It’s hard to be thankful when you read the nonsense coming out of celebrity-land.
“If my [twin] sons want to know about their egg donor when they are older, I will be able to show them photos. But she asked that they not have contact,” singer Ricky Martin told People.
Ricky, you burro, don’t you know that you’re consigning your boys to searching faces in shopping malls wondering if that Nordstrom shopper or that woman sipping lattes at Starbucks is their mother.
Martin goes on to tell us, “that day that Matteo and Valentino ask me why they don’t have a mother, I will explain to them that they have a father who does the work of both father and mother. That what’s makes our family unique.” Not so fast Ricky. There’s lots of single-parent families out there. Now, if the boys are clones, that would be unique. But they’re not and they have the right to know about the other half of their DNA.
Then there's singer Sheryl Crow who requested closed adoptions … because she felt it would be too tough on birth mothers to see their children grow up in magazines. Crow’s children, Wyatt Steven, 3 ½, and Levi James, 6 months, are currently on tour with Crow.
Come on, Sheryl, their birth mothers are going to figure it out pretty quick that those boys in your photos look like them. If you don’t want the boys to grow up in magazines, leave them out of the photo ops but don’t deprive the boys of their right to know their original families.
It’s been almost six decades since Jean Paton began her crusade to end closed records and to date only four states have joined Alaska and Kansas in allowing all adult adoptees to have unrestricted access to their original birth certificates. Still, there’s a lot we do have to be thankful for.
We live in a country where we have the right to petition the government for a redress of grievances. While our opponents can lie through their teeth, they cannot shut us up.
Let’s give thanks to those who led the way, Jean Paton, Florence Fisher, Betty Jean Lifton; to those who changed hearts and laws in Oregon, Alabama, New Hampshire, and Maine; and to those still fighting, Marley Greiner, Pam Hasegawa, Anita Walker Field, Mary Lynn Fuller, and many, many more.
And, as imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, action is the sincerest form of thanks. Check out Bastard Nation for the fight nearest you.