tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post6535084259721917318..comments2024-03-14T17:59:30.786-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Saving Our Sisters: Keeping your baby better than being 'nice'Lorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-49403923046672533502016-07-05T13:50:32.025-04:002016-07-05T13:50:32.025-04:00So happy to read about his organization. God bless...So happy to read about his organization. God bless all these women who are helping to preserve families and also to dispel the myth of adoption that the church likes to believe. The bible actually does not support adoption (Moses returned to his real family and the only other adoption story I remember is Hannah dedicating her son, Samuel, to God. So she gave him to the high priest of the synagogue as a gift to God -- not to another woman.) The NT talks about being "adopted" by God, so I think that is why the church likes to lump adoption by humans into the same group, and make it sacred and noble, but it's not the same. The bible talks about lineage and roots and bloodlines. No human being is seen as being entitled to take another woman's child and call him/her his own. Barren women prayed to God for their own children.<br /><br />With that said, please know that some of us unfortunately were groomed in the '80s to choose adoption. Especially those raised Catholic, and/or those raised by parents more worried about what the neighbors thought. So sad...I lost my son in the early '80s and I read so much about the '60s and '70s. For some of us, things didn't get better, and our children, whom we thought we were helping by choosing adoption, had immense pain as there were very few children who were adopted as infants during that decade. They must have felt so very alone and so very different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-80427620402676971002016-05-27T13:18:13.968-04:002016-05-27T13:18:13.968-04:00Us mamas need to stick together if we are going to...Us mamas need to stick together if we are going to help mamas and babies stay together. I am genuinely serious about my offer. I did send a message to SOS, and if you all ever hear of a mama or soon-to-be mama in need in the Bay Area, please let me know, and I will help in any way possible. No mother should choose adoption out of desperation, but we can only fix that if we provide help and support. Words are nice, but actions are better.Tiffanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-90258265259906809662016-05-20T08:15:40.597-04:002016-05-20T08:15:40.597-04:00Tiffany, you are so right. Sometimes actual physic...Tiffany, you are so right. Sometimes actual physical support is what's needed. Bless you for realizing that, and asking how you can reach out. Sometime it is a matter of the person who needs help knowing you are there. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-65861119643305008612016-05-19T10:33:53.203-04:002016-05-19T10:33:53.203-04:00This summit was so incredibly heartening and warm....This summit was so incredibly heartening and warm. So many committed and standing strong first mothers, first family members and one adoptive mom in one place. I felt so privileged to be included and learned so much from each experience shared. SOS has just begun to make an impact in helping women in surprise pregnancies to stay out of the court system. Education, sharing stories, and reaching out when we hear and see the need. Thank you Lynn Johannsen for making it all happen and Lorraine, Carolyn and everyone who made the commitment to be there, including my daughter. As a mental health therapist I saw the summit as cathartic for all of us because of the understanding we share. Here is to many more summits to come and many more families to be preserved!Linda Russell Katsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-5435769250575330152016-05-18T17:04:42.743-04:002016-05-18T17:04:42.743-04:00Thanks! I sent a message. I would be happy to he...Thanks! I sent a message. I would be happy to help support a mama any way that I could. I know money is nice and often one of the big issues (and I'm happy to donate as well), but often, it is the lack of actual, physical support and in-person help that is the problem. I know so many first time mamas who have always planned to keep their babies become very overwhelmed by everything after birth. Someone being there to help can make all the difference. Tiffanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-52054757096692729722016-05-18T16:48:12.055-04:002016-05-18T16:48:12.055-04:00Tiffany, I'm sure SOS would be happy to have y...Tiffany, I'm sure SOS would be happy to have your help. They have postings (somewhere) of all the ways people can help. Finding resources in your area so they know what is available and can give advice to moms as to where to go. Driving, babysitting, shopping, a hand to hold on a rough day. Merylnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-65118660726878025562016-05-18T15:08:04.554-04:002016-05-18T15:08:04.554-04:00To donate financially, check out the Concerned Uni...To donate financially, check out the Concerned United Birthparents website, and there is a link there to Saving Our Sisters. In some cases, the women have given time and physical aid, such as driving somewhere to pick them up and helping them get situated. Contact them through Facebook. A couple of the women have been trying to leave comments at FMF but been thwarted. In the meantime, I am working on getting the whole blog moved to Wordpress, but with help! I fear losing the whole damn thing--we have 1,150 posts now, as we have been publishing since July 2008. Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-28786691853329852412016-05-18T12:00:30.488-04:002016-05-18T12:00:30.488-04:00I've looked at their site before (read about i...I've looked at their site before (read about it on another blog), and it's hard to figure out how to get tied in to help. I'm in the Bay Area, and I'd be very willing to support a mother who was trying to keep her baby- so often, I think it's just the seemingly big things that are really small if you just have some help (support with caring for the baby right after birth, help bridging the gap between jobs, figuring out child care). I think this is a great idea. But I can't figure out how beyond the small group of people involved, anyone else is able to offer actual support. I'd love to get involved, but maybe it is just for first moms? I understand if that's the case.Tiffanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-56627335016436266672016-05-18T00:27:49.016-04:002016-05-18T00:27:49.016-04:00How can I donate to SOS? Can you please post a li...How can I donate to SOS? Can you please post a link so I can donate to this worthy cause?Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04635542862811033642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-78288260844769692702016-05-17T15:55:03.347-04:002016-05-17T15:55:03.347-04:00I really enjoyed the entire experience. Made a lo...I really enjoyed the entire experience. Made a lot of new friends, some I had only known online. And I believe that when you read, there wasn't a dry eye in the house. Your presentation was very powerful, and I think that the intimate setting truly let some of us reveal the emotions we keep hidden inside. Thank you. Looking forward to reading my signed copy of your book!Attila the Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02158308703617226652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-76855829166501926032016-05-17T13:55:21.512-04:002016-05-17T13:55:21.512-04:00Thanks Lorraine, for a wonderful recap of the summ...Thanks Lorraine, for a wonderful recap of the summit! If I'd known about it sooner, and known that I wasn't going to AAC, I surely would have attended. There is nothing more powerful than being among a group of women who have experienced this loss and understand the trauma. I felt it 18 years ago when I attended my first PACER birthmothers support group. I will continue to support SOS in any way I can and hope to attend the next summit. This is a group that acts, rather than just talking.Denise Roesslehttp://secondchancemother.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-82356902668438071792016-05-17T10:38:51.275-04:002016-05-17T10:38:51.275-04:00Thank you Lorraine for the great overview, it was ...Thank you Lorraine for the great overview, it was everything you said and more. SOS is growing into a wonderful and NEEDED service organization. Thank you to all who came, a very special blending of reality. please support this in your own areas.<br />Carolyn Poolernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-41365410543145809572016-05-17T10:32:24.749-04:002016-05-17T10:32:24.749-04:00Love the Photos! What a great group of women. SOS ...Love the Photos! What a great group of women. SOS is such an awesome organization for all the help they provide to mothers and their babies. But mostly I like that they bring the message of 'truth' about what adoption does to women and their children, against the popular narrative in this country which is based in lies, deception and coercion to young, vulnerable mothers to give their children to PAP's. <br /><br />Hope to attend next time!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01908086395357601866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-57464708842617832042016-05-17T02:27:47.497-04:002016-05-17T02:27:47.497-04:00I couldn't agree more Jane!I couldn't agree more Jane!Merylnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-74820155047852502732016-05-16T23:37:43.530-04:002016-05-16T23:37:43.530-04:00Excellent post Lorraine! SOS, an organization that...Excellent post Lorraine! SOS, an organization that needs our full support. Jane Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09715622112694146946noreply@blogger.com