' [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: PS: To the Terri Vanech story

Friday, July 15, 2011

PS: To the Terri Vanech story

No, we did not find her mother yet.

I posted her guest post (see below, or Adoptee learns to live out loud by finding herself)  late last night but forgot to add how Terri and I became acquainted. After reading another story of hers about her growing need to find her biological parents, I wrote about her in Adopted People Are Not Allowed Ancestry Because It Might Upset Somebody.  She found the blog, contacted me, and thus began a friendship. She was born in 1966, the same year as my daughter, whom most of you know committed suicide. The fact that Terri was the same age as my daughter added a special poignancy to our friendship.

I put her in touch with a searcher friend, also Jennifer, who tried, but she could not find the "Jennifer" she was looking for. Later later, Terri wrote a piece for Newsday that I put up as a permanent page: Looking for my birth mother. 

1 comment :

  1. Wow, so much good stuff to read! I'll have to look at it all again, and study it, when I'm more fresh and alert!

    I just now followed the link and did a quick skim [Oh, yeah, a skim is quick!] of the November 3, 2009, "Adopted People Are Not Allowed Ancestry Because It Might Upset Somebody," and, I must say, it was quite funny [besides, of course, informative and educational]. I actually, for REAL, laughed at least 3 times. Thanks!

    Laughter is the best medicine - along with search and reunion! Laughter follows healing! Yes, it does!


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