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| Lorraine |
Adoptees often write that they feel that they are responsible for their first mothers' reunion happiness. Some write that they do not want to be the person always in charge of another person's joy or grief. One of our regular commentors, adoptee Dpen wrote:
"Regardless of the situation...in the end the tears fall like boulders on the adopted ones. Not allowed to show our grief as it may be hurtful to one or both of our mothers...no matter how we feel, no matter where are loyalties might or might not be we are judged as not being good enough, compassionate enough, and yes, [not] good enough to anyone. We were born, adopted, lived and grow up "being adopted" and we are not able to voice OUR realities without SOMEONE trying to manipulate the story to make THEIR situation better, to MAKE us feel or do certain things to make the mothers feel better.
Anyone wonder why we may be a little angry at times?"
