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Daniel Mallory Ortberg
aka Prudence |
Daniel Mallory Ortberg, the 32-year-old child of evangelical pastors, spews advice under the name "Prudence" in Slate Magazine. His skill as a writer -- nothing more --qualifies him to dig into the human heart and mind, and thus he's an advice columnist at Slate. Ortberg has no children. He transitioned from female and says he identifies as queer but has dated women. His experience is far removed from a) being adopted; and b) being a woman who gave up a child. And he makes no attempt to walk in their shoes. It's all sliced-and-diced contractually, with no attempt to understand. Well, then, neither did Ann Landers, or her sister, Dear Abby, when it came to adoption.
Nonetheless, Ortberg, aka
Prudence, has no problem telling a womAn who identifies herself as "What Do I Owe Her?" who had just been found by the daughter surrendered to adoption over 30 years earlier that "
you do not need to tell her anything and, in fact I'm inclined to think you shouldn't have any further communication with her." (Emphasis his)
What Do I Owe Her? explains that the daughter is the product of years of sexual abuse by her half brother. She says she feels nothing for the girl and doesn't want a relationship. She concludes with "I have told no one in my current life about my past. You are the only one I can tell."
