just one.maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-40268158934006042452013-02-23T00:02:38.317-05:002013-02-23T00:02:38.317-05:00Oh my word....
Please know that not all (or most,...Oh my word....<br /><br />Please know that not all (or most, I hope!) adoptive parents feel the same as RangerBagel.<br /><br />I am horrified by those comments and need to state emphatically that is NOT how I feel.<br /><br />Please remember a few attention seeking Anons do not represent us all.<br /><br />I often think some of what is written in Anon is false and meant to inflame.<br /><br />Its not always easy to read what is shared here but I always appreciate it as someone's truth and journey.<br /><br />Cindy<br /><br /><br />Cindynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-47222806971816202182013-02-22T23:56:03.492-05:002013-02-22T23:56:03.492-05:00I so agree with you, Lorraine. I am kind of '...I so agree with you, Lorraine. I am kind of 'shocked' to see these kind of comments - maybe that's why I never came out of this closet! Whoa!! But I love the comments made by the other first mothers that do come here and vent (like me sometimes), cause we can!!<br /><br />The people I have told are very sympathic and understanding - meaning my family, 3 close lady-friends, and my husband. That is all that knows that I searched for my daughter and found her, but alas, she does not want contact at this time. Unfortunately, I believe it's because of her a-mom - now SHE was quite upset that I even had the nerve to search for the child that I gave up 43 years ago... so, I guess I'll just have to wait until she dies, and maybe THEN my daughter will contact me... Sounds bad - but HEY! I sure would like to 'know' my own daughter.<br /> <br />Unfortunately, I didn't have any more children, and it was BEST for her when I gave here up - with a LOT of coercion (dictionary definition: the act of compelling by force of authority) - back in 1969.<br /><br />At least I know that she had a great childhood and is healthy and is still having a 'good' life - married with a son! Yes, I am a gradmother, but can only look at pictures... oh well - life goes on, eh?!Leenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-61686085857017759242013-02-22T18:27:32.229-05:002013-02-22T18:27:32.229-05:00To the adoptive mothers that come here and THINK y...To the adoptive mothers that come here and THINK you know what your talking about I say get over yourselves! I am fuming right now at the horrible things being said towards the first mothers here. Trust me I have had my issues with some first mothers as an adoptee, because I feel sometimes they don't(speaking generally here...totally understand how some first mothers do) understand or want to here the why and the true experience of an adoptee and will take it out on their child...but the viscousness that i am hearing from adoptive parents here is ridiculous. I truly wish my adoptive parents were still alive to teach you clods a thing or two. NEVER would they have spoken to or about my mother or father(first) the way you are. Why??? BECause they KNEW I would be hurt, they KNEW that they were my mother and father just as much as they were. They respected ME enough to get that...why can't you folks. They adopted because they were infertile, not ONCE did I hear their woes, not once did I ever get any derogatory remark about my mother....and conversely neither did my first mother about my adoptive aparents. So it sounds like I had the ideal situation does it? Yes, i did and i still wish I was not adopted. My birthmother did hurt because she could not keep me and i understood. My mom understood, my dad understood. When she died he gave me the money to go to the services...His comment "Of course you need to go, she is your MOTHER" He got it and it was more then validating to me. To speak to all birth mothers that are trying to vent on their site really is horrible...I hope you all do better with the child you are lucky to have and understand the pain the mother might be feeling. To the woman that was so proud to say what the child's mother said ...hope your child does't see that because it will only cause pain...pain that the woman that gave birth disregarded him so much, pain that his adoptive mother just might be gloating over it because it makes him "ALL mine. pain because he might have difficulty assimilating who he is and pain because he might not be able to discuss it with you rationally because it might "hurt" you... pain because the biofamily does't care enough to give him what he needs developmentally to grow and pain that the truth is that as good as some adoptive mothers are and how much they love them they might not be enough because they can't give everything they need...<br />So if you truly and unconditionally love "your" child then you won't be threatened when a birth mother vents her frustration and pain. You both might want to figure out how to come together for the good of the main point of adoption...the child...not the mothers.dpennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-62918061550680586612013-02-22T17:45:10.149-05:002013-02-22T17:45:10.149-05:00Ranger Bagel,
Words escape me - just wow...
If y...Ranger Bagel,<br /><br />Words escape me - just wow...<br /><br />If you are an adoptive parent then your comment is dispicable.<br /><br />How dare you even ask if these ladies would be fit mothers? I am deeply offended on their behalf. <br /><br />Shocked and appalled.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-29315897819521152592013-02-22T17:42:42.384-05:002013-02-22T17:42:42.384-05:00Lorraine - I am so very sorry you are dealing with...Lorraine - I am so very sorry you are dealing with this and your members as well. <br /><br />***<br /><br />To Anyonymous Feb 19 11:50 pm.<br /><br />Please take the time to educate yourself about the difference between foster care adoption and domestic infant adoption. <br /><br />Next you might want to educate yourself on what FMF's position on adoption is (they have a page about it) and from that you will see that they don't believe children should be raised in abusive homes either...<br /><br />Finally you Feb 21 2:21 am comment (BTW: why are you on the internet in the middle of the night anyway?)<br /><br />What gives you the right to assume that any of the mothers here would not have been just as good of parents as the parents their child was assigned too? AP's divorce just like anyone else, they go bankrupt, they have affairs, they lose their jobs, heck some even abuse their children and become drug addicts. <br /><br />And regarding this comment... <br />"My parents went through so much to adopt me, screening, time, money, etc."<br /><br />Of all the insane comments to make - you do recognise that pregnancy is 40 weeks long, childbirth hurts like hell and can last days, recovery is another 6 weeks. But you think filling out paperwork and opening your wallet is harder?<br /><br />P.s. both my families were middle class families...not different at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-1644640001388646032013-02-22T16:27:04.578-05:002013-02-22T16:27:04.578-05:00I, for one, like the comments I do not agree with....I, for one, like the comments I do not agree with. It allows for conversation. If nothing else it reminds me how much needs to change and how far we still have to go in educating the public about natural mothers and adoption issues. Leenburkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05006552239468993511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-61506287380806001722013-02-22T16:14:47.145-05:002013-02-22T16:14:47.145-05:00Ranger Bagel and Soconfused are typical of those a...Ranger Bagel and Soconfused are typical of those adopting. Sadly, with parents like that the kids they adopt will suffer never knowing the truth.<br /><br />Before adopting one should be required to take a mental <br />health test. Mothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-13219672352703278302013-02-22T15:06:19.762-05:002013-02-22T15:06:19.762-05:00Reading some of these comments broke me out of my ...Reading some of these comments broke me out of my firstmother flashback depression. I'm sorry if I'm not supposed to laugh. But that comment from SoConfused is perfect"Take him I can't stand the squealing!" And hopping up from her bed and driving off in a shiny new Lexus. I could barely move after giving birth, although I hear they kick the new mothers out of the hospital pretty fast nowadays. They kept me for almost a week.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9879141444881806372013-02-22T12:30:32.826-05:002013-02-22T12:30:32.826-05:00Ranger Dingbat wrote:
""You can give bi...Ranger Dingbat wrote:<br /> ""You can give birth to more children""<br />And you know this...how??? For those of us who were capable (not all of us were) of having more children...is that how you really believe...that it's just Okey-Dokey to give one's newborn to strangers...because one can have more? Did you give birth to your own children? If you did and you "can give birth to more children"...have you given one of your babies up to the Adoption Machine?? Because you can always "give birth to more children".<br /><br />I simply cannot believe the amount of horseshit I'm reading in some of these comments.Chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-45027219830430136872013-02-22T09:04:30.682-05:002013-02-22T09:04:30.682-05:00JL wrote:"When is this blog going to become a...JL wrote:"When is this blog going to become a safe place for mothers of loss? Meaning, a place where none of us suffering in our grief, so easily triggered into fits of anger and crying, will have to worry about seeing comments from those on the other side, whether it be adopters or adoptees, who are against us." <br /><br />What you want is not a blog with open comments, but a strictly moderated closed private list, mothers only and any comment deemed not appropriate not allowed up or removed. Such lists do exist. An open blog such as this is going to have all kinds of opinions and can't strictly be a safe place to vent with nobody disagreeing because it is public, not private. The blog owners have repeatedly said that they post all kinds of comments and welcome other points of view, even when vehemently disagreeing with some. There is a lot of controversy here, and in my opinion nastiness on all sides at times. Find a closed, all mothers list where the participants are in agreement about their adoption experience and viewpoint and other ideas are not allowed, then you will be safe to vent and only get agreement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9747874542749914332013-02-22T08:11:01.367-05:002013-02-22T08:11:01.367-05:00Nice try, SoConfused. Do you think one natural on ...Nice try, SoConfused. Do you think one natural on this board would have said such a thing? Go to one of the many natural mother bashing sites. You will get your answers there, I am sure. Chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-9073618254003852852013-02-22T07:12:35.850-05:002013-02-22T07:12:35.850-05:00@Ranger Bagel
How I feel about adoption has no be...@Ranger Bagel<br /><br />How I feel about adoption has no bearing on how my son will/does feel. It is my sincere hope and wish that he is growing up loved and cared for without any issues, but because he is adopted, I no longer have any control over that. He would have been loved and cared for with me, no question.<br /><br />"You can give birth to more children, that child does not get to choose who their parents are or how they live."<br /><br />I have given birth to 3 more children. None of them replace the son that I lost to adoption. Children are not interchangeable. They are not replaceable. The 3 children I am raising only make me realize how wrong it is that my oldest son is not with us, because we have a fantastic life as a family.<br /><br />As far as being a fit mother, yes I am. In fact, I am a stellar mother. The one and only thing my son's parents had on me was money. Guess what, they still have more money than me, but that has no bearing on what kind of parents they are or what kind of mother I am. The children I am raising are perfectly happy. Just as my oldest son would have been. <br /><br /><br /><br /> Leenburkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05006552239468993511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-4138595629552620862013-02-22T06:55:16.222-05:002013-02-22T06:55:16.222-05:00Actually, while I'm at it So confused, an apt ...Actually, while I'm at it So confused, an apt monikker if I've ever heard one. If the good denizens of FMF would permit me to speak on their behalf. ....<br />This forum is made up of Normal Mothers who are having a Normal reaction to an unimaginably terrible event. I would imagine most mothers here experienced sometimes physical and most definitely varying degrees of emotional and psychological coercion in order to pressure them to relinquish. In fact it is only in societies where there are the mechanisms in place to support this active coercion that we see large numbers of mothers relinquishing their children. But I digress. <br /><br />Given the above, S. Confused, what would make you think you would find answears to your highly questionable story, here?foundlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00379823341637915169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-51469736547256693572013-02-22T05:41:47.124-05:002013-02-22T05:41:47.124-05:00So confused, seeing how it's Friday I will bri...So confused, seeing how it's Friday I will briefly entertain the notion that your, ahem, story is true. <br />Do you remember the color of the Lexus ;)<br /><br />There are probably 2 maybe three billion mothers in the world? I'm guessing. 99.9 percent of them would crawl over broken glass to love hold and protect their infant child. <br /><br />If your "professor" really acted as you described then these are the actions of someone who is obviously deeply and profoundly troubled. <br /><br />You seem to know all about this mother, if you really wanted to know why she acted this way surely you could ask her? <br /><br />I was born at night So confused, but not last night. ;)foundlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00379823341637915169noreply@blogger.com