tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post7985868955964530207..comments2024-03-27T20:48:39.389-04:00Comments on [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Learning Your Origins -- or notLorraine Duskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-58465014139415839752015-04-09T20:22:48.354-04:002015-04-09T20:22:48.354-04:00In the autumn of 1918 my grandmother was attending...In the autumn of 1918 my grandmother was attending her 2nd year of nursing school. The Spanish Flu arived and the nursing school was transformed into a makeshift hospital, the grounds covered by tents. My great grandfather, concerned for her safety, ordered her back home. A month later she and her younger sister who had just graduated high school went off to the big city together to find work. My aunt got a job working for an attorney, my grandmother got a job working as a lab tech at a university. My aunt had an affair with the attorney and got pregnant. the attorney was married. So my aunt had to quit her job and remained in that apartment with my grandmother who took care of her. The baby was born and it was aranged for her to be placed in an orphanage. My grandmother and aunt paid the expenses for the child for two years. Meanwhile the attorney's wife died of cancer. My aunt and the attorney rekindled their romance and got married. After the wedding my aunt told her new husband that she had a baby and it was his and she had placed the baby in an orphanage. My aunt and uncle then adopted the baby and never told the family about the truth about my cousin until my cousin and I started doing research. She and I did a dna test and that is when we confirmed the truth. The test said she and I are close cousins. We also compared DNA with her father's nephew who was delighted to help solve the riddle. I am glad my cousin learned the truth before she passed away. She had always felt that her connection to our family was more than just adopted. Several of us suspected the truth due to the fact that she looks so much like other members of the family at the same age. I have since learned that this was a common way to deal with children born out of wedlock back in the day. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-1337210130983491282015-01-13T20:47:43.842-05:002015-01-13T20:47:43.842-05:00I thought the world would be ready for my book, bu...I thought the world would be ready for my book, but I am afraid it is not. there is always going to be conflictive opinions when it comes to adoption. I wrote down my adoption search and presented it to the world. i hope someday they will see it is a book of gratitude not revenge. I hope one day I will truely be able to thank the veterans of World War ll for my life. It is what it is and thats what there is. so many were exploiting my story and making money I decided to publish "camelliastortch" and continue to keep the torch lit, no matter the condemnation, the mixed views. this is my life.camelliastorchhttp://camelliastorch.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-68169449862116454022014-03-30T19:00:12.536-04:002014-03-30T19:00:12.536-04:00I also told the Oregonian that in 2011 they perhap...I also told the Oregonian that in 2011 they perhaps are still "appeasing the audience" or is my birth mother still adopted?wendy Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-77737889197994887592014-03-28T19:43:55.232-04:002014-03-28T19:43:55.232-04:00Sarah Polley's documentary "The stories w...Sarah Polley's documentary "The stories we tell" in 2012, was compelling also when you look at the difference in publicizing or not an adoption story. It seems to amplify the emotional qualities of everyone involved. It becomes everyone's story and each opinion is difficult to understand. Very intriguing example of how the emotions play into adoption reform issues.Wendy Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-89837788969823881402014-03-25T15:41:27.664-04:002014-03-25T15:41:27.664-04:00Thank you Jane for acknowledging my story. You sh...Thank you Jane for acknowledging my story. You should also know that an adoptee with a story like that is vulnerable to the exploits of others because adoptee's have no real voice to prevent exploitation. I went to the Herald to share the story of a forgotten hero with joy and celebration but there are those who view it as sharing something that is forbidden and has nothing to do with me. For the last 5 years I've let the world decide if it is someone's dirty laundry or an Adoptee's true story. You decide, is it an adoptee's true story? Wendy Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-15832423036686421752011-04-16T07:23:22.133-04:002011-04-16T07:23:22.133-04:00Anon 7:46 wrote:"This just proves adoption do...Anon 7:46 wrote:"This just proves adoption doesn’t mean a better life."<br /><br />Even with stories like this adoption will still be touted as the beautiful, perfect solution to the problem of unplanned pregnancy.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-7624222021374910892011-04-15T19:46:23.748-04:002011-04-15T19:46:23.748-04:00Hi,
In the April 18th, 2011 People magazine (the...Hi, <br /><br />In the April 18th, 2011 People magazine (the one with Reese on the cover) there are two stories of pregnant women/adoption interest. <br /><br />On page 82 there is a story titled “A Second Chance for Moms in Need” about a women named Martha, who’s mission in life is to help homeless women and women in need with children get medical care, job training, substance-abuse, and mental-health counseling. Martha sees “pregnancy as an amazing opportunity to help a woman turn her life around”- and keep her children. <br /><br />The other story is on page 133 of the same magazine called “A Father’s Web of Lies.” It tells of four adopted children and four biological children who’s afather/father:<br />• killed their amother/mother, <br />• had falsified undergrad transcripts to help him get into medical school<br />• had been discharged from the military for schizophrenia<br />• had a prior felony on his record for check fraud<br />• sends the eldest adopted “daughter” back to her country of origin to “fend for herself”,<br />• steals this same young women’s identity/social security number to hide his own debt-heavy credit history<br />• the other children have to go in hiding for months due to his threats to destroy them, <br />• their brother commits suicide, <br />• and ultimately the oldest sister has to assume guardianship of the four youngest girls<br /><br />This just proves adoption doesn’t mean a better life. <br /><br />I love your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-60562538624158561552011-04-14T08:00:06.259-04:002011-04-14T08:00:06.259-04:00I had heard the story about Loretta Young's da...I had heard the story about Loretta Young's daughter but never the one about Bob Hope. There was also a story that Sammy Davis, Jr.'s "adopted" child was really his bio-kid with a mistress. It is certainly plausible since the boy had incredible talent just like his father. <br /><br />And yes, every adoptee in the country should have accesss to his or her OBC not just those lucky enough to be born in one of a small number of states.Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-89736190352763963482011-04-13T20:50:27.443-04:002011-04-13T20:50:27.443-04:00Viktoria - I've never heard the story about Bo...Viktoria - I've never heard the story about Bob Hope's kids?? But I did know about Loretta Young's child... ya never know!<br /><br />Great post!! I really can't understand WHY states don't open this records; equal rights and all!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-574300303008890516.post-12599661570158603842011-04-13T16:52:48.327-04:002011-04-13T16:52:48.327-04:00How romantic to find out that your grandmother mig...How romantic to find out that your grandmother might be somebody like a spy! <br /><br />And I read somewhere that Bob Hope's "adopted" children were actually his--his wife was infertile, he had an affair. So with his wife knowing the truth, they adopted his own child. And the others were somewhat "arranged" in a cross between a mistress and what we call a surrogate. <br /><br />Anybody know if this is true?Viktorianoreply@blogger.com