This post falls into the category of never write about a book until you've read the last pages--which I did last night finding that The Deep End of the Ocean (written about in previous post) has one last surprise in store for the reader:
The abducted boy, Ben/Sam after being found/reunited with his natural family/moves in with them but wants to go back to the father who raised him (his kidnapper "mother" is in the loony bin)/custody is transferred back, but then, a few weeks later...the boy, who's twelve comes back late at night to his natural family...with his suitcase. He shoots some hoops
with the older brother--the kid who has been troubled since the day he let go of his kid brother's hand in a crowded hotel lobby. And together they carry his suitcase back in the house, share a pizza, and go to bed.
He's come to stay. His other father had helped carry the suitcase over. He's back. When his real mother and father wake up in the morning, they will find him there. Home. Returned to them. Home.
Lord, I can't speak for adoptees. I hope those who read First Mother Forum and have some personal knowledge of moving between two families, will comment. Jean Strauss, author of Beneath a Tall Tree, comes the closest I know of someone who has emotionally accepted her birth first family more than others through her writing and film making. At first she writes about feeling an intense loyalty to the mother who raised her, who is deceased by the time she finds her biological mother, but as the years pass, she becomes more open and accepting and connected to the one who gave her life--who was adopted herself. And they find her mother's mother too, her grandmother.
My daughter, Jane, moved back and forth between both families for years. She once said to me that she felt like a magnet, the closer she got to one family/mother...the more she had to move away from the other. She made perfect sense.--lorraine
If this post is confusing, please read previous post: What's the difference between being adopted and being abducted?
Jane will be here tomorrow with her thoughts on reunions.
Calling CT residents for flash action!
URGENT Connecticut residents contact your legislators NOW and ask them to support the right of ALL adult adoptees to obtain their original birth certificate! To connect to your legislator, click here http://accessconnecticut.org/