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Geneticist Robert Plomin says children take  after their biological parents, not adoptive.  Kids take after their first parents, no...

My holiday amaryllis taken with my Sony  Like everyone else I've been busy with holiday stuff--I'm a dinosaur in some respects...

Lorraine "You will have another child and put this one behind you." Around a third of all women who surrender a child will ...

Lorraine speaking up at a NY legislative hearing. Not heard enough yet in Albany!  Natural mothers and adopted people often say there ...

Lorraine The widow can open cry for a partner who is lost. The parent of a child who dies receives sympathy and understanding. A mo...

Some of the 909 people who died at Jonestown 11/18/78 News accounts of the 40th anniversary of the Jonestown mass suicides where a thir...

Jane Many of us in contemplating adoption for our unborn child envisioned a home that we wished we had. I know I did. A devoted mother ...

Dean Skelos and son, Adam  Adoptee Adam Skelos suffered from classic Primal Wound symptoms; he abused drugs and couldn't hold a j...

Lorraine Last night I caught a few moments of Bull, about a trial consultant who takes on hard cases of course, it's a TV show. Wha...

Lorraine In the last couple of days, a heart-wrenching story about a little girl named Alexa who had been separated from her mother by ...

Dusky's jacket photo on Birthmark 1979  What happens to a woman when she is coerced--by society or circumstance--to relinquish a...

Dusky testifying at a NY legislative  hearing on sealed records in 2014 This was going to be a blog only about what will happen to the...

Lorraine When do you tell strangers that you are mother of a child who was adopted--and then make them understand what you mean? That y...

John Callahan Don't miss director and producer Gus Van Sant's new bio-pic about cartoonist John Callahan, Don't Worry, He W...

A comment too good to leave as simply a comment that will be shared with more people if I make it a full post. It's too good to not...

Daniel Mallory Ortberg aka Prudence Daniel Mallory Ortberg, the 32-year-old child of evangelical pastors, spews advice under the name ...

"Disaster," "havoc,""pathology," "harmful" were words that peppered the language of a disgruntled...

Megan and Jane at the old Courthouse in Bloomington, Ill 2018 For adoptees in closed adoptions like my daughter Megan, life is a puzz...

Lorraine Dear FMF: My husband and I are new to adoptions. We recently decided we want to adopt due to fertility issues. I met a lady a...

Lorraine I love that the 13 people got out of the cave in Thailand. I love that they are all right, basically. But now on TV they are...

                                          David Stonner/Joplin Globe Encarnacion Bail Romero with attorney Omar Riojas Today's em...

Daughter Jane and Mother Lorraine after reunion, 1982. We look happy there but the trauma for both of us was indelible.  I have been ...

Lorraine testifying in 2015 I am so f&^cking angry and upset. This is not a regular blog post but instead I want to tell you why I ...

Heffron's book at home on my desk Anne Heffron's searing memoir "You Don't Look Adopted" is not a book that I,...

Lorraine and daughter Jane, 1981 Sent today via the post office June 9, 2018 The Honorable Andrew M. Cuomo Governor of New ...

Lorraine at a hearing on unsealing records, 2015 THIS IS AN ACTION ALERT.  While the New York legislature is winding down, and again we...

Lorraine Along with the rest of the English-speaking world, let us now visit the British royal family while the Prince Harry/Meghan Mar...

Jane I hoped I could go one Mother's Day without reading a piece by an adoptive mother expressing her gratitude to her adopted chil...

Lorraine Here it comes again, Mother's Day, impossible to delete from the calendar or ignore totally because of the incessant ads ...

Lorraine and daughter, Jane, 1982 In a sign of the times, The New York Times ethics columnist Kwame Anthony Appiah is tackling adoption...