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"Raising an adopted child is not like raising a biological child" adoptive mother "Gale" wrote to First Mother Forum. After years
of infertility, Gale and her husband adopted domestically a girl, now 19, and a boy, now 17, as infants. Gale, a nurse and writer who lives in Atlanta, asked us at FMF for advice about her son who wanted to meet his birth mother. We suggested working with a counselor to contact the birth mother and, if she was agreeable to meeting the boy, to encourage the birth mother to put aside any issues she may have and work together as a team for the boy's benefit.
She thanked us and went on to write: "Also,
since I know you and [fellow blogger]Lorraine are devoted to helping adoptees and birth
mothers, I’d like to offer an adoptive parent perspective ... that
may help you understand when adoptive parents are resistant [to reunions]." We eagerly accepted her offer and post her email here.
