|Thanksgiving 2014 at Lorraine's house --Lorraine's brother Tom (next to her), wife Judy, and daughters Sasha (front left, and Adrienne, right of Lorraine)|
If there are some far away, give them a call and say hello, thinking about you, if yesterday you were too busy.
I know full well what it is like to go through holidays with someone missing out there. Adoptees wonder if their mothers are thinking about them, and mothers who relinquished their children are thinking if they ever think about them. I certainly always thought about my daughter when she wasn't there. We got to share too few holidays together. But that is the reality of adoption for birth parents and relinquished children. We can hope that they are loved in the bosom of their new families and are having a good holiday with them.
I spent yesterday morning baking pies (killer apple and pumpkin, home made crust of course!), dressing and turkey. Cranberry sauce with lime and orange had been made ahead of time. A friend who was joining us brought sweet potatoes, some white potatoes he called "sliding potatoes (they were oven roasted--in his oven), and the best Brussels sprouts I have ever had--sliced thin, lightly sauteed with with lots of lemon, lemon zest and cumin.
Yesterday my husband and I spent the day with his daughter and family. Somehow the photo didn't get taken at dinner but the one below was taken on Friday morning. This was taken on delay with the camera propped up on the baffle on the big feeder. The shot above was taken by my sister-in-law's Judy's son, who would be sitting where that extra dinner plate is.
Yes, of couse I miss my daughter. My granddauther Britt and I spoke on the phone in the morning (she's about to graduate with a degree in art education), as she was about to bake a pumpkin pie herself. I sent her my mother's recipe. And I spoke to my friend Jennifer in Michigan also (the daughter of the young man I almost married)* and my brothers, also in Michigan...and enjoyed with day with the family and friends in front of me. Focus on what you have, not who you are missing.--lorraine
*Letters Lead to an Alternative Universe Daughter
Hole In My Heart: memoir and report from the fault lines of adoption
By Lorraine Dusky
"A wonderful book! Through this memoir Lorraine Dusky does an amazing job weaving not only her life story but an impressive history of adoption reform and the political climate impacting it. Highly recommended".--Betsie Norris, Adoptee in Ohio who led the movement to change the law and let almost all adoptees in the state gain their original birth certificates.
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