The comment below is about what happened in the Netherlands where many birth mothers spoke up:
I just posted a comment on a rose-colored website on which nice-looking presumed birth mothers write about their bitter-sweet experiences with relinquishing their newborn child for adoption. In the Netherlands we have had two organisations for birth mothers. The last one, a foundation, existed from 1994 until 2007. We had difficulty finding funds and board members but throughout these years we got a lot of publicity in the media. Birthmothers told the public about the emotional pain they suffered. Our "outcoming" helped prevent legalization of commercial surrogate mothering which was propagated by homosexual men and their organisations. They were supported by "Opzij" a widely read feminist magazine which is opposed to sexual exploitation of women but advocates procreative exploitation of women to achieve gender equality. Christian political parties in the Netherlands tend to favor relinquishment for adoption over abortion but they do get little support. Our birthmother foundation had a few hundred members. I never heard one of them say that relinquishing your child for adoption is a bittersweet experience after which you can happily live on.Oddly enough, when I was at a conference on kinship at the University of Pittsburgh a few years ago, the woman I felt who most found my point of view disturbing was the big Dutch lady from the Netherlands...She wrote about a process she called "kinning," that is, the bringing of the child into the culture and heritage of the adopted family.
Denmark also has or had an organisation for birthmothers.
Feeling under the weather with a cold these days, and a huge storm blew through Long Island last night. Going to get out and about and go for a drive while the air is full of negative ions. They are the ones that make you feel good. And by the way, those of you who read the post about the teenager I shared a room with at the hospital when my daughter was born, Adoption: Then, and Now, let me add the final note: unlike Catlynn and Tyler, who Jane wrote about yesterday in Inconsolable grief, when Lydia and her boyfriend came to sign the relinquishment papers, they went to say goodbye to their son one last time...and took him home.--lorraine