[Birth Mother] First Mother Forum

Jane and Lorraine, 1982  At last the unending grief of giving up a child to adoption is being recognized by others outside our closed circle...

Lorraine Dusky I sometimes open the New York Times Magazine and turn to The Ethicist, Kwame Anthony Appiah, to see if he's got another c...

A preview of the new cover of hole in my heart . Coming soon .  How we think about life and its exigencies, its ups and downs, cultural shif...

Jane An Oregon woman who let her former boyfriend, wealthy Portland developer Jordan Schnitzer, use her eggs to create a son lost visiting r...

Lorraine Here it comes again, Mother's Day, impossible to delete from the calendar or totally ignore due to the incessant ads that pop u...

Jane I am the daughter of a mother who was an adoptee" wrote Annie on an old FMF post . "My mother adored her parents and God he...

Lorraine Switched at birth is a fantasy that may young children imagine growing up but when it does happen--as in a 2012 case in Russia--the...

I recently published a photo of this story on Facebook, and many stated they could not read it. It dates from Feb. 6, 1982. I found my daugh...

Lorraine  Women who relinquished children for adoption in the Baby Scoop era that began after World War II through more modern times don'...

Lorraine It's New Year's Day and I am reading a terrific new book about horrific adoption practices called American Baby , subtitled...

Lorraine Of all the gin joints in all the towns in the world...is a line from Casablanca of course, but the other night I had a similar expe...

Lorraine Last night I tuned into Tucker Carlson on Fox who was railing against people who are railing against Supreme Court nominee Amy Cone...

Lorraine Has the coronavirus pandemic changed your feelings about searching? In the midst of a life-and-death crisis, adoptees and the ...

Jane Should a man who has just discovered he has a child--DNA testing at work--reveal to his son, who he and his family have warmly wel...

Jane and Lorraine, 1982 New York's Gov. Cuomo announced yesterday that more than 3,600 people applied for their original birth c...

At my house  Ahhh, Christmas. Carols piped in at Starbucks. Christmas specials on television. Radio stations that play nothing but Chr...

My daughter (center) with her daughter, my mother and me. My family.  As on January 2020 individuals born and adopted in New York will...

Jacket photo on Birthmark, 1979 Last night I watched as rapper LL Cool J dealt with discovering that his mother was adopted, that the g...

Lorraine Sometimes things pop up in the media that indicate somethings in the air at the same time I've been ruminating abou...

Jane In a New York Times opinion piece, Hope Edelman's vivid  description of still grieving at the loss of her mother 38 years earl...

Lorraine "You have to think of your daughter as dead," a priest told a friend of mine whose daughter was adopted through a Ca...

Lorraine  DNA is changing how many families will be surprised by the appearance of a relative in the family tree who suddenly appears a...

Jane, Hiram, and friends I just spent a wonderful four days with my granddaughter Rachael, her husband Shane, and her three month old...

Lorraine  Does anybody who is adopted or who relinquished a child for adoption get a sinking feeling when they read a story about a wom...

Declaration of Independence This Fourth of July we will again celebrate liberty, one of the unalienable, natural rights with which we...

Too shy to push myself totally into the shot... Some people have said they can't adequately  reach the Albany Times-Union site wher...

Lorraine  UPDATED 11 P.M. JUNE 21, 2019 Adoptee right bill passed!!!!!!!! The vote in the Assembly was 140-6. (Final vote; 4 abstent...

Lorraine at 2018 Indiana conference with fellow New Yorker, Suzanne Bachner, playwright,The Good Adoptee  If surrogacy--renting a wo...

In Roseburg, Oregon, a small town 175 miles south of Portland, a woman I do not know will deliver a baby within the next 30 days and giv...

Press Conference on steps of NYC City Hall, with Sen. Velmanette Montgomery,  Assemblyperson David Weprin, and that's me with the bi...