[Birth Mother] First Mother Forum

Kelly Hansen It's always thrilling when someone not a first mother or an adoptee gets it. Kelly Hansen, a high-tech professional i...

Jane in 1968 Thanksgiving has always been intertwined with the birth of my surrendered daughter Rebecca* and our reunion. She was born ...

Lorraine Triggers. They are everywhere. We can try to avoid them, but they will keep on popping up like weeds in your yard that you pul...

Jane "One reason I had searched for [my birth mother] was that I wanted to tell her that she'd done the right thing. I always ...

Jane Today is my lost daughter, Rebecca's, 50th birthday.  She was born on a Thursday, like today, a week before Thanksgiving. She ...

Jane Adoptees often ask us whether their natural mothers think of them, "at least on my birthday." Lorraine and I assure them...

Jane, DMC, and Jeanette Roberts at AAC 3-8-07 I met the rapper, Darryl McDaniels ( DMC)  in 2007 when I attended the annual conference ...

Jane "Does the pain ever end?" asked a newly reunited natural mother. "It's always there somewhere," I answer...

Jane in 1968  Natural mothers have a date burned in their brains--the day events put them on the trajectory culminating in the loss of ...

Jane When I gave up my daughter Rebecca in 1966, I promised myself I would search for her when she turned 18. It made it easier to give...

Lorraine Tears. I doubt that even the most hardened people do not get through a reunion without some tears, whether they are tears of r...

Jeanette Winterson "Do you plan to search for your birth parents" asked my impudent first mother friend at a reading by Engli...

Jane and Lorraine in 1983 Just an add to yesterday's blog about a confidential intermediary's comment about married birth/first ...

The story of Lisa and Lorraine appears in today's New York Times. Click on link below: Adoption, Reunion, Connection Writer Sue ...

This is the second part of a three part story by Joe Sanchez who lost his daughter to adoption in 1964; the final segment will be posted ...

I foolishly asserted in the June 19 column, “Firstmother Husbands: How They Handle the News of an Earlier Child,” that “the outraged husban...

I am reluctant to discuss my birth motherhood outside of adoption circles. I did not tell anyone about Rebecca, my surrendered daughter, e...

Regular readers of our blog know that I’ve always been candid about my birthmother status. In the initial post-adoption years it was easy fo...

Continuing yesterday's post about my daughter's first visit to my home on Long Island: Copyright (c) Lorraine Dusky 2009 That day I ...

Jane's post got me to thinking about my daughter's (also named Jane) first visit to my house on Long Island. She had just turned six...