As suggested by her
and with permission
Megan sent an email to Redfern detailing extremely personal information about me (much of which was untrue or distorted) and claiming that HB 2904 "is targeted at LDSFS." This statement is absolutely false. Since Megan's email (as has other correspondence of her with Mrs. Redfern) has likely hit the blogosphere, I'm responding here.
I don't know why Megan wrote this email. I do not believe it was out of malice.
I've written before about how HB 2904 came about. Here's a recap: A couple of years ago, I read a glowing article about adoption and an adoption attorney/ adoptee in the Oregon State Bar Bulletin. Because I thought that the Bulletin should provide a more balanced picture of adoption, I asked Lorraine to assist me in a response. I researched Oregon adoption laws and together we wrote an article and submitted it to the Bulletin. It became obvious from my research that Oregon Laws were titled towards adopting parents resulting in the needless break up Oregon families.
The Bulletin rejected our article, but it did it print a shorter version as a Letter to the Editor. This caught the attention of Portland attorney, Eli Stutsman, who invited me to work with him on reforming the laws. Stutsman's interest came from representing, Janette, a mother attempting to undo the adoption of her son. Her case was dismissed because the Court of Appeals held she had not filed it in time--even though she had filed it within the year allowed by an Oregon statute. The agency involved in Janette's case was not in any way connected with LDSFS or the LDS Church. I contacted friends in the adoption community and we put together a coalition of birth mothers, adoptees, adoptive parents, and others and voila, we had a movement. At no time while I was working on the legislation or anything connected with it did I even consider LDSFS or the Mormon Church. They never entered into the discussion. To my knowledge only one of the birth mothers in our group surrendered through LDSFS.
Once word of our bill got around, however, attacks began with much of the noise coming from members of the Mormon community, as we wrote here, including the aforementioned post on Redfern's blog. We responded to these attacks which resulted in more attacks and Megan's email to Redfern purporting to explain my "hatred" of the the Mormon Church. As Lorraine and I have stated, we have no issues with Mormon doctrine. Now we are being attacked at other blogs for not posting all of the nasty and ill-informed comments we have received; frankly, we are tired of responding to the misstatement of facts, but feel the need to respond if we post such a comment. We also did not post the few comments we received with personal information about Mrs. Redfern, or Desha Wood, the LDS birth mother-adoption advocate who, sources have told us, is the woman whose interview appears at Mrs. Redfern's blog. Unfortunately the Mormon question has become a distraction to the real issue, the protection of mothers if they are considering relinquishing their parental rights. The reasons for the bill, HB 2904, are simple:
- Oregon mothers and their infants are separated needlessly because mothers do not have adequate information and sufficient time to make informed decisions about adoption.
- Child Welfare experts agree that the birth family constitutes the preferred means of providing family life for children.
- Assuring mothers have adequate information and sufficient time to make informed decisions promotes stability in adoptive relationships.--Jane
- A Note about the books above: The Gift Wrapped in Sorrow: A Mother's Quest for Healingis an honest and moving account about surrender by a birth mother; Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience looks at adoption from all sides of the triange: adoptee (which author BJ Lifton was) birth mother and adoptive parents. Both highly recommended for anyone wishing to better grasp the lifelong ramifications of any surrender and adoption.
- and a last note: We are not going to post personal comments about Lindsey Redfern.