PS: To the Terri Vanech story

No, we did not find her mother yet.

I posted her guest post (see below, or Adoptee learns to live out loud by finding herself)  late last night but forgot to add how Terri and I became acquainted. After reading another story of hers about her growing need to find her biological parents, I wrote about her in Adopted People Are Not Allowed Ancestry Because It Might Upset Somebody.  She found the blog, contacted me, and thus began a friendship. She was born in 1966, the same year as my daughter, whom most of you know committed suicide. The fact that Terri was the same age as my daughter added a special poignancy to our friendship.

I put her in touch with a searcher friend, also Jennifer, who tried, but she could not find the "Jennifer" she was looking for. Later later, Terri wrote a piece for Newsday that I put up as a permanent page: Looking for my birth mother. 
--lorraine

Abandonment issues in adoption on America's Next Top Model

Lorraine

America's Next Top Model is not the place where you would expect adoption issues to be discussed but this season features Molly, a young woman Tyra Banks told repeatedly that her mean, sourpuss demeanor when the camera wasn't on her would lose her bookings--even though she took totally fab pictures. Molly is one of the two finalists, the winner to be revealed on Wednesday.

Then, a few weeks ago in her talk-to-the-camera segment the 22-year-old from Charleston, South Carolina, comes out with:

"I think I have a couple of places where the anger comes from. I've had a lot of sadness, a lot of hurt. You know I think being adopted gave me some issues, you know, abandonment issues