Monday, December 31, 2012


Jane & Grandson Chris
To all our readers, we wish you a most happy 2013.

Our wish for the new year and beyond:

Every child knows and is cared for by his or her own parents as far as possible. Families needing support to care for their children receive it.

Lorraine and daughter, Jane
---Articles 7 and 18, Convention on the Rights of the Child, United Nations, September 2, 1990


Other things may change us, but we start and end with family.--Anthony Brandt
Loraine Dusky, Sag Harbor, New York and Jane Edwards, Portland, Oregon


  1. And a very Happy New Year to both you and Jane, Lo. May the coming year bring much joy, many blessings, and peace for us all.

  2. Happy New Year to both you and Jane. I have been following FMF for some time now and your posts are giving me, an adoptive mother, much food for thought. It is so important that the Birth mother is heard, that the pain is acknowledged so that balance can be brought to the adoption relationship.
    I have read your memoir "Birthmark" and it rooted me to the spot. I hope to contact our health authorities in Ireland to have it included with other recommended, must-read, reading material for adoptive parents.
    I wish you joy, peace, health and success for 2013.

  3. Mari G, so nice to hear warm words right now...and from an adoptive mother. So often we are read by others who are adopting or have adopted and they are totally freaked out and put words in our computers we did not say, or interpret us in ways that are amazing.

    So, hearing from you is always welcome/ thanks and have a good year!

  4. The situation in Ireland is so Catholic, so harsh in some ways.


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