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Lorraine at 2018 Indiana conference with fellow New Yorker, Suzanne Bachner, playwright,The Good Adoptee  If surrogacy--renting a wo...

In Roseburg, Oregon, a small town 175 miles south of Portland, a woman I do not know will deliver a baby within the next 30 days and giv...

Press Conference on steps of NYC City Hall, with Sen. Velmanette Montgomery,  Assemblyperson David Weprin, and that's me with the bi...

Lorraine Here it comes again, Mother's Day, impossible to delete from the calendar or ignore totally because of the incessant ads t...

Daughter Jane and Mother Lorraine 1983 "My little girl said to me one day, 'I wonder what my mother was like,', she recal...

Lorraine Hoda Kotb of the Today show adopted again. I caught the end of the reveal on Today this morning, and all the women sitting ar...

Kelly Hansen It's always thrilling when someone not a first mother or an adoptee gets it. Kelly Hansen, a high-tech professional i...

Lorraine My letter to New York Senators on the Health Committee in the state legislature:   Dear Senator X:  A true identity should ...

Legislators Velmanette Montgomery and David Weprin, Lorraine Dusky at press conference on step of NYC City Hall  a few years ago. Th...

As predictable as Groundhog Day repeating itself is adoptive mothers who go ballistic when referred to as adoptive mothers. "I am the...

Lorraine A few days ago a friend emailed me about seeing the Judy Chicago Birth Project--a series of impressionist and graphic woven i...

Geneticist Robert Plomin says children take  after their biological parents, not adoptive.  Kids take after their first parents, no...

My holiday amaryllis taken with my Sony  Like everyone else I've been busy with holiday stuff--I'm a dinosaur in some respects...

Lorraine "You will have another child and put this one behind you." Around a third of all women who surrender a child will ...

Lorraine speaking up at a NY legislative hearing. Not heard enough yet in Albany!  Natural mothers and adopted people often say there ...

Lorraine The widow can open cry for a partner who is lost. The parent of a child who dies receives sympathy and understanding. A mo...

Some of the 909 people who died at Jonestown 11/18/78 News accounts of the 40th anniversary of the Jonestown mass suicides where a thir...

Jane Many of us in contemplating adoption for our unborn child envisioned a home that we wished we had. I know I did. A devoted mother ...

Dean Skelos and son, Adam  Adoptee Adam Skelos suffered from classic Primal Wound symptoms; he abused drugs and couldn't hold a j...

Lorraine Last night I caught a few moments of Bull, about a trial consultant who takes on hard cases of course, it's a TV show. Wha...

Lorraine In the last couple of days, a heart-wrenching story about a little girl named Alexa who had been separated from her mother by ...

Dusky's jacket photo on Birthmark 1979  What happens to a woman when she is coerced--by society or circumstance--to relinquish a...

Dusky testifying at a NY legislative  hearing on sealed records in 2014 This was going to be a blog only about what will happen to the...

Lorraine When do you tell strangers that you are mother of a child who was adopted--and then make them understand what you mean? That y...

John Callahan Don't miss director and producer Gus Van Sant's new bio-pic about cartoonist John Callahan, Don't Worry, He W...

A comment too good to leave as simply a comment that will be shared with more people if I make it a full post. It's too good to not...

Daniel Mallory Ortberg aka Prudence Daniel Mallory Ortberg, the 32-year-old child of evangelical pastors, spews advice under the name ...

"Disaster," "havoc,""pathology," "harmful" were words that peppered the language of a disgruntled...

Megan and Jane at the old Courthouse in Bloomington, Ill 2018 For adoptees in closed adoptions like my daughter Megan, life is a puzz...

Lorraine Dear FMF: My husband and I are new to adoptions. We recently decided we want to adopt due to fertility issues. I met a lady a...