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Friday, October 22, 2010

Adoptive Parents Ask: What Could They Do?


Christopher Sutton’s mother gave him up so that he could have a better life; instead he will spend his life in a Florida penitentiary for the August 22, 2004 murder of his adoptive mother and attempted murder of his adoptive father.

Here’s the facts as presented on Dateline  and South Florida News. John and Susan Sutton brought Christopher home two days after his birth on April 13, 1979. Seven years later, the Suttons adopted a daughter, Melissa.

John Sutton was a successful trial lawyer. The family lived in an affluent neighborhood near Miami; the children did not lack for love or material comforts. Christopher, however, was trouble from an early age. He got into fights even as early as preschool and committed acts of vandalism. As a teenager, he dealt drugs. His parents sent him to boarding schools where he was expelled for bad behavior.

When Christopher was 16, his parents hired thugs to take him to Paradise Cove in Western Samoa, a boot camp program specializing in “behavior modification” operated by the World Wide Association of Specialty Programs and Schools (WWASP). John Sutton said he investigated the program which cost $25,000 a year, “rather thoroughly.”

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for SelfWWASP’s programs were punitive and brutal; Paradise Cove was closed in 1998.  When Christopher turned 18, he was entitled to be released from Paradise Cove. However John Sutton obtained a court order--something he knew how to do because he was an attorney--to keep Christopher in Samoa until he completed the program. Christopher returned to Florida on his 19th birthday.

Christopher’s behavior improved after his return. His parents bought him a $300,000 condominium and helped him start a business. The business failed and Christopher went back to dealing drugs.

According to prosecutors, Christopher hired one of his drug customers, Garrett Kopp, to kill his parents. Kopp admitted shooting them and testified against Christopher. Prosecutors argued that Christopher’s motive was revenge against his parents for sending him to Samoa and an expectation of inheriting a large sum of money. Christopher denied the charges, claiming Kopp shot his parents on his own when he entered the house looking for drugs. The jury found Christopher guilty on July 21, 2010. The judge sentenced him to life in prison without the possibility of parole.

What else could we do?" John Sutton, who was blinded in the murder attempt, asked Dateline reporter Keith Morrison? "Those other people that went to Samoa, they didn't kill people."

65 comments :

  1. I hope there's an interview with Chris as to what his childhood - at home and at school - was like. Did he feel abandoned, rejected?

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    1. His dad was a horrible ambulance chaser. Makes me sick- Christopher was sent to prison island at the time in his life undoubtedly the pain of it started to creep up. Breaks my heart.

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    2. Really his dad is awesome!and his mom! Nobody deserves to die! What he did was wrong! Omg! Jail apparently is where he belongs....

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    3. Of course what he did was wrong. But so was sending your child to a place that is much worse than jail:

      https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thefix.com/content/evan-ebel-murder-colorado-police-chief-paradise-cove8162%3famp

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    4. Am I the omly one who thinks the killer (sociopath) went in for the drugs - $7000 value, plus jewelry etc. - and the 13 phone calls were his way of tracking Christopher's location ? I mean he is crazy enough to brandish the murder weapon THE NEXT DAY ! Christopher offering the movie tickets too readily is a little wierd but thay is the way the scapegoat child of a family behaves - defensive.

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    5. It is obvious there was a problem with Christopher sutton, emotionally and mentally. Adoption in itself is a gamble. The Sutton's were too busy with their careers to handle a disturbed child. He was out of control then sent away and discarded at bootcamp when they saw out out of control is behavior had grown into. He held a lot of repressed anger ( also probably toward his birth mother as well.) He hung out with the "Killer" for hire. They were thick as thieves. Christopher was dealing with anger out of control and was given a condo of $300,000 and a business and blew it. With them dead he could have it all. Instead John Sutton lived and is blind. Chris Sutton was a detriment to society even as a young man. (He sold drugs and vandalized his parents and others) He belongs behind bars and needs to stop lying. The truth will set you free.

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  2. Interesting. So, the child was adopted, acted out and was angry and upset and no one seemed to see the connection? Very interesting, I will be looking forward to the sequel on this one.

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    1. You need a reality check woman! wow! That woman didn't deserve to die and he didnt deserve to go blind...

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    2. And Christopher didn't deserve to go to Torture Island. The point is that adoptive parents need to understand adoption issues and find help for their troubled child. It's tragic that the Suttons didn't do this. Perhaps they were mislead by the adoption agency into believing that adopting is just like having your own child. We hope this learning about this case will help others seeking to adopt or dealing with a difficult adopted child.

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    3. This guy was adopted days old. He lived in the SAME environment as his adopted sister. Yes, there can be inherited mental health issues but many adopted children have behavior issues as do biological children. What amazes me is why do people bother adopting children and then send them off to boarding schools? There is abuse in our public schools so I find it interesting that people in hindsight are so “knowledgeable” about “Torture Island”. I can assure you that as a school psychologist for over 20 years that a child doesn’t need to be adopted to have severe behavior problems.

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    4. I agree just watched it on Dateline for what he did acting out wasn't really bad I've done worse to be honest with you it's a shame the kid got screwed all the way around from his real mom, then they adopt him and they too abandoned him at a prison camp they should have left him in the system he would have been better off

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  3. What a sad, sad story. I have never wanted to kill my adoptive parents. Other people for sure, but not my adoptive parents.

    I struggled with suicidal ideation for years in my twenties though, I guess that is just the otherside of the coin. On that topic, I can without a doubt my adoption was the driving force behind that. I have no clue what the opposite, forcing your anger on to others in that way would feel like. Scary stuff.

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  4. It is a very sad story. What could his parents do differently is a good question. Not knowing all of the facts, I will say the one thing that seems clear is that whatever “help” his parents were willing to provide him they wanted it done far away from them, Rejection on top of rejection.

    Yeah, other kids went through that program and didn’t kill people, so obviously the parents MUST have made the right choice. What kind of logic was that?

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    1. I'm really wondering if he ever cared for his son really? I could be wrong. It almost looks like he was more worried about how it makes him look, and had no time for him.

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  5. Wait a minute. How could this boy have problems with being adopted? He was placed when he was only 2 days old. That should be the same as being raised by his first parents. NOT!

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    1. Exactly, maybe he was just born like that. He had loving parent that adopted him imo

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    2. Why do you assume the family life was loving? Do you assume that because the father is an attorney and the boy was raised in an affluent neighborhood in Miami?

      I see the family life as problematic and I see red flags with the mother's behavior. According to the segment, the mother left her job to be a stay at home mother. But, yet, she had the time to carry on an extra marital affair with her husband's law partner?

      This whole situation stinks. That poor boy probably never felt loved. Money doesn't substitute for love.

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  6. @Sunday, actually, since I grew up in foster care in an era when those "camps" were a big thing, I can tell you that it wasn't just the parents in the end. However, if you have problems with a child, sending them away and isolating them from their families does not make the situation better.

    You blend in the surrender rejection of the natural parent, no matter the reason, and you have a beautiful blend of damaged child from adoption. Further meld in more damage from the second adoption (the younger sister) and subsequent isolation from the adoptive family, and yet again, the brutality that is inherent in those camps...

    Psychopath cocktail - yummy, just what the kid needed and just want the world needed....

    It amazes me how much they left out of that mess. And worse, how much they blame on the natural parents and not the rejection of the supposed "forever" family.

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  7. OH I read a lot more about this WWSP, really sad. I no longer can believe the adoptive father's assertion that he researched it thoroughly. I saw one claim that the adoptive father became the atty for the "program"

    How much the initial kidnapping and helplessness must resemble the experience of relinquishment. I would love to know what percentage of those kids are adopted.

    I also thought it was curious that the good adoptee of the family made a point of adoption being a non-issue for her, I wonder where that came from?

    Not that any of that excuses murder.

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    1. Because he was discarded. Twice. She wasn't. I totally relate to him. I hate my adoptive parents. And thankfully for them, I had no mental illness. Because since I was 7, I dreamt of killing them. Never tried. Instead, I moved far as soon as I was of age. My sister is the perfect one. The one they never sent away like trash. She can keep them and their money.

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    2. Wow, this is a good reason never to adopt, it's like playing Russian roulette. 7 year olds dreaming of killing their adopters, wow!

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    3. nnennem yea thts intense!! Nobody deserves to die...

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  8. Joy, I did not realize there was a good adoptee and a bad adoptee in this situation. I remember from Nancy Verrier's work that this is a very common scenario when there are two adopted children in a family.

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  9. "Christopher Sutton’s mother gave him up so that he could have a better life."
    Does anybody know anything about his original family and why he was made available for adoption?

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    1. Did anyone else see how much he resembled the adoptive father? The look-a-like is uncanny. DANA test should be done. I have my own suspicions why Chris was adopted.

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  10. @ Lori, me too. I agree with you. My point was that bad “therapy” doesn’t or rather shouldn’t have to lead to murder to be found BAD. Apparently I need to work on how my sarcasm comes off in type. ; )

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  11. This sounds so much like my son's story, although he didn't kill anyone and isn't in prison right now. Of course I only got his side, never spoke to his a-parents. He admits he had problems from the get-go, ended up in a mental institution for evaluation at 13 (he doesn't know his diagnosis, in fact insists he was declared healthy), then sent to group homes, in other words his parents washed their hands of him. He only finished 8th grade, spent much of his teen years on the street, which is where he got into dealing drugs and other crimes (and did spend some time in jail).

    This story is very sad. Personally, I feel that adoption is to blame. No matter how the a-parents handle it, it's still a loss, a trauma. Some adoptees fare better than others. Because of the a-parents? Because of how they're wired to deal with the loss?

    I don't know. I don't like what the parents in this story did, sending the boy away, making him stay. But could the outcome still have been the same? We'll never know.

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  12. I am a birth mother as well as a former adoptee and this thread breaks my heart. This situation could have happened to any family - adoption or not. I believe without a doubt that the parents were uneducated on how to facilitate healing in their sons loss but then again weren't most adoptive parents during this time frame? Aren't many still uneducated today? There are families who have natural born children who act out and get "sent away" and deal with all the same kind of struggles. They weren't adopted so who's to blame there? It is too easy to cop out and say that it is all the aparents fault but I'm sorry people don't just kill people because they had bad parents. If you are ill enough to take another person's life there are clinical issues at play. To some extent there is nothing these parents could have done besides seek treatment. They may have gone about it the wrong way (boot camp vs psychiatrist) but they tried given the worldview that they had in front of them. Any of us put in their shoes could have done the same thing. A woman lost her life here, does that mean nothing? I guess it is her fault her son killed her because she was such a bad mother.

    If my son were to grow up and kill his adoptive parents I would first and foremost be devastated and second I would in no way blame his parents. Every parent has their flaws and we are all just as screwed up as the next but I don't think bad parenting (aside from flat out abuse/manipulation/emotionally disturbed parenting) can cause someone to become a psychopathic killer. I'm sorry but give these people some credit. This man lost his wife! It is a sad awful situation all around and talking about these people like they were some kind of monsters because they sent they're 16 year old son to boot camp is highly disrespectful and rather ignorant.

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    1. Well said, couldn't have said it better myself.

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    2. Justice for Christopher.

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  13. Anon,

    Read the post which follows this one (October 23, 2010). You'll see that we say clearly that Chris' adoptive parents were not to blame for the tragedy. They did not know (and most adoptive parents then did not know and many today do not know) that adoption can trigger many problems. Adopted adolescents have a higher rate of delinquency and drug abuse and suicide. Obviously, there are causative other factors besides adoption when problems arise.

    Adoption can trigger problems because adoptees may not fit in their adoptive families and the original abandonment may cause low self esteem and fear of rejection. In Chris' cases, for example, he did not have the academic skills his adoptive father expected of his son.

    We did not fault the Suttons although they did the worst possible thing in sending him to a brutal camp far from home. We hope that adoptive parents can learn from the work of David Kirschner and other researchers.

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  14. One thing that I have not seen mentioned or considered I found out about this case from watching an hour long program on TV. They sent him to the boarding school in Samoa only after discovering that he had a written plan to murder his parents for the inheritance! They immediately got a restraining order against him and sent him away a couple weeks after that. I really feel this boy was a sociopath from a young age, and d I do not believe that as of now there are any treatments (medical or psychological) that would have made him a decent human being. People seem to be criticizing the parents here but what can you do if your own child wants to kill you. Let alone doing it solely for money. The family let him back into their lives after he got back from Samoa and showed a lot of trust him, and took care of him financially. Nothing they could have done would have ever been enough for this sick and twisted and young man.

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    1. I agree. There is something wrong with Christopher Sutton.

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  15. dear anonymous..i am an adoptive mother and it hurt me to read that you hate your adoptive parents and have cut them out of your life. Is there something they did to make you feel this way? i feel like my adoptive son doesn't like me. What can you tell me if anything, to help me understand what my adoptive son needs from me that i am not giving him. thank you

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  16. any advice for an adoptive mother who's son doesn't like her. what can i do to turn this around? he is 16.

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  17. I have watched this feature on investigation discovery and read up online. Christopher was taken to a number of psychiatrists and doctors. Dropping him in a boarding school in Samoa was a last resort. He had threatened his mum and sister with a gun, and written a letter saying he was going to kill his parents for money at 16. I really believe the parents were misinformed and thought they were helping him straighten out. He had been diagnosed a sociopath even before he was sent to samoa. I'm sorry but being adopted at 2days old is not an excuse for what he did. He wasn't even living with them anymore! Why cause so much pain and hurt? What happened to cutting them off and moving on? He and his fiancee were working for them and were at a celebratory dinner at their home that night knowing what they had planned. It is apalling to say the least.

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  18. All of the story is so very sad.
    What i found interesting is that from my own perspective, I ALWAYS wished that i had been an adopted child; i.e. truly wanted. It seems like these parents hearts were in the right place and the daughter attests to this.

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  19. "He had threatened his mum and sister with a gun, and written a letter saying he was going to kill his parents for money at 16. I really believe the parents were misinformed and thought they were helping him straighten out. He had been diagnosed a sociopath even before he was sent to samoa." ALL the above information came from his father after the shooting. No evidence -- not the letter nor a statement from whomever supposedly diagnosed him as a sociopath -- was ever offered as evidence. Christopher said he never lived up to his dad's expectations, that whatever he did, whatever grades he got were never good enough. If adopted at age 2 days, why was he told at a young age that he was adopted? And, more importantly, HOW was he told? In a fit of rage from his father when he'd disappointed his father?

    His father is a high profile attorney in the South Florida area and has a lot of influence in the political and legal circles. That's obvious just from the fact that he could get a judge to sign an Order to keep Christopher in Samoa even after he'd turned 18. Christopher wasn't told about having to stay another year until his 18th birthday, the day he thought he was going home!

    Christopher's father was the attorney for the "camp" in Samoa and fought against having it shut down, even after many other boys and their parents brought lawsuits against the camp for the maltreatment of the boys there.

    The guy who was the shooter was Christopher' accuser. Christopher was convicted on solely circumstantial evidence: The words of an already convicted killer who is serving less time than Christopher!!!!!

    He, in fact, got VERY good grades all through school but they were never good enough for his father.

    His father went into the courtroom as if he needed someone to help him, going with the "I've been blinded." He WAS blind in ONE eye and customarily wore a patch over that eye, except when he went into Court for Christopher's trial, knowing the TV cameras would be there. He was continuing to practice law. Furthermore, out of the courtroom, he didn't need anyone to help him even cross the street! He'd been told many, many months before the trial that he could have surgery to regain his sight. BUT he choose to wait until AFTER the trial to have the surgery. It wouldn't have gleaned him as much sympathy if he could see then, now would it?

    I'd guess there is soooo much more to this bad treatment by his father that we may never know. However, maybe one day it all will come out.

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    1. The main thing he did wrong was bring a sociopath home as a son.

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    2. He is not blinded in one eye, it's both eyes that hes blinded in, one is just shot out. He donates money for research to restore his sight so I doubt he would do that if he was blind in one eye. He has to walk with his hand on someone's shoulder wherever he goes. He can't even cry because the bullets took out his tear ducts along with severing his optic nerves. Im sure they weren't perfect parents, none of us are, but did they deserve to be shot dead?
      I don't believe the son.....he set the whole thing up

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    3. I feel the same way that there is more to the story of Chris and his adoptive dad. Much of the truth, even for tv was downplayed because of who His dad is. Not sticking up for Chris and what he has done but his dad is a Narcissist human being.

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    4. This statement is a complete lie. John Sutton remains almost conpletely blinded and has lost his autonomy for ever. He has given up all hope of having his vision restored via surgery as the medical advances necessary are unlikely to happen within his lifetime. Although he continues to practice law his life will forever remain altered. The man can't even eat a meal without assistance and still does not patch his eye. Please stop lying.

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    5. Y'all hit it on the head . He wants that kid gone and his wife ? Adopted or not when you have a baby that you raise as your child the love is unconditional!!! And in some cases more so. That father should have been by his son all the way regardless ,he should have made the court find his son guilty without a dought. And that piece of shit birth mother! Where TF are you? Why did she not step up? There where checks made to her? Y'all need to get off what they are drilling and do the math. I'm tired of being quit, I'll probably get hit by a car tommorow.

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  20. I just saw a 48 hours episode on this, and what had the biggest impact on me was the difference in the response of Chris's father and Garett Kopp's father. Chris's father said he doesn't love him anymore, and Garett's father was sobbing for his son, even though he knew he was a murderer. Such an incredible difference, so sad!

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    1. The difference I see is that Kopp didnt shoot his mum but a stranger really. Can you not see how that is a huge difference? If he shot his father' wife and killed her, maybe he won't be professing his love.

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    2. if i where on the situation of Garrett Kopp`s father i guess i would act like him but if i where on the same boot of chris`s father i would also act the same as him also,

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    3. if i where on the situation of Garrett Kopp`s father i guess i would act like him but if i where on the same boot of chris`s father i would also act the same as him also,

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  21. Emotionally abused by foster childrenFebruary 18, 2015 at 3:44 PM

    There is no good reason for murder. Period.

    Christopher was the prototypical spoiled "cute" kid. He reminds me, unfortunately, of my ex-fiance's fostered/adopted son.

    Yes, he was shaken as a child.

    Yes, he has numerous tragic circumstances -- as do many, many human beings, to one degree or another.

    But there seems to be some kind of attachment to cruelty present in some -- regardless of being fostered and/or adopted.

    In this child's case, he killed a bird to watch it die. He attacks his adoptive father, throws rocks at him, and woe is my ex-fiance if he doesn't cater to this child's every whim.

    I worry about my ex-fiance.

    I worry about him, because I fear (and I know he does as well) that one or both of his fostered/and adopted children could possibly harm him for numerous reasons (including an inheritance).

    I entered into my relationship with my ex-fiance with a full and loving willingness to embrace these children as my own.

    I cooked for them, dried their tears, sat through at times numerous, difficult hours of homework.......

    And, given the emotional (and physical - by the boy) abuse that I was.subjected to (by both of them), as well as the abuse heaped upon my ex-fiance (that I witnessed firsthand), I lost any desire to have children in this lifetime -- adoptive or otherwise.

    And so, there are always two sides to the parent-children stories.

    As I recall from my own childhood, a child can be rather cruel as well. And, as Shakespeare stated, "Good wombs have oft borne bad fruit."

    Neither the biological nor the adoptive parents are necessarily to blame.

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  22. Actually a number of kids from the same Samoan camp Christopher went to did commit murder.http://www.thefix.com/content/evan-ebel-murder-colorado-police-chief-paradise-cove8162?page=all

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  23. Nature vs nurture? Who were the biological aren't sand what is their character? Sometimes brains are hard wired from birth and sociopathic or psychopathic behaviour is their norm. Nurture can only do so much if nature is stronger.

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  24. John Sutton is a wonderful man. His son was a spoiled entitled brat and came up with this scheme on his own. It has nothing to do with his being adopted. He's a criminal, nothing more nothing less.

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  25. This case is way more complicated than what I realized from a one-hour TV show. Chris was convicted on solely circumstantial evidence, and years later still proclaimed his innocence. Maybe he is innocent. I followed the disappearance and murder of 7-year-old Danielle van Dam in San Diego in 2002, for which her neighbor David Westerfield was convicted. He, too, was convicted on solely circumstantial evidence and still proclaims his innocence, and I believe he is innocent -based on the evidence (mostly the LACK of physical evidence). Even before Westerfield was arrested, Danielle’s parents believed he was guilty - simply because the police believed him guilty. So maybe that’s why Chris’s father believed him guilty.

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  26. I challenge anyone interested in this to research Paradise Cove. I question any parents willing to send their children to a place like that. Regardless of whether the son is guilty. Seems like there were problems in this family (not just with their child, but with the whole family unit) loooong before the terrible crimes in this case occurred. An entirely sad situation all around.

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    1. Exactly. I've read up on Paradise Cove & anyone in their right mind would know that such a place would only aggravate things. It sounds bad enough to turn a sane person into a sociopath.

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  27. Yes, raising a troubled child is beyond difficult. But forcing them to a place that physically & mentally abuses them is obviously only going to aggravate their anger. This place (worse than prison) can only be described as hell & NO human deserves to be sent there:

    https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thefix.com/content/evan-ebel-murder-colorado-police-chief-paradise-cove8162%3famp

    Murder is inexcusable but so is sending your child to the above.

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    1. Excellent point regardless the parents forced him to e place where he was abused.

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  28. Yes, raising a troubled child is beyond difficult. But forcing them to a place that physically & mentally abuses them is obviously only going to aggravate their anger. This place (worse than prison) can only be described as hell & NO human deserves to be sent there:

    https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thefix.com/content/evan-ebel-murder-colorado-police-chief-paradise-cove8162%3famp

    Murder is inexcusable but so is sending your child to the above.

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  29. A biggest misconception about adoption is the assumption that a child is given up for adoption by his natural parents to receive a better life. This assumption is not true because in a large number of cases a child is giving in exchange of money, to hide the fact that the mother was pregnant, to hide the identity of the parents or, and very common, the fact that the child is brought to the family to give the appearance of a perfect marriage where the mother or the father are not fertile to procreated (father, mother and child) regardless of the well being of the child. Before a child is adopted probably the mother or the father struggled with psychological issues dealing with social pressure and stigmas of why the couple has not conceive a child. For a woman the fact that she is incapable to procreate creates a trauma because she is incapable to develop the natural role of a woman of procreation.

    Another misconception about adoption is that once the child is given for adoption his conduct will be exemplary as a gratitude for the rest of his life to his adopted parents but this is far away from reality. The reality is that the adopted parents will have to deal with the same responsibility of fatherhood as a natural parents but why you see in adoption, in a large number of adoption cases, once a child give some indications of behavioral problems the adopted parents will panic and in some cases taken the position that they do not want the child anymore and want to return the child as if the child was a piece of use merchandise that can be exchanged to the adoptive agency, the natural mother or others. There is a case in which the child was put in a airplane and returned to his original country. In cases of adoption the parents are willing and ready to adopt but they are not willing and ready to deal with responsibility attach to the adoption and once a problem comes they look for solution outside the home to solve the problem such as boarding school. Once the appearance of a perfect family is created a lot of the inside issues are covered up to give the impression that the family is normally functioning and problems such as infidelity, drugs use or similar are not revealed to others to protect the falsely image that everything is normal. Why we can question the behavior of a natural mother when she is unfaithful but is a case of a adopted mother the conduct is relevant in front of the adopted children. And the adopted child because of his "subordinate position" as adopted has to keep his voice silence because he will be label as an "ungrateful" adopted child. I have witnessed myself a parent of an adopted child calling him a bastard, and in another case creating an innuendo saying that a three year old girl was dancing because she probably blood from a whore was running in the girl's vain; I reported the adopted mother to a government social worker. All this elements are in the case of Christopher Sutton. To make a judgment about his behavior we need to see inside the family dynamics and we will find the answer to many unsolved questions. Finally, there are exemplary adoptions cases but we can not deny that adoption has an stigma created by the secrecy of what took place before the child was removed from his natural mother. It is time to develop some guidelines to protect the rights of adopted children.

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  30. They bought him a 300 thousand dollar condo at a young age. That was an unfortunate decision on their part.

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  31. I see a lot of people saying the parents did a bad thing by sending him to Samoa. I have news for you, none of you have every dealt with a child that refuses to follow rules ie selling and dealing drugs out of your home. My husband and I finally let our son go into state custody at 16 where he stayed until 18. Laws in some states even go as far as prohibiting drug treatment or mental health treatment with licensed professionals even after the age of 14. Before everyone jumps on and says we are 'bad' parents...we have 4 other happy and well adjusted children (3 are adults with great professions). A child that is dealing/doing drugs out of the home are a danger to themselves and their families. Everyone points the finger, but their are no resources for those of us with an adolescent with mental health issues, thanks to state laws.

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  32. WHY and again WHY we are assuming that "Christopher Sutton’s mother gave him up so that he could have a better life". Where this come from when we don't know the facts about Christopher's adaptation. He could have taken from the hospital because the adopted mother previously worked in a hospital who probably knew how to take the child away from the mother after birth. This could be a valid assumption too. No one has talked about this fact. A DNA test probably would tell us about Christopher's blood parents--he looks just like his adopted father.

    NO ALL CHILD ARE GIVEN FOR ADOPTION TO HAVE A BETTER LIFE. INSTEAD IT IS COMMON THAT A CHILD IS REMOVED FROM THE MOTHER WITH THE INTENTION TO FILL AN EMPTY SPACE IN A COUPLE UNABLE TO HAVE ONE. THIS IS NOT AN ASSUMPTION THIS IS REALITY AND THEEY ARE WILLING TO PAY A HIGH PRICE IN ORDER TO HAVE A CHILD.

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  33. I've read many articles lately stating that these boots camps had employees that were raping the kids there. Maybe Christopher was, and that was the basis of his rage when he came back home. Also many male adoptees do become violent, and it's because they feel rejected by their mothers and/or they hate their adopters and blame her because they have to live with them. I think this young man deserves another trial, and I think adoptee trauma should be considered a reason why so many of us snap. He needs counseling imo, not a jail cell. It's obvious his adopters were abusive as well, and you know, you reap what you sow..

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  34. I totally agree that he deserves another trial considering that his father is a well-known lawyer in Florida with a lot of influence in his favor. In addition the parents care more about the appearance of having a perfect marriage using Christopehr at any cost.

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