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| Lorraine |
My birth mother doesn't respond/ why does my birth mother reject
contact/ birth mother rejects contact... must be among the saddest words
on earth to type into Google. And then the person finds First Mother
Forum and we are all about wanting a solid, good, reasonable
relationship with the children we relinquished, and we are torn apart
when they reject us. Or put us through what seem like unreasonable
paces.
Carrie, an adoptee who
found FMF the other day, wanted to know why some mothers reject contact
from the children they gave up for adoption, as her mother did.
Carrie's not the only one to face this, as we've heard this many times
before. Every time my friend who is a confidential intermediary in a
partially "open" state is in the middle of a search-and-reunion, she
expresses fear that one side or the other will reject
contact, and she cannot pass on the contact information. Carrie asked if
I would write a letter to all those first/birth mothers who reject
contact and reunion. It's a hard assignment because I'm not in their
mind set, but here goes:
