With incredible saccharin, the twisted logic continues: "Here is a woman who, against her insanely strong motherly instinct realized that she couldn't provide the best life possible for her child, and so was willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for her daughter. ...She's a mother who loves her child so much, she's willing to endure agonizing heartbreak to give that child the best opportunities in life."
The story, actually it's more of an advertisement than a news story, came from a video by Utah photographer Jared Fadel entitled--hold your intestines--"The Gift / an adoption story."
Amber was a single mother of two children in 2012 when she became pregnant and contacted LDS Family Services, the adoption arm of the Mormon Church, and an outspoken opponent of adoption reform. Amber returned to her "heavenly father"--went back to the Church in Mormon speak--according to her well-coiffured grandmother. Granny and Amber's less well-coiffured mother explained that adoption was best because Amber couldn't care for three kids. Why these Church-going maternal antecedents didn't step up to help Amber and her kids remains unexplained. The film ends in 2012, shortly after the hand-off with everyone a big happy family.
The Globe didn't bother to update the story even though its audience would naturally want to know about Amber's incredible let down that accompanies giving away your new born infant. According to its website, the Globe is an online only media created to "represent and be the best source people go to for interesting stories on the internet." We note that accuracy is not one of its goals.
The website goes on to say that the Globe founders, three close friends from Stanford, UC Berkeley, and UPenn, "focused on the best hand-curated content." I don't know what "hand-curated content is" but I know this story is a piece of something else.
I'm a lawyer, not a journalist but when I see a snow job disguised as reporting, I have to think it is journalistic malpractice. In fact, this is not real journalism--this is an advertisement for mothers to give up their children--because they love them. The writer who was not named took the story from Fadel's video and fell for it hook, line, and sinker. No mention is made of the lifelong grief that follows giving up a child, or that adoption experts agree that mothers should keep their babies if at possible.
The story concludes by asking readers what they think of Amber's decision. FMF asks its readers to email the Globe and tell those elite school graduates what they think of this adoption promo piece.--jane
Post script. One of our readers wrote us that Amber had no idea this article was being written. Our reader also led us to the website of the adoptive parents, www.utahmillers.com. If your'e a glutton for punishment, take a look. All the usual garbage, loving decision, the baby was meant to be their daughter, God's hands were all over it, yada, yada.
By the way, I've never understood why God moves babies from one mother to another. Why can't God get it straight in the first place and put the baby in the right womb?
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The Thousand Autumns of Jacob de Zoet: A Novel by David Mitchell
Not the usual kind of book we recommend here, one of those books you are reading because it is a fabulous and Wham! out of nowhere comes an incident that takes separation of child and mother to a new and horrifying height. I had no idea when I picked up this book last year--I did because I'd read good things about the writer and it was about an era and a place I knew little about. The novel is set at the turn of the century in 1799 on the man-made island in Nagasaki harbor, Japan's window on the outside world for two centuries. Mitchell compresses the actual events in a decade in a single year, the effect of which heightens the two hermetic worlds he is writing about. One is Japan (the Thousand Autumns of the title), the other is the equally hierarchical feudal society on the little island if Dejima of Dutch traders, servants and a few slaves--and a fascinating woman caught between the two. Spoilers would destroy the pleasure of coming upon the story by yourself.
Mitchell, incidentally, is a fabulous, smart writer and wrote Black Swan Green and Cloud Atlas. I gave up on the movie but friends say the book is great. He is one of the most interesting writers of the decade. This is not a fast read, but this a book you will not forget.--lorraine
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